[**Jenn**]

I feel a lot of pressure to have a girl next. Everyone says the next one "better be a girl!." Ian and I are the only ones it seems that don't have a preference either way, we just want a baby! Now of course I would love to have a daughter but I would be equally thrilled with another little boy. It's everyone else that I'm hearing it from. The comments actually started when we found out Lochlann was a boy. And not just from family but from complete strangers as well. I got that look of pity and the comments of how horrible two little boys are going to be. I can just imagine what will be thrown at me if we have another boy! This is what is making me not want to find out the gender or if we do keep it a secret from everyone else until the baby is born. Ian isn't to keen on that idea though. Even my little Liam constantly says how he wants a baby sister. It's been stressful enough just trying to get a baby. When we do get pregnant and if its a boy I know the comments will just crush me because I want this baby so much and I will hate to hear anything negative about it. I know I'm worrying about it too much and there really isn't anything I can do about it. I guess I just need to come up with some good responses to the negative comments.

[Resi]

It's seems like when someone already has two children of the same sex everyone assumes the third should be the opposite sex. I think that not telling everyone the sex of the baby is the best idea. If Ian won't go for that then I would just say that you wanted to add another child to your family and the sex does not matter. I can see how you would feel the pressure.

[.Brandi.]

I don't get the gender disappointment from everyone else. Instead I get the disappointment from others when they hear I want more children. For some reason everyone thought I was on my death-bed when I was pregnant with Preston. My belly got big like everyone else's when they get pregnant but for some reason my family thought it was too much. I was fine, just tired. I mean, I did have a 2 and 1/2 year old child to care for.

[alicenwonderland]

I have 3 sisters and no brothers. After the third girl, everyone assumed my parents would want a boy. When people asked they would just say nah we hope its a girl and already have a girl's name picked out. Let's keep it the same girl's are what we know.

Just be honest with people about how you feel.

Honestly if I wanted to I would find out the sex and not tell anyone. I hate those comments!! Keep your thoughts to yourself is my thought!!

[~Jess~]

Who cares what other ppl think? If you have a boy, you'll be in for loads of fun! God will give you the child you're meant to have. I actually really really wanted a 3rd boy and yeah, ppl looked at me sideways a bit when I'd say that I was disappointed over it being a girl, but after a couple minutes, they'd be laughing with me about it. Then again, I'm a bit of a loon and I don't care who knows it, lol.

[szczepanski]

I don't know why people would say that to you...its not like it would be YOUR fault if you got a 3rd boy! They should direct those comments to DH.

[Mars]

It's hard when people say those things but just tell them that you're not as hung up on a gender as they are and all you care for is a healthy baby. Hopefully that should shut them up.

This is O/T but I remember when I was pregnant and I said I wanted an unmedicated, natural birth, people wanted to tell me about labour pain or painful deliveries. It got to a point where I just said, "If you don't have a good story to tell me then I don't want to hear it."

[**Jenn**]

Thanks ladies! I know I should just tune them all out but it gets hard when I hear it almost every day! My MIL says it all the time how the next "needs" to be a girl. Ian and I always have to tell her she can't be disappointed if the next is a boy. Plus on my Dad's side there are 5 great grandchildren (including my 2) and they're all boys so they're all itching for someone to have a girl! I think I'm going to try and convince Ian that when we find out the gender to not tell what it is til the baby is born. I think that's going to be my only way around it and people won't be quite so bold with their comments after the baby is born if it is a boy.

Mari--I had to tune out a lot of people about the natural birth thing too so you would think I'd be used to closing my ears but I guess not.

[HopeWishWait]

I know exactly what you mean. DH is one of 3 boys and his parents ALWAYS wanted a girl...and I mean BADLY. So when Conner was a boy I kind of felt like I let them down because they told me they just "assumed it would be a girl". Well sorry, what do you want me to do about it? And for right now, Nic and I feel like we will be done after our 2nd..and if that one is a boy too I can just imagine what I will hear from the in laws but honestly I don't care...yes, I'd love having a daughter but I love my little boy and having another would be just as great. So just ignore them, it's your child after all.

[Frozendesire]

I already had that lots while being pregnant with Dustin, people saying "Oh so you must want a girl next hey?". I mean I would love either but I've kinda always wanted to be a house full of guys haha. I always wanted it to be me and the boys, my boys!

I know I will get it next time, like you. I think we need to come up with some good responses haha

I just don't get it, what's wrong with having all sons or all daughters??

[thepinkleprechaun]

I totally wanted another girl! I always saw myself as a mommy of a bunch of cute little princesses, but I am so glad I had a boy now He is just the cutest chubber ever but I'm sure I would have loved a girl just as much. I always ask people if they want a boy or a girl but I think it's so rude to assume, or just say something like "oh well it BETTER be a girl/boy this time!". I guess I didn't really have to deal with that since I have one of each, but people say dumb stuff a lot and I know how you feel.

[Mod-LadyCoconut]

Why do people think that TTC/pregnancy/parenting is a topic worthy of dropping all social filters and just saying whatever pops into their heads?! Ugh! How annoying! I think the best way to handle it is just with a simple I/We statement.

"Oh the next one better be a girl!"
-- We're hoping for a boy actually.

Even though you're fine with either gender, I feel like the confrontation will shut up a good % of them.

Although for me, I'd probably be bgitchy and say something like

them "It better be a girl"

--- "I know, if it's not we'll probably just be incapable of loving it and leave it in a dumpster somewhere."

Those kind of comments really annoy me, and I know I'll be getting a ton from MIL which is why she will be one of the last to know.

[**Jenn**]

Originally Posted by LadyCoconut

Why do people think that TTC/pregnancy/parenting is a topic worthy of dropping all social filters and just saying whatever pops into their heads?! Ugh! How annoying! I think the best way to handle it is just with a simple I/We statement.

"Oh the next one better be a girl!"
-- We're hoping for a boy actually.

Even though you're fine with either gender, I feel like the confrontation will shut up a good % of them.

Although for me, I'd probably be bgitchy and say something like

them "It better be a girl"

--- "I know, if it's not we'll probably just be incapable of loving it and leave it in a dumpster somewhere."

Those kind of comments really annoy me, and I know I'll be getting a ton from MIL which is why she will be one of the last to know.

I've actually said something quite similar. I guess I can be pretty bgitchy about it now because I'm so tired of hearing it. This is why no one in our families know we are TTC. I can only imagine what I'd be hearing if they knew!

[soImarriedAnerd]

Shannon said it perfect for me!

[Trannyfromtheuk]

I know when i was preg with Mia everyone on my side, espeically my mum wanted me to have a boy. I have 2 sisters and my elder sister has 2 daughters aswell. My mum was like oooh it HAS to be a boy!!

[*krista*]

I say just let the mama fury loose and blame it on the hormones later! Okay, maybe my solution isn't the most practical, but it might be fun.