[IamMom]

So I know I am only 35 1/2 weeks but with my history early birth is quite likely. So I feel like I am way closer to the end than I am....and all my docs are treating me that way. However....my parents don't seem to understand this even though they have seen it happen with me. And with all the close calls and monitoring in the last few weeks I am shocked that they are still so non-chalant about when this baby will be born. I want DS to be with them the whole time we're doing the hospital and birth thing because he wouldn't be too comfortable over night with anyone else really....DH would have to go get him for the night times and take him back to our friends house and I just feel like Nora would miss out on quality time with her daddy if DH had to run back and forth.....but I digress. Okay here is the thing....

My parents have been in Aruba for the last two weeks - they come home this Friday. Now I would NEVER have them cancel that because they plan that very far in advance and that is the weeks they have their time share. Okay - so good we've made it thru Aruba. ALMOST! Then I hear (right before they leave for Aruba) that "oh yeah....my mom's sister and her husband are coming down like the Tuesday they get back and everyone is packing up my grandma from the nursing home she lives in here and moving her to Michigan when my aunt lives"..... So you're gone again??? ***?! I don't even get into it because I'm just so amazed.... So yesterday my mom calls from Aruba to ask about my appt. I told her so far so good but things are moving (I'll go into that more below) and we are justing aiming for 37 weeks now (June 13th) and that would be best case scenario. She says ok we'll that's good because Dad and I will drive back home to NC on the 14th Sunday. I'm like - *** Mom - I thought you were going to fly up to Michigan with grandma and turn around and come right back on a plane ticket you had originally bought and could change to any date to come right back. And she's like "Well if you don't need me there why should I hurry back". I'm like why don't you just change the ticket and come right back regardless - of course I need you here whether a baby is hanging out of my who - ha or not. She says - well their having an "Arnie Palmer" party at the lake (the lake house my parents own in PA). I'm like - oh yeah Mom that is so much more important than being here to help me with Harrison and make sure I get to 37 weeks safe and sound. Mom and Dad just want to go to this meaningless party at the lake with their friends to drink and carry on.....I'm was so upset....she said we'd talk about it this weekend.

Does anyone else think this is bizarre and I have a right to want my mommy here in the last few weeks to be with me and help me. DH will be working his normal schedule or 12 hour nights/days and this includes that last weekend the 12-14th - I'm going to be a wreck!

Anyway - at the doctor - the NST was fabulous - the baby is a show-off - heart rate and responsivness perfect. However, I was having some good old contractions so they checked me...I'm thinning out a bit and 1 CM! She said the baby's head was very low and right in position (exactly as her big brother had been). They told me to try to pay attention to the contractions and make sure to call if anything regular starts happening. She said since its a second baby this progress isn't that shocking to them but with all my risks of pre-term birth they want to keep a close eye on things. I have a biophysical u/s on Friday again. My BP is high but for me I guess its normal....it was 144/88 at the doctors yesterday but no one seemed to care I guess since I have no major swelling or protein in the pee pee or anything.

So anyway - that's my whine - I didn't want Michelle to feel like the only whining preggo! Thanks for listening/reading my super long preggo rambling post!

[Mars]

WOW oh WOW!!!! I hope you get something worked out with your mom. I didn't want anyone around besides DH but I can understand you wanting your mom to be there.

I'm glad Nora's doing well and in position. Good luck with convincing your mom to come down. I hope she does.

[Resi]

I can understand you wanting your mom close to home. I wanted my mom near and with me the whole time I was in labor and for recovery. She helped out wayyy more than my DH. I hope she comes around we you talk to her this weekend. It sounds like little Nora will be here very soon.

[KatiInCT]

Boo on your mom for not understanding. Hopefully it will all work itself out. I'll be thinking of you and Nora! I hope Nora decides to bake just a little bit longer.

[IamMom]

Thanks girls! The bizarre thing is that my parents live 30 minutes away from me....its not like they have to make a special trip to be here - they just keep leaving and going away....so that makes it even more weird that they might not possibly be here.

Now don't get me wrong....I do not want a whole bunch of family sitting in the waiting room waiting for me to push her out but now that we have Harrison in our lives he needs my mom and dad to be with him and make him feel special and apart of everything - giving DH and I time to doodle on Nora ourselves.....KWIM. When we had Harrison none of our family lived in town and no one was there.....everyone came a few days after....but this is totally different now that we all live int he same area and we have Harrison to think about.

