[Resi]

This is my third week since starting that WAHJ. I'm having a hard time with working both jobs. I already knew it would be this way. I'm working 70 hours a week. I'm TIRED. I work 8-4:30PM and then 6-Midnight. Once I'm done at midnight I have a very hard time falling asleep because I know I have to wake up at 6:00-6:30AM. Plus, Oliver NEVER sleep through the night. To top it off I don't feel myself doing a good job with the data entry at home because I'm tired. Oliver wakes up at least 3 times while I'm working and I have to get him back to sleep because DH can't get him back down at night. He wants to nurse back to sleep. I don't know how much longer I'm going to last. I'm upset because I feel like this was my only chance to stay at home with Oliver in the future. I wanted to be able to do this WAHJ at least to catch up on all our debt if nothing else. I can't quit my office job because we need the money right now. Damon is looking for a new job but it's hard to find a job with the economy. I feel so stuck because once my Mom finds a job (she lost her job almost 3 months ago because of down sizing) we are going to have to figure something out for who is home with Oliver. I DO NOT want to have him in any kind of daycare/childcare. I feel very strong about that for our family. It's stressing me out. Today I'm so tired I feel almost worse than when Oliver was a newborn!

I don't know what to do. Quit the WAMJ? Keep trying to do both.. Damon does help but it doesn't give me anymore sleep and that is what I need!

[CandaceDianne]

I don't know what to tell you....I can only imagine how tired you are mentally and physically. You need to take care of yourself though, or else it will start taking a deeper toll on your performance and body. Just my opinion.

[enchantingdragon]

Im sorry that its rough for you right now. I have no advice really but I sympathize greatly.

[midnight_starr]

Oh Resi I'm sorry things are stressful.. I really don't have any advice.. You just have to figure out what is best for you and your family..

[Mod-LadyCoconut]

Have you accumulated any paid time off/sick days or anything through your day job where you could try to take a day off now and again to kind of play catch up? Your boss approved for you to have Wednesdays off, so you're working 4 days a week there - right? Is there anyway you can do extra data entry stuff on the 3 days a week you're off so you can go light on the other working days? I'm sorry you're feeling worn out... I would be too, that's A LOT of hours plus being a mom and wife, etc.

[Adriana's Mommy]

I don't know what to say.. I'm a working mom and I work 10 hours a day, 4 days a week..I don't think I could add anymore days a week.. I'd be so worn out.. Especially being pregnant.. And I understand how you feel about daycare.. I'm vary blessed that my mom owns one of the best child care centers in my area and Adriana gets to go there for free.. Which usually costs around $650 a month.. There's no way I could ever afford that.. And she will be learning soo much there.. Stuff that I could never teach her if she stayed at home.. That's one of the perks of child care..

[*kyle*]

This might sound a little strange, but... is there any way that Damon or your mom could do some of the data entry? That way you could be with Oliver when he needs you, and/or getting some much needed sleep, while still being paid for the second job. I think right now you have 3 adults trying to do the work of 6 adults. But you are doing 3 jobs, Damon is doing 2 and your mom is doing 1. The work is not evenly distributed and you are taking almost all of the strain. I'm so sorry you're in this tough position, Resi. There is only so much stress one person can handle. I hope you can figure out a solution before you really buckle.

[~*Bethy*~]

Can he take over a night feeding for one night? Im sorry your having to go thru this - but if it were me, Id quit the day job, focus on the home job, and just cut back on alot of things. But I can say, if this is what you really want - you will find a way

~Beth

[Resi]

Originally Posted by LadyCoconut

Have you accumulated any paid time off/sick days or anything through your day job where you could try to take a day off now and again to kind of play catch up? Your boss approved for you to have Wednesdays off, so you're working 4 days a week there - right? Is there anyway you can do extra data entry stuff on the 3 days a week you're off so you can go light on the other working days? I'm sorry you're feeling worn out... I would be too, that's A LOT of hours plus being a mom and wife, etc.

No. He did not let me work a 4 day week. If he did I would be a lot happier. I don't have any extra time to take. I only have a couple vacation days left and I'm using them for when my MIL visits and for Oliver's birthday.

[~Jess~]

How much longer do you have the "training?" Will your schedule change once you finish the training?

[Resi]

Originally Posted by *kyle*

This might sound a little strange, but... is there any way that Damon or your mom could do some of the data entry? That way you could be with Oliver when he needs you, and/or getting some much needed sleep, while still being paid for the second job. I think right now you have 3 adults trying to do the work of 6 adults. But you are doing 3 jobs, Damon is doing 2 and your mom is doing 1. The work is not evenly distributed and you are taking almost all of the strain. I'm so sorry you're in this tough position, Resi. There is only so much stress one person can handle. I hope you can figure out a solution before you really buckle.

Damon does help with the data entry. He does it from 6PM-PM while I spend time with Oliver and get him to bed. He does sometimes jump on when Oliver wakes up if he isn't already sleeping. My Mom is an awful typer and there is no way she could do it. I'm thankful that Damon does help out some. It's still a lot for me to take on.

Originally Posted by ~Jess~

How much longer do you have the "training?" Will your schedule change once you finish the training?

The first two weeks of training I was in an office location. Total training is 6 weeks and I'm on week 3. I made my own hours of 6-12AM. I thought that was the best because I get home at 5PM. That gives us a hour to eat dinner before the job starts.

[.Brandi.]

Resi, I'm sorry you're so tired. I have no advice, but I wanted to say I hope the situation fixes itself before you run yourself into the ground. I don't understand why your boss didn't give you the 4 days off. You're a great employee, it's not like you got to work and goof around. You go in and get your job done. Most people these days, don't do that!

