So this is kind of awkward. Has anyone ever noticed how insensitive some preggos can be sometimes? Especially ones that have had a hard time conceiving once they do get pregnant? Well now I think I get it (as I feel myself veering towards insensitivity), and I feel alarmed. Does anyone have any idea what I am talking about? LOL

[ShannonMVT]

I do know what you are talking about. I try to be careful not to be insensitive but I have had a couple of times when I thought I needed to put my foot in my mouth.

Do you think it is because those who have trouble are then SO excited about being pregnant that they just become oblivious to anything but their happy pregnancy? Or do you think it is just pregnesia and they forget what it was like when they were TTC?

For what it's worth Michelle, I haven't seen this in you. And I don't think it really happens to every person who struggles with infertility and then becomes pregnant. But I have seen it happen now and then.

[IamMom]

I haven't seen this in either of you two - Michelle or Shannon - or really anyone else on the grads board (I just love it here and that's why )...but I know what you are talking about. It's like when the geeky girl finally becomes a cool girl and she starts teasing the rest of the geeky girls left behind (anyone seen Jawbreaker or Mean Girls).....these girls are so excited to be cool and be mean that they don't care how its making those still geeky feel....well maybe this isn't the best comparison but you know what I mean....but don't worry anyway you two - you are totally gracious and supportive preggos!!!

It happened in my DDC, very normal I think.

[Garfieldbear]

I guess I'm not exactly sure what you are talking about....it depends on the situation. I know for me, I try not to flaunt my pregnancy....especially if I know someone who is TTC. I'm very quiet about my pregnancy, except on this board maybe.....I still remember, very very clearly, what infertility was like for me....I still think about those days when I peed on a stick relentlessly only to see the negative outcome....but I am extremely happy and proud that I am pregnant, maybe if you gave a specific example I might know whether or not I do it sometimes.

[~* Helen *~]

It must be normal because its like what ShannonMVT said, to be honest I have noticed it in anyone here.

I think I am already forgetting. It can be easy to forget, especially since my attitude had changed a lot right before I got a bfp.

I wish I could explain it better, but my head is foggy

[*JenJen*]

I understand what you mean.

I noticed in my DDC, that when some girls would complain about their pregnancy, or "how long" it took them to get pregnant, some girl who went through a difficult time getting pregnant (truly) would make a snide comment. It was hard, but as someone on the outside, I could see that it was only because she remembered how hard her journey was.

One time, a girl made a kind of mean comment to a fellow member, only to learn that it took that member over a year to get pregnant. Oops- foot in mouth!

[BambolinaItaliana]

i don't know if i am writing this because i never had the hard time of falling, but i see where you are coming from. but at the same time i don't think you should put a dimmer on your shine! i mean you know what that was like, how hard it was and everything, so you should be happy! your right you should be careful towards others who are going through a difficult time, but excited all the same!!! i never thought anyone has been insensitive!!! you girls are great!!!!

[Mars]

I haven't noticed any insensitivity in you ladies and I certainly hope that I've never been insensitive to anyone even though it didn't take me very long to conceive. For me, I would like for all the ladies here to become pregnant and have healthy babies because I believe that they/you all will make wonderful parents.

I've never quite noticed any preggos (especially those who's had a challenging time conceiving) being mean to others but I have noticed persons getting upset with persons (who were trying for a long time) for complaining about their symptoms. I don't see why you can't vent/complain about your symptoms just because it took you a long time to get a BFP. I don't think that the person is not grateful. I just think that it is, as I like to call it, a case of those symptoms that you will love to hate.

[BambolinaItaliana]

I just think that it is, as I like to call it, a case of those symptoms that you will love to hate.[/b]

said just right!!!!!

[LaLaRose3]

I understand what you are saying Michelle. And for what its worth- you have not veered toward insensitivity as far as I have seen. I think it is pretty normal though, as Bre said.