[soImarriedAnerd]

I have a friend who's husband recently told her that her 4yr old should not be kissing mom on the lips anymore because it was in appropriate. So since I still kiss my mom on the lips (and did my dad also till he died), I found that a strange thing for him to say.
Troy how ever also thinks its "different" but nothing strange or weird or inappropriate---but then he thinks tons about my family is "different" (which I would also if I was raised at his house! )
So NOT doing a debate I would just like to hear your thoughts/experiences on it.

[*Mrs.J.2011*]

I kissed mom and dad on the lips til I was prob 4ish. My best friends son is 2 and insists on kissing me on the lips but that will stop once he is a certain age. IMO I think it gets to be somewhat strange when kids are around 7-8. Chris and I saw a girl the other day, she was prob 16-17 kiss an older guy on the lips and we kept saying "I hope thats her boyfriend and not her father" but he was older so who knows. It just wierds me out to see..

This has been a big discussion in our house for a while! Dustin grew up kissing family on the lips, and he still does most of the time (his mom, nana and sister). It's like a quick peck. When I first saw he did this, I was horrified We just never did that growing up, at all. So I don't want to do that with our kids, but then, I don't want to go ape crazy if my in-laws show their affection that way. So I have grown more used to it but I am still unsure. I probably won't do it with my kids b/c from my upbringing kissing on the lips is a sensual activity. I just can't get past that b/c of how I was raised! But then I don't want to be the only one that doesn't kiss on the lips, so maybe I should give in. I dunno, we will see! LOL

[~Jess~]

Yes, I grew up kissing on the lips as a small child & I kiss my kiddos on the lips (and head & nose & cheeks & tummy, lol). I think it should stop when/if it becomes uncomfortable. I don't think it's inappropriate though. There's nothing at all sexy about a grandma kissing her granddaughter on the mouth, lol.

I kissed my parents on the lips until I was probably 7 or 8, can't really remember though. Just a quick peck. I don't think its inappropriate until one of the parties feels weird about it, and it's usually the child when they go through that "Eww, mom, you're embarrassing me!" phase, which also includes public hugs, holding hands, and being around their friends too much

Both DH and I kiss Reid on the lips sometimes. It just feels natural right now.

[soImarriedAnerd]

This has been a big discussion in our house for a while! Dustin grew up kissing family on the lips, and he still does most of the time (his mom, nana and sister). It's like a quick peck. When I first saw he did this, I was horrified We just never did that growing up, at all. So I don't want to do that with our kids, but then, I don't want to go ape crazy if my in-laws show their affection that way. So I have grown more used to it but I am still unsure. I probably won't do it with my kids b/c from my upbringing kissing on the lips is a sensual activity. I just can't get past that b/c of how I was raised! But then I don't want to be the only one that doesn't kiss on the lips, so maybe I should give in. I dunno, we will see! LOL[/b]

You sound just like Troy! He now is not sure what to do sense he doesn't want to be the one NOT doing it. lol I guess I see it as if one parent is uncomfortable then the child will know that and stop doing it on their own. I did go through a phase where it was "icky parents" but that included the hugs and everything also like breanna said, but when the hugs came back so did the kisses for me. I didn't even realize people found it weird/gross/odd or inappropriate till lately! LOL So i'm sure I was one who got people talking when I kissed my dad as an adult, and I promise week had a 100% appropriate father/daughter relationship. For us it never hit an uncomfortable level so we all just didn't stop. And its my whole family to. I can see if someone is uncomfortable to stop though.


In my mind its really not a sensual thing...I could honestly say if I liked someone I could easily kiss them like that, probably even strangers. I know I have done quick kisses with others (men and women not family) right in front of troy even, its really not a sexy thing to me. He never has said anything and doesn't seemed phased by it either, when I asked him about this the other day he just said "yeah so its another way you hug, I know that". I have to admit though after what I learned this last month about how others view it I'm all self conscious about it and wonder if I will keep it up!

So now anytime any of you meet me in person are you going to be thinking of this topic!
Pucker up girls! xoxoxoxox

LOL. Yeah, I don't think it is inappropriate in general, I just grew up in a household where we were taught that it was. So it is hard to shake that. But I don't think it is wrong/gross when DH and his family do it, and I won't really stop them if they do it to our kid b/c it's not like they are doing something bad. Peer pressure eh? LOL I can honestly say though, I have never had the urge to kiss anyone other then boyfriends on the lips. Not even babies. That's what those chubby cheeks are for! What's funny is when I have a friend or meet someone that does kiss on the lips, and once they swoop in I try to crane my head away in a "friendly" way, which never works so I just give in and get kissed. It's not that the kiss feels weird, it is the thought of it that does Really it would be easier to just give in lol

[soImarriedAnerd]

LOL. Yeah, I don't think it is inappropriate in general, I just grew up in a household where we were taught that it was. So it is hard to shake that. But I don't think it is wrong/gross when DH and his family do it, and I won't really stop them if they do it to our kid b/c it's not like they are doing something bad. Peer pressure eh? LOL I can honestly say though, I have never had the urge to kiss anyone other then boyfriends on the lips. Not even babies. That's what those chubby cheeks are for! What's funny is when I have a friend or meet someone that does kiss on the lips, and once they swoop in I try to crane my head away in a "friendly" way, which never works so I just give in and get kissed. It's not that the kiss feels weird, it is the thought of it that does Really it would be easier to just give in lol[/b]

Thats right give in to it! *kiss kiss kiss kiss* LMAO!

