Curiosity Q for the ttc'ers

**jessie** · #1 January 4th, 2009, 03:59 AM

Just curious...
Have you told anyone that you are ttc? Do either of your parents know?
Do you talk about ttc with friends/family?

Have you told anyone that you are ttc? Do either of your parents know?
Our parents do not know. I think my parents will be thrilled once we announce a pregnancy, but they might not be too keen on the ttc part. They think I should be concentrating fully on these last few months of school and then getting a career started. I have told a few of my friends... probably about 8 of them (6 from school) and I think my SIL has caught on. She's very perceptive, lol. I'm not sure if DH has told any of his friends, but I doubt it.

Do you talk about ttc with friends/family?
No, not really. I tend to be a rather private person and don't like to share a lot about personal stuff. Plus most of my friends just are not in that stage of their lives to really understand what I am going through. One of my classmates is pregnant now, and I told her that we were ttc. I know she is trying to be supportive but she is always going on about how it only took her one month, 10 days actually, and that there is no reason that it should take me any longer... it's kind of upsetting more than anything else.

ANGWife · #2 January 4th, 2009, 05:10 AM

The only people we told about TTC was my coworkers (not included you girls!). No one knew when I stopped BCP like almost a year BEFORE TTC. I didn't want the pressure of everyone asking us. I could handle, "so when are you gonna have kids?" But I wouldn't have liked, "So anything YET?"

alicenwonderland · #3 January 4th, 2009, 05:19 AM

Have you told anyone that you are ttc? Do either of your parents know?
We kept it a secret at first. I didn't think my parents would be supportive because I'm so young. We only told them this month. Around Christmas my baby sister applied to be an exchange student in Germany for the entire year. My father and I went out to breakfast like we usually do when we both have a day off. He mentioned how upset my mom was about Hannah leaving for the year, and inquired about whether there would be any grandkids soon to distract her. I almost started crying. I was just honest and told him that we had been trying since summer. Having my parents know makes it easier. Now when I'm upset I can go cry on mom's shoulder. Because they know we're having trouble, there's no awkward questions.
The friends have known for a while now.

**jessie** · #4 January 4th, 2009, 05:41 AM

Morgan, those are my feelings exactly! I didn't tell anyone at all up until one month ago. I was talking on IM with one of my friends that recently found out about ttc (she actually overheard it when I was telling someone else)... it took about 10 minutes before she asked if I was pregnant yet. I almost screamed!!!

*JenJen* · #5 January 4th, 2009, 05:58 AM

Have you told anyone that you are ttc? Do either of your parents know?My mom knows, I told her this summer after she kept asking when we were going to have kids....my BIL and SIL know, because we are super close with them(she even offered to be a surrogate if we need). Most of our friends here know because when you have as many appts at OBGYN as I have had, you are either pregnant or trying to get pregnant...only one friend in the states knows, and thats because she knows me as well as my husband does, lol
Do you talk about ttc with friends/family?not really. I've stopped talking about it a lot.

*kyle* · #6 January 4th, 2009, 08:22 AM

Have you told anyone that you are ttc? Do either of your parents know? Unfortunately, every dang person in our lives knows because we told everyone when we were PG. Then we had to go around and tell everyone that we were no longer PG. Of course, everyone assumes that we'll still be trying because we were so happy about the BFP. I fricken' hate it, especially my mom. Every time I talk to her, she's hinting that I might have some "big news" to share. So our conversations go something like: "So what's new with you guys?" "Nothing really, mom." "Well, is there anything exciting going on?" "No, mom" "Well, if there was something exciting going on, would you tell me?" "We're not pregnant, mom."

Do you talk about ttc with friends/family? Not if I can help it.

~Caroline~ · #7 January 4th, 2009, 09:43 AM

Have you told anyone that you are ttc? Do either of your parents know?
Our parents don't know. We really want them to be surprised. My mom has grandbaby fever and she's constantly asking me when we're going to start trying. I tell her we'll start thinking about it soon, but I'd never give her a date or tell her we're actually trying. Two of my friends know we're trying.

Do you talk about ttc with friends/family?
Not much. I talk about it a little bit with one of the two friends who knows (she's going to start trying this year), but I don't see her that often.

Lash · #8 January 4th, 2009, 10:11 AM

They know.. and it sucks.

My inlaws though are the worst. They also think I should think more positively, pray and just relax and I'll get pregnant. I told them to F Off and left over it the day after Christmas. They told me to stop researching and get my head out of it. SURE. That will help my progesterone levels I'm sure. Just think happy thoughts. How about a spoonful of sugar to go with it?