[Resi]

Originally Posted by Brandi84

Resi, I'm sorry you're so tired. I have no advice, but I wanted to say I hope the situation fixes itself before you run yourself into the ground. I don't understand why your boss didn't give you the 4 days off. You're a great employee, it's not like you got to work and goof around. You go in and get your job done. Most people these days, don't do that!

haha... Well... I spend a TON of time on JM while I'm on the clock. But, I do get my work done and do a good job.

I'm feeling a little better! I have a job interview. It's another FT position so it doesn't help with becoming a SAHM but it's the next best thing - finding another company to work for! It sound very promising. I'm pumped about it!

[soImarriedAnerd]

[**Jenn**]

I'm sorry I don't have any advice for you but I really hope the interview goes well for you! This economy sucks for trying to change your life/situation in any way. If I lived close to you I'd watch Oliver for you when your Mom finds a job!

[freesiangel]

I'm really sorry Resi. I know this must be sooooo hard on you!

How long do you think it would take you to pay off your debt with you working both of these jobs? Is the plan to pay off all the debt, then quit your FT job and only do the data entry one? Or would you keep working the FT one for awhile to build up a little nest egg?

I do hope you are able to find the solution soon! I think if you only had to work both jobs for a couple of months that you could MAKE it work, even if you were really tired... But if you're going to have to do both jobs for like a year, well, I just don't know how you'd be able to do that without your home life/sanity severely suffering...

Does this other FT job pay more or is it more flexible with hours? I hope your interview goes well!

[Resi]

Originally Posted by freesiangel

I'm really sorry Resi. I know this must be sooooo hard on you!

How long do you think it would take you to pay off your debt with you working both of these jobs? Is the plan to pay off all the debt, then quit your FT job and only do the data entry one? Or would you keep working the FT one for awhile to build up a little nest egg?

I do hope you are able to find the solution soon! I think if you only had to work both jobs for a couple of months that you could MAKE it work, even if you were really tired... But if you're going to have to do both jobs for like a year, well, I just don't know how you'd be able to do that without your home life/sanity severely suffering...

Does this other FT job pay more or is it more flexible with hours? I hope your interview goes well!

I wanted to work both jobs until we paid off our cc debt which would take until late summer/early fall. After that my hope was to only WAH. I don't see it working because I won't make enough. I can't get through the claims fast enough. We would be too strapped for money I think. The job interview I have is going to be around the same pay I currently make and with the same hours. BUT, they offer better benefits with family health insurance. Right now we get health insurance from Damon's work. If it comes down to it I will work FT and Damon will work PT to stay with Oliver. I make a lot more than him so it makes sense for him to stay home. This is what will have to happen after my mom finds a job.

[.Brandi.]

Originally Posted by Resi

I wanted to work both jobs until we paid off our cc debt which would take until late summer/early fall. After that my hope was to only WAH. I don't see it working because I won't make enough. I can't get through the claims fast enough. We would be too strapped for money I think. The job interview I have is going to be around the same pay I currently make and with the same hours. BUT, they offer better benefits with family health insurance. Right now we get health insurance from Damon's work. If it comes down to it I will work FT and Damon will work PT to stay with Oliver. I make a lot more than him so it makes sense for him to stay home. This is what will have to happen after my mom finds a job.

I know this isn't the solution you were looking for, but at least Damon can stay home with Oliver instead of him going to daycare! (Which I LOATH). I understand, this happened with us, before I got pregnant with Preston. I worked at the bank and Chris had lost his job and so he had to stay home with Edward and it killed me because all I wanted to do was be home with my boy. But I felt better that Chris was home with him. It's nice when Daddy can be home with the child, but it's hard on Mommy because nobody can love a child like Mommy. Not to take anything away from Daddy, but a Mommy's love is different. Someone told me once that I could go to the state for daycare for low-income families and I said "Thanks, but no." They thought I was crazy, but I just don't trust daycares, especially if the state is paying for them, I just get the feeling they'd send my baby to the cheapest place and my child would be neglected. I don't know, my family thinks I'm paranoid, but I there have been reports on the news here were there have been child molestors and such working a daycare centers so I just don't trust anything like that. Especially since Preston isn't old enough to know it's wrong, or old enough to tell me that it's happening.

[Resi]

Originally Posted by Brandi84

I know this isn't the solution you were looking for, but at least Damon can stay home with Oliver instead of him going to daycare! (Which I LOATH). I understand, this happened with us, before I got pregnant with Preston. I worked at the bank and Chris had lost his job and so he had to stay home with Edward and it killed me because all I wanted to do was be home with my boy. But I felt better that Chris was home with him. It's nice when Daddy can be home with the child, but it's hard on Mommy because nobody can love a child like Mommy. Not to take anything away from Daddy, but a Mommy's love is different. Someone told me once that I could go to the state for daycare for low-income families and I said "Thanks, but no." They thought I was crazy, but I just don't trust daycares, especially if the state is paying for them, I just get the feeling they'd send my baby to the cheapest place and my child would be neglected. I don't know, my family thinks I'm paranoid, but I there have been reports on the news here were there have been child molestors and such working a daycare centers so I just don't trust anything like that. Especially since Preston isn't old enough to know it's wrong, or old enough to tell me that it's happening.

I knew I was not going to be able to stay at home before I was pregnant. It's just so hard when I WANT to be with him every day all day long. I could care less about having a career and it's not something I need to do to make myself happy. I'm very happy that Damon gets to be with him. I guess I'm over protective but daycare of any kind is not something I feel comfortable with for my child.

[Mars]

I can't even begin to imagine how you have been doing because I know that I would be a walking zombie. I hope you can find a way to make it work or something else comes up. (((HUGS)))