I just don't get it....my friend at work though said she would be my surrogate "mommy" and help with everything - I WUB her!!!

[midnight_starr]

I wish your mom was more understanding..

[IamMom]

Maybe we should just get the van out and go "kidnap" my mom in PA and make her come back!

You know my dad too - I'm not sure how I'm letting him get away with this any more than my mom - I just thought I'd get way less resistance from my mom on all of this - being a MOM and all....geesh!

[~*Bethy*~]

Id be a reck if my mom just up and took off like that. number one its totally not like her and number 2 she was almost worse off than I was during the kids births She always made sure I had everything I needed I dont know where id be without her.

~Beth

[Mod-LadyCoconut]

I would be upset if I were you too. I totally will want my mom around for all of this and probably would be a whiney brat about it -- so you're doing better than me! haha. The vacation thing is one thing... but wanting to go stay for a party is pretty different. The annoying thing is you'll probably wind up not going into labor and hear some kind of 'see, and we would have missed the party' story! haha.

[♥Ashley♥]

Id be upset too! In fact I would probably be stressing over the fact that she may not be home (Not to make you stress out or anything) but thats just crazy!!

[soImarriedAnerd]

I'm in the opposite side--I got my mom and his mom trying to come for weeks, because they think we will need all this help, and I'm trying to make sure they DON'T LOL. Want me to send them your way!? LOL

I hope it works out that they are there for you, and thats so great of your co-worker

[IamMom]

It's making me feel SOOOOO much better that you all think I'm being totally logically in my bratty whinyness!

Shannon- OMG if they dare say anything about everything working out when I have this baby at 40 weeks and they are here and its all okay I will go bonkers....my parents know I don't keep anything in and I will totally tell them how I feel (I have many times already but apparently it doesn't matter). My friend at work and I (she's also my boss technically) were talking this morning about how I should concoct somekind of fake medical condition that will lead my parents to believe things are more intense right now than they really are - is that bad??? I definitely don't want to jinx anything.....

The other thing that really cooks my goose is that they were suppose to have friends in town (from FL) from the 25th of June thru that weekend - like 1 week before I am due - for a golf tournament at the club my parents belong to - and these are friends that they are not even that great of friends with anymore and my Dad kept saying - Keri, Mom and Ellen will come up and be there and I'll come up after the golf is done for the day and its not like we're far away. Hello - I don't want you to have to split time with your guests and with me and your grandson - ITS ALL ABOUT ME! But thankfully their friends couldn't come and that got squashed a while ago....but its just one thing after another.....ahhhhhhhhhhh!

Originally Posted by soImarriedAnerd

Want me to send them your way!? LOL

Sure I would LOVE that! - do you think they would like to play with my son ?....that's really what all my worry is about....I just want them to be here for him and make him feel special so DH and I can focus on Nora for a few days after her birth. If this were our first baby I wouldn't feel so charged up about it!

[freesiangel]

Yikes, I'm sorry your mom isn't being more understanding. Hopefully she'll come around...

[.Brandi.]

I think your mom and dad are being a little selfish here!!! Espeically knowing that you have a history of pre-term labor and from the why it sounds, Nora will be making her appearance sooner rather than later. They should be there for you! Glad that your doctor appointment went well.

I would be upset too. Well, my mom is going to be out of town near my due date but it is for a HUGE certification for her job that she has been working on for 2 years now, and she already changed her testing location from Boston to Dallas just so she could be gone 1 day instead of 2 1/2 and be here for me! And she most likely won't even be there for the delivery! So I am a spoiled brat too, I just want my mommy to be around at my disposal! It makes total sense that they be there for Harrison, you want all of that transitioning to go well and still be able to bond with Nora without feeling guilty or stressed.

[Frozendesire]

Ya, I wouldn't be too pleased either!! it was great knowing that MIL was there taking care of Curtis. He LOVES her!

I hope stuff gets worked out!

[alicenwonderland]

I think your mom needs to get her priorities in order. Glad baby is doing well so far.

[ShannonMVT]

I'm sorry your mom isn't being more helpful. I can definitely understand you wanting her there to help with Harrison! I know I'll be the same way about Matthew when we have a 2nd child.
I hope things work out and you are able to get the help you need!