..Christine.. · #9 January 4th, 2009, 11:31 AM

My mom and sister know were are trying. My dad has no idea- and I plan to keep it that way. DH's brother and SIL know and they are very excited! A few co- workers know we are trying but as for everyone else- we are keeping it to ourselves.

I tend to talk about it more then I realize!

A*LOT*OF*HOPE · #10 January 4th, 2009, 12:53 PM

Have you told anyone that you are ttc? Do either of your parents know?
A lot of people know we are trying!! All my co workers know, it was hard to keep it from them when I would have to leave work for dr appts or my DR would call me at work!! I am a pretty open person and have a great support system at work!! My 3 best friends know as well as a couple of DH's friends!! My mom also knows and my sister kinda knows, but my dad doesn't and neither does anyone else in my family!!

Do you talk about ttc with friends/family?
I have to talk about it or I will go crazy!! My mom and I talk about it daily!!! I also talk to my BFF"S about it daily as well!!! My mom is a wonderful person to talk to!! She is very patient and keeps me grouned and levelheaded!! Never once would she say "you pregnant yet" or anything of that nature, she is very supportive!!

#11 January 4th, 2009, 06:04 PM

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Have you told anyone that you are ttc? Do either of your parents know? Unfortunately, every dang person in our lives knows because we told everyone when we were PG. Then we had to go around and tell everyone that we were no longer PG. Of course, everyone assumes that we'll still be trying because we were so happy about the BFP. I fricken' hate it, especially my mom. Every time I talk to her, she's hinting that I might have some "big news" to share. So our conversations go something like: "So what's new with you guys?" "Nothing really, mom." "Well, is there anything exciting going on?" "No, mom" "Well, if there was something exciting going on, would you tell me?" "We're not pregnant, mom."

Do you talk about ttc with friends/family? Not if I can help it.[/b]

Ugh, sorry you have to deal with that. I'll bacon flog your mama if you want

ShannonMVT · #12 January 4th, 2009, 06:18 PM

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They know.. and it sucks.

My inlaws though are the worst. They also think I should think more positively, pray and just relax and I'll get pregnant. I told them to F Off and left over it the day after Christmas. They told me to stop researching and get my head out of it. SURE. That will help my progesterone levels I'm sure. Just think happy thoughts. How about a spoonful of sugar to go with it?[/b]

*huggles* I got a lot of that from my in-laws. Uggggh! They kept telling us to go on a vacation, blah blah. I almost wished that I could have something "wrong" show up on all the testing that Dh and I did so that they could know it wasn't just because I wasn't "relaxing" enough. Blech.

Have you told anyone that you are ttc? Do either of your parents know?

My mom knew after about one cycle.

I'm very close to her and I didn't mind her knowing. She was a big support to me. Friends, family all knew after my miscarriage. It was good in some ways because I didn't get a bunch of questions about when we would have kids. But on the flip side, after a number of months the inlaws got annoying. (see above)

Do you talk about ttc with friends/family?

Mostly I did with my mom. She was in a 2ww with me for a lot of the months we were trying. Not in an annoying way, just that I would call each month and cry on her shoulder so to speak and she would encourage me.

*Anna* · #13 January 4th, 2009, 06:24 PM

We never told anyone... for one reason only... I never wanted the pressure if it didn't happen for a while... and to have fam and friends say "so are you pregnant yet?" No thanks.

My BFF knew we were a few months from trying... and when we did get preggo, everyone was super surprised!!!!!!!!!

I wouldn't do it any other way next time either!

amazing_love · #14 January 5th, 2009, 10:26 AM

Have you told anyone that you are ttc? Do either of your parents know?
We have not told anybody, including my parents. We want them to be surprised and plus we wanted to do it on our own without a bunch a unnecessary comments from others. I know my mom would be supportive but i'm sure she'd let it slip to someone.

Do you talk about ttc with friends/family?
Definitely not. Sometimes pregnancy topics will come up and i'll talk about it with my family. My little sisters think they know things, so i'll set them straight and give them the facts about different times of month including ovulation and pregnancy, etc. I'm sure they wonder how i know so much though.

♥Ashley♥ · #15 January 5th, 2009, 10:57 AM

Have you told anyone that you are ttc? Do either of your parents know? Like Kyle said, unfortunately alot of people know who I would never want to know. Because when I got pregnant we told everyone, and then had to go back and tell them that I had a miscarriage. My mom knows because of that, but we never got around to telling his parents because we were going to surprise them on Christmas but I miscarried before then.

Do you talk about ttc with friends/family? Nope. No way!