[Resi]

For those who co-sleep or have in the past give me your tips and advise. Do you lay them next to you? Do you have a sleep positioner that goes in bed with you? Do you let baby sleep on his/her side if they fall asleep this way? I have a co-sleeper that attaches to the bed but it doesn't work with our bed. I get nervous thinking he might stop breathing or something. After no sleep last night he finally fell asleep around 5 AM next to me in bed. We slept like this for 3 hours (I woke up every hour or so). When we woke up at 8 AM I fed him and we napped again for a couple hours. Again.. I wasn't in a deep sleep and kept waking up. Last night I tried getting him to sleep on my chest and it didn't work. I guess it worked in the early morning next to me though.. My plan for the day is to nurse him and lay down in bed with him to nap. I'm hoping to get some more sleep because who knows what will happen tonight.

[LisanAndy]

When I coslept with Taylor we put her right between us in the bed without a pillow. I was very aware of her still and she slept 3-4 hours at a time. I also got her onto somewhat of a schedule before bed. At around 1 month old I kept her as awake as I could from 7 PM on and she'd usually zonk out around 10 or so. She'd sleep until 1, have a bottle and stay up for an hour, sometimes 2, go back to bed until 5 and stay up until nap time which was hard to get her to do. She NEVER wanted to nap and was always fussy no matter what I did. She felt comfortable being close to me at bed time, feeling my breath.. I'd also sing very lightly to her, rock her in the rocking chair, walk back and forth with her, cradle her with me sitting up and her on my knees and sway back and forth and it would make her drowzy. It's SOO difficult the 1st few months, I totally remember, and to be completely honest I'm dreading having those troubles again but it DOES get easier. Around 2-3 months old, if you've developed a routine. Taylor had her bath and bottle and woke up once a night (didn't stay up long, just enough to have a bottle) until around 7-8 months and now completely sleeps through the night from 7:30 PM till 6 or 7 AM. Praying it gets easier soon hun!

[lauren in hi]

I never really co-slept with Abby, but I did fall asleep nursing her or giving her bottles before. Sometimes it was while sitting up on the sofa or recliner. But I also fell asleep w/ her on our spare bed before and she did just fine. I think if you remove anything hazardous (blanket, pillow, etc.) it would be okay. Or do you have a little basinette you could try? Some babies don't like the spaciousness of cribs.

GL, hon. I second Lisa when I say that it will get easier in time.

[TheOtherMichelle]

I just happened to see this post and also wanted to suggest a bassinet. It might help if you could pull it right next to your side of the bed and put your hand in it next to him. We used one for the first 5 months and it worked great for us.

Oh, and another thing that helped me was to recline in the corner of the couch with a boppy pillow. I did this at night while nursing and we'd both end up falling asleep. I would wake up an hour or so later and she was deep enough that I could put her back down. The way I did it was perfectly safe and so I could relax, and was comfy enough to fall asleep.

[thepinkleprechaun]

When Aden was a newborn she had to sleep with me because I was too paranoid to actually fall asleep if she wasn't right there in front of my face!

I slept on my side, and she slept on her back or on her side with her face near my face. I did use a pillow and one blanket, and it was never a problem. I barely even moved when I slept, sometimes I would roll over onto my back but I was always aware of what I was doing. I usually had her swaddled in a blanket as well.

Whenever she slept with me she would sleep for 4 hours, nurse, go back to sleep for another 4 hours, etc. When we tried to put her in a pack n play or bassinet...not so much. She might sleep for like 2 hours and then start fussing.


Just do whatever feels natural and comfortable to you! And don't worry too much, co sleeping is perfectly safe

[Alison81]

I used a pillow to block her in, as well as a sleep positioner to keep her from rolling. It worked really well, and eventually I took the sleep positioner away, as it was a lot easier to just roll over and nurse her when she woke up.

[ScottishBrit]

I feel your pain, BELIEVE me!!!!!


I wound up giving up and co-sleeping cause Cambria NEVER slept!!! We put a pillow between both our legs, I lay on my right side and swaddle her and nurse her with her laying on her back. I tried turning her to her side but she would always go back to her back so I just gave up. I never really get a full nights sleep cause Im always checking on her but she snuggles into me between my arm pit and breast.My right arm is up out of her way. I lay on my side or back all night. DH was afraid to squish her at first but he's aware she's there and stays away form her. Ive gotton sooooooooooooooooooooo much more sleep this way. She'll wake maybe twice in the night to nurse. But for a week now she'll go to bed before midnight ( Ive tried getting her to sleep early but she wont ) and wake at 6 to eat and go back to bed till 9 sometimes 10. BUT she doesn't nap during the day at all.... Ive tried moving her into her pack and play after she falls asleep but she always wakes up so I just leave her in bed....I hope this works for you!!!! Check out the AP board and see what they say too

[Emma&Jack's Momma]

We co-slept for the first 13 months (until I stopped breastfeeding) and she slept like a dream. We used a basinett but she only slept in there until she was bout 6 weeks old. After that, we co-slept every night. I didn't even try her crib until 13 months old! I layed on my side and she slept in the middle of the bed (until she was old enough to roll) on her back. I never move when I sleep anyways, but I was always aware of where SHE was and when she was moving. I regret moving her to her own bed so late but I loved co-sleeping. It was really hard to move her that late because she was so used to being in the bed with mommy