Do you daydream about "your baby"? Like, a lot? I don't have a face for our child, or anything, but a lot of my thoughts lately have been similar to "we might as well not do that because when the baby comes..." I am not pregnant.

I constantly imagine how my life would be different as a mother, I've weighed all the "costs" and benefits, and we are ready to do this. I've been working with my medical team for a year now to talk about how meds/treatments would need to be when pregnant/nursing.

I honestly have "Empty Backseat Syndrome". Every day, at least, something comes into my head about "the baby". I read a book about positive thinking and how that can help make things happen, and I wonder if this is what caused it.

Ex: My friend uses product X for baby. I would say, "We'll use.." Mike and I have researched everything we can think of, played all sorts of hypotherticals about "the baby" and childrearing. I've begun a book collection for "the baby".

Other people's baby chatter-- even those that know of our IF well-- have been mentioning, "You've had a year to get accustomed to one another, how is the baby thing going?"

This isn't a sad, lamenting post. It's an actuality. It's a "This would be a great day to take the baby for a walk. How would I dress him/her?" kinds of thoughts.

FF has 19 cycles of TTC on it. I can't believe it's been so long, but I can almost FEEL my baby. In my heart, my dreams, and with every bit of my being. There is just no baby.

I've considered hosting a Fresh Air Kid for the summer, or even fostering.

Anyone else?? Anyone think I'm nuts??

[alicenwonderland]

I do this as well, almost constantly. I think about what to buy clothing and diaper wise for my baby. This week I was thinking about if my baby was born big, would it be worth the expense for all the newborn sizes. Should I invest in things that fit a larger size range? I'm not even pregnant! Then I worry, what if my baby is a preemie and I have all those larger sizes! I have these little fits in my mind that dont' even matter yet! So no, Michelle, I don't htink you are nuts.

[♥Ashley♥]

I always do, Michelle. We were just hanging out in the yard this past weekend and I was just thinking I cant wait to wake up on a Saturday and put some play clothes on my little boy (I see myself having a boy first) and just playing outside all day while daddy BBQ's and I just cant wait Almost everything I do, I imagine what it would be like with children. And I cant wait until we have that.

[♥Ashley♥]

Double post.

You all will make great mommies!

[Mod-LadyCoconut]

[Mars]

You're not nuts, Michelle! You are going to be an awesome mom, you all will all be awesome mommies! I used to daydream about every detail of my baby once the fever began. I was still on the pill, waiting and daydreaming every, single day.

[~*Bethy*~]

Nope your not nuts

Your all gonna be amazing mommies!!

[*krista*]

I did this a lot more before we started wedding planning. Wedding planning has been great because it gets my mind off of things, which helps keep me sane. But, I still do think about those kinds of things a lot. Like if I'm in the middle of doing something, I'll wonder what I would be doing different if we had a baby. I don't dream a lot about anything in particular, mainly just parenthood in general.

I think it's completely normal! Or at least I hope so, because if not then we are all nuts!

[*vi]

i found that when we were searcing for a house, everyone we looked at, when we'd look in the second bedroom I'd be thinking, well how do i feel about this for the baby's room? lol

[Trannyfromtheuk]

i dont think your nuts!
I find my self day dreaming about how will Mia react to a sister or a brother? Will they get on? Will they look alike?
And when we go house hunting after the wedding (we want a bigger house as our spare room wouldnt even fit a cot in it!!) I will probally be like now how can i plan this out for my babies bedroom, even though i dont think i will be pregnant!

[amazing_love]

You're definitely not alone. I always daydream about my future baby

[*JenJen*]

I used to daydream a lot about my future baby. But after almost 3 years of frustration(NTNP, TTC, TTCMA, NTNP while waiting on IVF)...I can't do that to my heart anymore. I made a decision a few months ago to start focusing on life right now and put the whole baby thing out of my heart, because it was weighing heavily on me. I do still think about my future baby, I truly do, but not as often and more now think of it as an "in a year we can start moving forward toward a baby" kind of thing....it's what I've had to do mentally to be able to deal with all this. It really hit me hard the other day when I realized that the earliest my due date could be(from when we are hoping to get into an RE and do IVF) would be May 2011. That's just heartbreaking to me, and that's with everything going right that we could have a baby then...I'm rambling, but I truly do understand what you mean.

[**Jenn**]

I do all the time. I have thought about everything I will need for another boy or a girl next. I have even added everything up to see what it will all cost. I look at houses thinking how we will fit everyone and if we could even fit a fourth baby someday. I constantly daydream and for some reason its usually a girl. Maybe because a girl would be something new and different or maybe because everyone is pushing for us to have a girl. I don't know. But I can see her face so clearly in my mind.

Plus, a little over 6 years ago I had a very vivid dream that has stuck with me every day. I dreamed Ian and I were in our early 30s and just bought a house. It was late summer and we were standing out front with two little barefoot, blond headed, blue eyed little boys chasing each other in the yard. They looked a lot alike except they were obviously different ages. The older looked about 4 and the younger about 3. Ian and I were talking while I was holding a baby girl that was about 6-7 months or so. It was so real. We obviously already have the two boys close in age that look alike and if we get pregnant within the next couple months we will have a 6-7 month old by the end of next summer. We're also most likely moving this summer and plan to rent someplace for a year which will put us to buy the end of next summer. And we're in our early 30s. So who knows, it's probably all in my head but I like to think it was prophetic to some degree. It also is what fuels my daydreams.

[Kiwi]

I think it's completely natural to have thoughts like this Michelle. You are preparing yourself mentally for when you do have children. I know I'm already having these thoughts and I'm not even TTC yet. BIG HUGS sweetie.