Angela - Mrs. Nerd

ShannonMVT · #1 August 23rd, 2009, 12:01 PM

I was wondering...how are things with Troy's mom now that London is here? I am curious!

niknok · #2 August 23rd, 2009, 12:04 PM

Me too! Did she have to eat her words about how *dangerous* homebirthing is, or did she keep the holier than thou attitude?

#3 August 23rd, 2009, 04:12 PM

Do share!!!

soImarriedAnerd · #4 August 23rd, 2009, 06:37 PM

She just ignored every conversations even close to my labor and home birth.

But of course troy and I talked it up a ton with family! LOL
But since now she needs SOMETHING to make me feel bad/scared about....she brings up our choice to bed-share about ever 4hrs while she is around us...ugh! She will tell me stories of dead kids, how "her" wonderful hospital (Mayo) said not to do that, keeps asking me 'but what if"...etc, etc. She will always find something to belittle me/us about....she is just that way. She doesn't like that we hold him all the time and wear him, she even went out to get a stroller because she just thought we were cheap and didn't buy one--then I told her how much the ergo and other carriers I have cost us! LOL Apparently she made it a point to NEVER hold her kids---she would just wash/feed/clean the kids and then put them down. She didn't want them to become dependent...she is a BIG supporter of CIO and NOT holding baby's unless your doing something with them. So every time I would give London to her she would hold him for 5 min and then put him down and make a BIG deal about how much he liked having "room to move".

SURPRISINGLY enough though she was GREAT about breastfeeding...every time I would feed london she brought me a glass of water and then a few minutes into it checked to see if I needed anything....it was the nicest she has EVER been to me. But then in true form after spending enough time with us.....she decided I feed him to much and needed to give him a pacifier because he sucks to much. Oh well you can't win with some people.

niknok · #5 August 23rd, 2009, 06:45 PM

I honestly don't know how you can be civil to that woman. You're a bigger person than I am.

ShannonMVT · #6 August 23rd, 2009, 06:54 PM

Hmm...sorry she is still like that! I saw her posting on your facebook, or maybe it was Londons and thought maybe she was being nicer!

Sounds like she is very "my way or the highway". I am going to try and raise my son by my mom's philosophy...by the time a child is grown, you need to trust that you have raised them well enough to be smart enough to make their OWN educated decisions.

Good for you for sticking to your guns about things you believe in. Though my MIL isn't so pushy it does get old to have to defend your position.

soImarriedAnerd · #7 August 23rd, 2009, 07:03 PM

She always says nice things in public, and in front of people....its ALL about image to her. Oh and his dad....my BFF came out with two of her kids and he actually was ordering them around and borderline yelling at the 2yr old (for squeezing london's foot!----I was sitting and WATCHING them, she was less then 12 inches away, and her mom was holding london--so we were BOTH watching..and we were FINE with it!
I'm so glad we only see them about 2-3 times a year!

A*LOT*OF*HOPE · #8 August 23rd, 2009, 07:17 PM

WOW, I don't know how you do it!!! His dad really should get mad at someone elses kids either, you guys could have handled it if it got out of hand!!

*krista* · #9 August 23rd, 2009, 07:42 PM

She sounds like LOADS of fun!

Frozendesire · #10 August 23rd, 2009, 09:26 PM

Oh man. I don't know how you can handle that negativity Angela. You are such a great strong mama sticking up for what you KNOW is best for him. Ugh.

And wow can't believe he got mad at the 2 year old for that... I should see my boys playing.... HAHA.

Mars · #11 August 24th, 2009, 05:22 AM

You sure handle her really well! I would have already told her where to shove her comments! Kudos to you!!

♥Ashley♥ · #12 August 24th, 2009, 10:34 AM

WOW I agree with the other girls, I do know how you handle her!

Trannyfromtheuk · #13 August 24th, 2009, 10:47 AM

Well done you for putting up with their rudeness!! I have no idea how you can cope with it!! I would have been pulling my hair out!!

*Anna* · #14 August 24th, 2009, 02:28 PM

she sounnds exactly like my MIL!!!! I just ignore it- and hope it goes away. MY MIL though thinks BFing is gross!!! I did talk to her about that! But she won't budge., wont look at me while I am BFing!!!! I hate it!!!

~*sierra*~ · #15 August 24th, 2009, 02:38 PM

wow, u rock angela, wtg for putting up with them!
i'm glad she showed *some* niceness towards you regarding bf, thats a step in the right direction anyways.

and anna, i cant believe ur mil thinks bf is gross! i'd probably laugh at that and tell her she's being rediculous, i mean how does she think millenia upon millenia of babies have been fed? formula?! omg what a nut.

soImarriedAnerd · #16 August 24th, 2009, 05:58 PM

My mom thinks its gross but she knows its best LOL She didn't BF because of it, but has no issue with me doing it.
I find his parents pretty easy to deal with--mainly because in order to be upset and mad about someone you have to CARE about them....I'm way beyond caring about them so it goes in one ear and out the other. Don't get me wrong though I have my moments I want to drop kick them! LOL
Troy is AMAZING at standing up for our choices---he just explained everything to them and backed it up (didn't stop them but at least he doesn't leave me hanging). If HE didn't back me up I would have much more of an issue with them, but I have such a great hubby that I can deal with them the less then 2 weeks a year we see them.

**Jenn** · #17 August 25th, 2009, 06:37 PM

That's so great that Troy backs you and your parenting choices like that. It makes a world of difference when you're both on the same page and fighting for the same cause. My MIL is great and very AP but my Mom is very traditional so we've butted heads on some things. Very recently she told me it was fine if Lochy weaned now because he's not benefiting from breastmilk anymore. I emailed her a bunch of links to prove otherwise but she never mentioned it to me.

I think you handle the negativity and criticism extremely well. I would be beyond frustrated at that especially with a newborn to take care of.

Resi · #18 August 26th, 2009, 07:45 AM

It is a good thing you only see them a few times a year. Otherwise you would most likely go crazy on them.

My mom likes to comment about my co-sleeping and she thinks Oliver is too big for the boob now. She told me last night that I try to stick my boob in his mouth too much and use it as a pacifer. Yep! Because it helps him get to sleep. I would rather him use me than the pacifer and he prefers me. She also said "sick" the other day when I stuck my boob in his mouth when he was in the high chair. lol.. It might not make a pretty picture but he was grabbing for it and only wanted a few sucks. My mom only breastfed us until 6 months and used formula. She has told me from day one that I would not make it past 6 months when he got teeth. She was wrong! The bad thing is that I'm stuck at her house M-F now and she likes to play mom to Oliver. I'm going nuts over here. I wish she would learn to back off. She even tells me when to give him a bite of food when we are eating dinner!

Sorry to go off on a rant but I can relate...

soImarriedAnerd · #19 August 26th, 2009, 08:00 AM

Resi, If I lived closer to these people I would 100% have issues with them. I can't even imagine going through it like you are--YOU ROCK!

#20 August 26th, 2009, 09:40 AM

At the sucking too much comment. What a weird thing to say!

And geeze, I probably carried Reid 90% of the time when he was an infant. He hated being set down and would cry all day long if I did. He is fine being set down now