[Hoosier Kitty]

I'm with Angela... I grew up quick kiss peck on lips. My grandfather and I are the only one who share quick peck on both cheek then on lip then hug ever since I was a little girl. the rest of my family we hug then quick peck on half lip with cheek touching each other.. did i make sense? My family are very affectionate and believe in hugging when we arrive and leave.. if you leave without hug and quick peck, there's something wrong!

[greeneyes]

My mom has always kissed me on the lips, even now as an adult. I don't like it, she licks her lips right before she kisses people and it's gross. My mom is also well-known for her inappropriate PDAs, so lip kissing is just the tip of the iceberg. She also hugs my husband too tight and for too long and tends to let her hands drop to his butt.

I think the reason I think it is inappropriate is due in large part to my mom's behavior. Perhaps if I saw someone doing it has a loving, quick peck, appropriate parent-child kiss, I would feel differently. As of now, I kiss Lily on the lips (and anywhere else I can land a quick kissy!) and will do so until she tells me not to.

[Resi]

I grew up kissing family members on the lips. It still is done once in awhile. I don't see anything wrong with it. It's not a sexual thing to me. I kiss Oliver on the lips all the time!

[Miracle]

I grew up doing it but I'm kinda uncomfortable about it now because I'm a germ freak. I don't do it anymore. I kiss Gabriella on the lips but it really grosses me out when I see my mom doing it- in my opinion it should just be me and DH who are allowed to kiss her on the mouth.

My family is really close and tries to share everything- drinks, chapstick, etc... but I don't like sharing mine at all. I get mad when DH does, too, because then he's going to give me other people's germs.

[**jessie**]

Yep, I grew up kissing family members (parents and grandparents). I don't remember when I stopped kissing family on the lips, but I am guessing 13/14. I still kiss on the cheeks as an adult, just because it's natural for me. But I also usually kiss friends on the cheek if I haven't seen them for ages. My family is also always hugging- DH finds that so weird. His family shakes hands which is way weird for me!

[Mars]

I probably did as a kid but I don't have any memories of doing it. I have kissed my nephews and nieces on the lips but only when they were little. They all grew to a point where they thought kissing was gross (the I'd never kiss a boy/girl phase, LOL!) and they stopped so that's when it stopped. I'll probably do it with my kids but when they reach the phase where they think it's gross too, then I'd stop.

[thepinkleprechaun]

I NEVER kissed my parents, and after about age 10 or so I rarely ever hugged my dad. Or even my mom for that matter. But I know my family is going to be MUCH different, and I kiss Aden on the lips all the time, she gives me kisses and I think it's adorable! I don't know if there's a certain age where I wouldn't feel comfortable doing it or not. I guess we'll see!

[petalfuzz]

I kissed my parents on the lips until about 11 or 12? Puberty changed everything in my family though, as soon as his daughters were mature, my dad stopped giving us affection. So to this day, no hugs, no kisses, not even a handshake. And it's very awkward to hug my sister--last time we tried it was a side-ways one and we ended up bumping heads.

I plan on being super affectionate to my kids to compensate

[ShannonMVT]

We did on the lips kisses and then at some point it evolved to on the cheek, not sure when. I will kiss my kids on the lips and maybe at some point it will become on the cheek, we'll have to see how it goes.

Funny story though, when I was really little my mom would tell me to "go give uncle Larry some sugar" (yes I'm from the south) and I didn't want to I guess, maybe because he had facial hair? Dunno. So I'd give him a kiss on the cheek but tell him "I gave you sugar but it was ROTTEN sugar". I still get teased about that from time to time about how I used to give rotten sugar.

[*vi]

I don't see a problem with it. I know I have (both of my parent and my grandma too). and I bet I will do that with my kids.

[.Brandi.]

I still kiss my mom and grandma on the lips and I kiss my boys on the lips. Not my dad or my brother. My brother doesn't like to be kissed, but I kiss him on the cheek, I feel on the mouth would be weird. And I don't kiss my dad on the lips because he thinks that stuff is weird between dad/daughter. But he kisses his mom on the lips. I don't know, my dad does even really hug me, he just gives me a side hug. Makes me sad.

I don't think it's inappropriate at any age, but young boys might think it's weird when they are around their friends. But that's up to them, I think the children call the shots on that side of it.

[ANGWife]

Never did, and don't plan to with our children. To each his own.