[..Christine..]

I got a text last night from my step-sister saying that she is pg again- this will be her second .....she is due in Feb of 2010....She just had my nephew a year ago on the 27th- honestly I was kind of shocked! I didn't even know they were going to try again so soon and well I kinda wanted this to be "my" time...this is our first baby and now she is due 2 months after me. I was kind of looking forward to the family gatherings but now that we are both pg - it will be different. I am happy for her and truly know that I am probably just hormonal and acting selfish...but it really bothered me when I got that text last night! Should I just let it go and be happy for her?

[greeneyes]

I completely understand how you feel. My SIL announced she was pregnant a few months after I became pregnant with Lily and I was upset - especially since she flat out told me they only started trying because we were pregnant. Then, a month after we said we were trying for a second, she announced she was pregnant with her second. It's taken me two years to get here, but I'm finally in a place where I can enjoy what I have and have learned to leave it at that. *hugs*

[Mod-LadyCoconut]

Don't feel bad. My cousin has always talked about how she wants us to be pregnant at the same time... etc. and she wants another baby and just got in this new relationiship and my mom and aunt (her mom) are all betting that she'll be 'married and pregnant' by the end of the year. And I know it sounds crazy but as soon as we tell her we're pg she will undoubtedly start trying. It sounds ridiculous to say that someone would like alter their life b/c Ben and I are having kids but my mom, DH and step-dad (the only ppl who know) all really believe that'ss true. We haven't told her yet and are waiting until I'm at least 12 weeks. She's kind of an attention hog and had her daughter a year after my older sister had her youngest and was ALWAYS competing on who 'stood first, talked first" etc. and I don't want to deal with it.

Long story short... I can understand you wanting this time to be special for your family and not something to share. Hang in there.

[**Jenn**]

I think your feelings are valid but try to let it go. It's really not worth being upset over. Me and my two cousins were all pregnant at the same time 2 years ago and it was really cool. My one cousin with her first and me and my other cousin with our second. We all had boys--my cousin had her firstborn first, then 6 weeks later I had Loch, then 6 weeks later my other cousin had her second (we both also had our older boys 5 months apart). It could be really great being pregnant at the same time unless she's one of those competitive type people. My cousins and I aren't so it's been really nice even though we hardly see each other. It's nice to have others know exactly what you're going through at the exact time you're going through it.

[Resi]

I understand how you feel. This happened to me with my brother & his GF. They got pregnant with their first and we were due a couple days apart. I was upset and cried my eyes out over it. The main reason I was upset is that she is an awful person and makes an awful mother.

If you are close to your sister you can be happy to have two babies so close that can become great playmates!

[Frozendesire]

I can understand that. Both my pregnancy's I was the only one in the family pregnant and had lots of attention and really enjoyed that. Do you think it will be different considering this is your first and her second? You may still get more attention because of that.

But do try to let it go. Things happen, even if they are intentional. I would be THRILLED to be pregnant along with a family member/close friend. To share the experience and then have a little one to grow up with my little one! They could become great friends.

I hope you start feeling happy for her soon, but do understand that your feelings are normal and natural.

[Mars]

I never experienced jealousy over anyone's pregnancy but I can understand how it might make you feel...like they're stealing your spotlight or something. Try not to let it bug you too much and enjoy yourself. You may find that things still work out really well.

[soImarriedAnerd]

Yeah I can understand that, but what can you do? Nothing. Just grin and bare it
I had my SIL due July 6th (she went early) and same part of the family I have a cousin that is due a couple weeks after me......I like that the SIL is eating up Troy's parents attention because then I don't have to deal with them. But I don't like all the comparisons---Its SO ANNOYING!

[..Christine..]

I'm not really thinking about it right now but I know at family gatherings that are coming up- that things are going to be hard for me!

[*kyle*]

It was really hard for me to deal with friends' and family members' pregnancies when I was in the midst of my losses and such. If I hadn't had a healthy pregnancy when I did, I would still be dealing with it. I skipped on a couple of baby showers during that time. I also wasn't the most supportive friend because I didn't want to hear about their pregnancies at all, much less ooh and aah over their bellies and give them adorable baby gifts. If I wasn't having a healthy pregnancy now, I know I would still be feeling that way. Now though, I guess I am just so happy to be "in the club" that it does not bother me if every other person in the world is pregnant - just as long as I get to be, too. KWIM? I don't know if that relates to your situation or helps, just thought I'd throw it out there. I think your feelings are valid and you want all of the fun and attention. But, remember, it won't make you or your baby any less special just because there is another mommy/baby in the family. Your baby will still be just as special, beautiful and miraculous!