[ShannonMVT]

Well some people at work are letting the cat out of the bag with my pregnancy. I know it's partly my fault because I did tell a few people at work and maybe I told too many.

But today I had one of my supervisors ask how I was feeling. I told her okay and she gave me a knowing look and said "someone" had told her I was expecting a baby. So I smiled, said yes, and chit chatted with her. Not a huge deal.

Well THEN I go to the other lab and one of my coworkers that I just told recently told said "oh I told G" (different person from the supervisor) and I'm like "WHY?! I told you I wasn't telling everyone yet. Don't tell anyone else!" So then G becomes the first person to put their hand on my belly without asking. Ugh. Then asks if I go to church and tells me I shouldn't tell people yet and just let the baby grow. Umm...whatever. Anyway, it was a separate person that told the supervisor but I don't know who.

I'm really annoyed now. There is no telling how fast word will get out now. #1 It was not their news to tell. I wanted to be the one to be able to tell everyone and now I have no clue who knows and who doesn't. #2 I told everyone who knew that I wanted to wait until the 2nd trimester to tell everyone. These people know I've had a previous loss so I figured they would keep their mouths shut. Guess not.

Now I feel like I'm going to tell people and they'll be all "oh I already knew that". I thought about going ahead and annoucing it on Wed since I don't know if there will anyone who DOESN'T know 3 weeks from now. I don't know.

I know this seems kind of petty but I'm just really annoyed right now. With myself for thinking this wouldn't happen and with the people who are telling for being such blabbermouths. It may not seem like a big deal but I've been looking forward to getting to announce this for FOREVER since I was TTC for so long.

[lauren in hi]

Aww, Shannon, I don't blame you; I'd be annoyed too! When it's something like that, it is not their news to share...they should let you do it! (((HUGS)))

[alicenwonderland]

I'm sorry this is happening. I learned (recently) that I can't say anything to anyone without it getting around to EVERYONE.

[ShannonMVT]

Well at the risk of sounding like a bgitch, I sent out an email to most of the people who are in the know.

"For those of you who know my big news, I know you are all happy for me, but I'd like to ask that you please not tell anyone else right now. Although I am very excited (which is why I had to tell a few people!), I am also somewhat cautious because of my previous miscarriage. I would like to be in my 2nd trimester and to have seen my doctor one more time before telling everyone in the lab. Also, I'd like to have the "fun" of sharing my good news.

Thank you all for being a support to me.

Shannon"

I think that is pretty diplomatic but gets the point across?

[Mod-LadyCoconut]

Ugh people suck. I'd be really upset and pissed off too. That is YOUR news to share! The email sounds good to me!

[soImarriedAnerd]

Yeah I learned you can't tell anyone if you don't want everyone to know. Its sucks.

I completely see where your coming from!! I was be soooo poed!

[petalfuzz]

I totally understand! How dare these people you told blab to everyone!

When I was in High school, someone came up to me and said, "Guess who's pregnant?!" And I guessed Mrs X. "Who told you!!" No one, I figured it out. The girl then stomped off in a huff because she didn't get the reaction from me she wanted. People love blabbing because it makes them feel superior to know some juicy tidbit that you don't. They're shallow idiots!

That's so unfair people told other people. I can understand why you are annoyed. Your email is worded perfectly! Well done!

I would be so irritated too. What did you end up doing? I liked those candy hearts from before

[ShannonMVT]

Well I had a couple people email me back saying they understood and their lips were sealed. I talked to the guy who I know told someone and he promised not to say anything else.

No one else has come up and congratulated me so maybe that means not everyone knows yet. Or else they do but aren't saying anything.

I still plan to do the candy heart cookies after my next OB visit on Oct. 30. So just a couple more weeks to wait!

[Adriana's Mommy]

I would be irritated too.. I learned from my first pregnancy not to tell that many people until I'm in my second trimester.. It's not because of people knowing I'm pregnant, but it's the comments people make about what can happen in the first trimester.. I know some women who miscarried and when they tell you not to get to excited, it hurts.. That's something a pregnant woman does not want to hear, especially when it's their first pregnancy..

[Mod-LadyCoconut]

Yummm... cookies...

[alicenwonderland]

I think your e-mail sounded perfect. I'm glad it seems to be working out well.

[*Anna*]

Wow I wouldve been so upset! I hope everyone respects your wishes for the next couple weeks.
Oh probably known- but we're going to need to see pics of your special treats before your co-workers eat them

[Garfieldbear]

I know exactly how you feel......my sister told my father that I was pregnant before I got a chance to, and my aunt told my cousin (who I am close to) before I did (and my mom told my aunt before I did!) You can't trust anybody when it comes to pregnancy, everyone thinks that they have a right to tell someone else

[lauren in hi]

Glad the email worked, Shannon.

I know exactly how you feel......my sister told my father that I was pregnant before I got a chance to, and my aunt told my cousin (who I am close to) before I did (and my mom told my aunt before I did!) You can't trust anybody when it comes to pregnancy, everyone thinks that they have a right to tell someone else [/b]

Well, I wanted to tell my brother myself but since Brant wasn't telling his brother when we told our parents, I thought it would be only fair not to tell mine. And I told my parents not to say anything, but of course I didn't say not to my brother. My dad ended up mentioning it to him, though, 'cause my parents had been away when I got my BFP and of course my brother picked them up at the airport.

I'm sorry, Jenn, that you had so many people tell your good news before you could!