[soImarriedAnerd]

So I had some o pains late last night/early morning today (my time). so I thought I better check to see If maybe just maybe my body decided to jump back in the TTC game. So I took an OPK tonight....


THATS A POSITIVE!!!

OMG---I didn't really think my body would bounce back this quick...Its such a huge weight off my shoulders. *exhales a sigh of relief*. Now I am a little lost and need some healthy people thinking. I KNOW my doctor said to wait one cycle. When I asked him why he said for dating purpose....I asked him if there was any other reason....he said NO. SO my question is......if I'm charting and have OPKs can't I just date off of those and an ultrasound later on(this is my nurse brain thinking)? If that's his only reason Why should I wait, because my body says its go time.
Now my other, and more pressing issue, Troy wants a little break. I can see why he wants one, but I don't want one. I don't want to say my needs are more important, but I also don't want to say his needs are more important. so we are kind of at a stale mate. When I ask him he says its because he isn't ready to do the first trimester again. Ok I know he had to eat dinner on his own more, and I wanted to sleep more,,,,,,but its not like he was the one throwing up and sick. So since I want to start and He wants to wait.....I just don't know what to do.....any advice ladies? I need some advice, because I know I think things out to much....so my question....
DH wants to Wait, I want to start.....who's to say who is right?


I feel I NEED to start right now...waiting is not a great idea to me right now......
I also want to wait for troy's sake....but I don't think I really can.......
I am having a battle in my head and this OPK has brought it out even more....I don't know what to do....I want to be pregnant...Like NOW.

Awwww sweetie. No one can tell you what to do. My strongest advice would be to ask Troy if he would be willing to compromise to skipping this cycle and trying next? Or "go with the flow" this cycle and try properly next?

It's a toughie... you don't want to feel resentful for waiting but you don't want him to feel resentful for trying. There's no win/win outcome unless you talk it through and express your feelings in no uncertain terms.

[thepinkleprechaun]

Awww hun I think you should talk to him and tell him you really feel like you can start again now. I mean, it's your body and only you can know if you're ready! Of course he has a say in it, but just talk to him.


I'm not SURE if that is positive or not, it still looks a little too light...maybe you will be Oing today or tonight!!

[Frozendesire]

There is NO reason for you NOT to get pregnant right now (medically I mean, Troy aside). Your body is obviously ready to go. They'll just do an early ultra sound (Not to sure if you are comfy with this though?) to determine dates. Earlier the better as the dates are more accurate. That's what I think anyways!

I don't know if there is anything we can say to help you figure out TTC timing with Troy. I really think you need to tell him how important it is to you to not take a break, and then listening to his wants/needs as well and come to an agreement together. There could be lots of resentment either way and I'm sure you don't want that. So everyone needs to be on the same page. I hope you guys can figure things out!

[Patriciamomofboys]

Did you tell him that you feel you need to start trying?

[Kiwi]

Do you think Troy might be a little scared that the same thing may happen this time around? Perhaps that is way he's wanting to wait so he can prepaire himself mentally for TTC again?

Noone here can tell you what's right - you guys have to decide that for yourself. So ditto to all the above, just sit down and have a heart to heart with your man and see what happens, I guess.

BIG HUGS xx

[ScottishBrit]

I say do what YOU want to do. It looks like you bodys ready and I dont think theres any need for you to not get started again. I would say unless you want your body to recover a bit more then go for it...

[petalfuzz]

I think you should try and go for it. Convincing Troy, you could say that you didn't get preggers the first cycle last time, so you might not get preggers this one. But you don't want to miss out on your chances for even one month. There are no guarantees in life, and you never know until you try. Good luck!

[~* Helen *~]

Thats a positive !!!!!

Good luck sweetie and talk to Troy.

[soImarriedAnerd]

I 100% want to do it!!!!!!!!!!!!!

We talked some.....I agreed not to over talk my chart and TTC and he agreed to BD some
So we got at least one in tonight!

And in case we have lurkers who are reading and wondering, because I know I was nervous about it........DTD it didn't hurt. I guess I was wondering if it would post procedure...2 weeks later though (we just never did it till now), I couldn't tell any difference *another sigh of relief*

[Kiwi]

Glad you guys came to a compromise!

The OPK is deffo positive, no doubting it.

I'm so pleased you guys had a talk and got some jiggy!

Sounds like a good compromise Angela I was going to suggest that if you feel ready, you should go for it, because his apprehension after your loss may be permanent until you reahc a certain stage in pregnancy anyways. What I mean is, Dustin is cautious about us just b/c it took us so long, and no amount of taking longer would have relieved that for him, kwim? So I was going to suggest that you talk to him and compromise so that you can try now. But you already did which I think is great!

[Frozendesire]

MIchelle brings up a great point!

I'm glad things are going well though and you guys came to an agreement!

[LisanAndy]

Oooo baby dust!!!

[Mars]

Good luck!!!

[Alison81]

Good luck! I think compromising, and just not preventing, is a good idea. That way you're not actively TTC, but it can still happen. I know ever since my loss at 14 weeks, I'd feel horribly depressed preventing pregnancy, so I don't, but there is no TTC going on either. It's a good compromise.

I'm glad your body is bouncing back Angela, I wish you TONS of luck and HEALTHY STICKY !!

[soImarriedAnerd]

Sometime I need to use My WHOLE brain (wannabe mom AND nurse)....
Facts:
--HCG is a glycoprotein hormone secreted by developing placenta shortly after implantation. To have a positive HPT you must have 20mIU/mL hCG in your urine.

--Luteinizing Hormone is a glycoprotein hormone released by the pituitary gland, a small gland at the base of the brain. The hormone stimulates the ovaries to produce and release eggs each month during the menstrual cycle.

--The hCG level drops after the pregnancy tissue is removed during the D&C (or natural passing miscarriage) It must drop to zero before your cycles resume. Although the length of time it takes for this to occur depends predominantly on the value of hCG present before the miscarriage, hCG suppression of the pituitary gland usually subsides within two weeks. Once the hCG levels fall, your pituitary gland begins secreting the stimulatory hormones LH and FSH, and ovulation resumes. If the hCG levels were low at the time of the D&C, normal ovulation can return about two to three weeks after the D&C. Alternatively, if the fall in hCG is delayed, the first ovulation may occur three to six weeks later. As ovulation occurs two weeks before the menstrual period, you can, in fact, get pregnant before your first post-D&C menstrual period.


So what do these lovely facts tell me.....
If you have hCG in your system you will have a positive OPK (tests for LH). Because the way that the OPKs work...they actually are looking for presence of glycoprotein hormones. So my "positive" OPKs are nothing more then left over pregnancy hormones. I'm not ovulating yet. After getting one negative OPK this morning, but then another positive one tonight I knew my brain was kidding itself. I then took a HPT....yep still a faint (but THERE) positive. My body isn't bouncing back as soon as I would like it to. But I did have some light O pains, my cervix is soft and high and I'm having globs of EWCM....so I have NO idea what my body is doing right now *sigh*