Argh!! house hunting..........

~*sierra*~ · #1 August 18th, 2009, 10:46 AM

I just feel like crying today. We are NEVER going to get a house. Seriously i think i would be more likely to get hit by a bus than us find a new home in this city. The houses we think are decent are lik 2-3 million dollars. Million!!!!!!! who has that much money?!?! and my dh always says he is wttc till we get a house....till we GET A HOUSE!??! omg i am seriously feeling unstable about this. a lot of other ***** has happened that is preventing us from getting a house too which adds to my frustration, because if things changed in our financial situation you think my dh would realize that his expectations for a house should change too. but no. i feel so let down, and frustrated, but but i cant express this to my dh cause he gets really defensive and says he just has to sort a few things out.....but yeah he's been saying that for how long now. i wish we could just leave the city, i'm so sick of all the rude idiots that live here anyways.

LadyGamer · #2 August 18th, 2009, 10:48 AM

i'm terrified of house hunting in the city... and DH is set on WTTC until we have a house too. There is no way in hell we could afford a 2mil house.

ShannonMVT · #3 August 18th, 2009, 12:43 PM

wow, where do you live?

Maybe your Dh will change his mind if it is completely unrealistic to buy a house anytime in the forseeable future. Though I love having a house I don't think it would be horrible to raise kids in a nice apartment or condo.

~*Bethy*~ · #4 August 18th, 2009, 12:55 PM

we raise our kids in an apartment, yes its sorta cramped but at least we dont have to worry about where the mortgage money is going to come from - I dont dare pay $1300 for a 2bedroom apartment either! where we are at now the landlord is hella chill with us paying rent when we can and in chunks!

~Beth

midnight_starr · #5 August 18th, 2009, 01:20 PM

That sucks majorly... Hopefully you can try to convince your DH to look at houses outside of the city because I'm sure they are 100 times cheaper..

Resi · #6 August 18th, 2009, 01:25 PM

I understand how upsetting buying a house in a city can be. The main reason we moved from Chicago was to buy a house that was affordable. It's too hard to find a nice house that is a good size and decent price in a major city. Is your husband not open to buying in a burb?

petalfuzz · #7 August 18th, 2009, 01:54 PM

Aww! I want your DH to get some sense! A million+ for a house, what in the world?!

Raising a child in an apt or condo isn't too terrible, is it?

~*sierra*~ · #8 August 18th, 2009, 02:05 PM

he wont move to the burbs cuz he hates commuting, i dont blame him for that, it does suck. i dont see what the problem is with a nice semi, all renovated beautifully, in a green, safe, maybe not posh, area of town. ok its not the greatest to be attached to another persons home but there arent a lot of options here. i live in toronto. maybe i will propose some nice condos near work, i know he'd love to walk to work, and i dont think being in a nice condo would be too bad at all. argh. i'm still annoyed with the whole sitch.

lupti · #9 August 18th, 2009, 02:11 PM

Goodness....that is ridiculous! Major cities are always so inflated on house prices! (at least in decent areas). I really hope he would accept a condo or duplex or something!

Mars · #10 August 18th, 2009, 03:53 PM

Oh dear, the city life is way too high! I hope you can find options that will appeal to your DH. There's nothing wrong with raising a family in an apartment or condo.

~*sierra*~ · #11 August 18th, 2009, 03:57 PM

mari i wanna move to barbados!!!!forget canadian winters!! :-)

*krista* · #12 August 18th, 2009, 04:34 PM

Goodness that is insanely expensive! Have you looked at the suburbs? We are looking for a house too, and there is no way we could afford to live in the city, so we are looking in the suburbs.

We found out the house we really really wanted went under contract yesterday. We were so bummed. This is going to be a very emotional process, I can already tell and we have just started!

*kyle* · #13 August 18th, 2009, 08:04 PM

Oh I totally feel your pain on this one. This is why DH and I are in the process of trying to nail down a short sale on a townhome. Even outside of Chicago, in the burbs, a 3+ bedroom single family house that isn't falling down is running $300,000 or more, and that's after the real estate bubble burst. I sometimes wonder how in the world so many people are affording $2000, $3000 or more in mortgage payments every single month. Not to mention where they get their 20% down payment from! And I'm supposed to believe there are entire suburbs filled with such fortunate people! No wonder the foreclosure rate is so high...

*krista* · #14 August 18th, 2009, 08:11 PM

Okay, sorry, just read your post about the suburbs. So, that's out, but the condo sounds like a good idea! Kyle - we are trying to get a short sale or foreclosure as well. Fun fun!

bittersweet · #15 August 19th, 2009, 04:55 AM

I think you need to have a talk with him....whether he gets defensive or not. Marriage is about compromise. Him saying you cannot start a family because he wants to continue to stay in the city and walk to work...or buy a multi-million dollar house in the city. If he is not willing to move out of the city, but not willing to buy something you can reasonably afford now or in the near future, he needs a reality check. I am so frusterated for you right now.

freesiangel · #16 August 19th, 2009, 10:43 AM

Wow, that really sucks! I hope you are able to reach a compromise with your DH. It'd probably be best to have some concrete options available for him to consider (like looking at those condo's you talked about), instead of just speculating what you could do.

LadyGamer · #17 August 19th, 2009, 11:05 AM

So... about those nice semi's!! *shows interest* Thats what I want, as a early family house.

What area are you guys looking in?

~*sierra*~ · #18 August 19th, 2009, 02:37 PM

christen - we've been looking sorta west downtown-ish area. i love the roncesvalles area, its really green and roncesvalles itself is getting really cute (i also wanna use a midwife thats on roncy!) have you looked on mls.ca? fair warning: mls.ca is addicting to look at!

LadyGamer · #19 August 19th, 2009, 03:14 PM

wow... that makes me realize how much we can't afford.

Adriana's Mommy · #20 August 19th, 2009, 10:12 PM

I'm sorry hun.

We were house hunting back in June. I know the frustration. We decided to build instead and it was cheaper.. So now we are waiting for our house to be built, which should be done in 5 weeks..