I should have known there was motive behind us having a decent convo the other day, but I was naive like always and thought maybe he was growing up bc were so close to having Kennedi here..but alas I was wrong.

He texted me yesterday being very nice asking how I was feeling. Surprised me, but I told him I was just sick and tired of being pregnant and wished she would hurry up and pick her birthday. So then out of no where he askes me if hes going to have joint custody! WHAT!? NO! I was so heated I didnt even know what to say to that cuz the thought of him having her half the time makes me cry! I just said wed deal with that once she came..cuz I didnt want to fight.

So then he tells me that he doesnt actually want joint custody that hell do anything if I just make this apartment complex "think" that he has joint. He wants me to sign a paper saying that he has her 50% of the time and then have it noterized by the bank. Ummm no! Im not stupid, 1. Im not lying 2. he could come back and use that against me as it being a agreement esp with me signing it! I just dont trust him..

And then theres the whole back in June when I needed him to sign a paper stating that he hadnt given me ANY support in whateve form this entire pregnancy (which is all true) it took me 3 weeks to get him to sign that and I NEEDED that for insurance! So why the heck should I do him this favor? F*** NO! Im not doing any custody stuff unless its through court, that would just be dumb on my part.

And it makes me mad that he claims that he wants me to do this so he can get this apartment but that he doesnt actually want joint custody!

[amazing_love]

Wow!! I'm glad you're smart enough to not sign it! Did he think you were really that dumb? I'm sorry he was just being nice because he wanted something from you!

[A*LOT*OF*HOPE]

Wow, I can't believe he thought you would sign that!! Your very smart for not doing any of the custody stuff unless you are court!!

[szczepanski]

I'm glad you found out why he was being nice NOW and not after she was born. What an idiot. Neither you nor Kennedi need that.

[*krista*]

Are you kidding me??! SERIOUSLY??? What a jerk!

So wait, either he thinks you are really that dumb, or he really is out to use his daughter to his own benefit, which is even worse. Honestly I don't know which is true! Which one do you think it is? Ugh that just makes me so mad for you, I can only imagine how you feel!

[Chelnae6]

WOW man he's a jerk! Screw him and that apartment!!! Dont sign CRAP @ all. I'm glad that you're smarter and wiser than that. He shouldve thought about that before he decided not to be a father. JERK!

I know right!! Hes really really dumb, I mean come on. Either he really wants to use Kennedi like that or he plans on trapping me with getting me to sign that and then hell really have joint custody. Over my dead body will I just hand over half custody of my daughter. Hell have to fight me for it. Once Im home from the hospital Im going down town one to file for divorce and two to file for sole custody of Kennedi. Im willing to give him visitations but no way do I think he should be able to just take her whenever. Esp when he wouldnt stop smoking around me when I had quit smoking! We fought about that all the time (while we were still together) so why wouldnt he just smoke around her and not care? Uhhhh I just wanna punch him I would feel so much better!

And then today a guy friend of mine actually had the nerve to tell me how Im wayyyy outta line by not inviting him to the hospital while Im in labor. Cuz apparentaly its "unfair" of me to not let him watch his daughter being born!! Ummm HELLO he hasnt been around for NINE FRIGGIN MONTHS why should I be oh so kind like that? I do plan on calling him after shes here and inviting him up there, which I totally DO NOT have to do. I could be a total b**** and tell him if he wants to see her he has to go to court and get orders. But Im not doing that.

[A*LOT*OF*HOPE]

I think you are totally right in not having him at the hospital. I wouldn't want him there AT ALL!!! I really don't think he deserves anything more supervised visitation!!

[Nami]

You're very smart for not signing anything! I'm so sorry he's being like that.

Are you saving all your bills and receipts? When it comes time for custody it's a great idea to have them to show you pay for everything for her and he doesn't anything.

Oh yes I have lots and lots of recipts! Even all her clothes and anything such as that, that I bought her. Makes him look like an arse!

[LisanAndy]

Wow, this guy is crazy! You're a strong, awesome woman Nikki. You've been put through it with this sorry excuse for a man but you're hanging in there and making good decisions. GO NIKKI inkcheer:

[Mars]

He's such a royal idiot!!!!

I'm so glad that you caught on to what he's up to!!!

[*krista*]

Nikki, I think you are doing exactly what you should be... Giving him a break in areas you feel comfortable, but not escalating it any further than it needs to go.



You are going to be a great mommy! I'm sorry you are dealing with this. Lisa's right, you are a very strong woman!

[alicenwonderland]

what a dirtbag! I'm glad you have a good head on your shoulders.

[Resi]

What a huge jerk. I'm sorry you have to deal with him.

[CandaceDianne]

I am glad you are throwing him to the curb! You and Kennedi are too good for him!!!!!!

[*kyle*]

Oh jeez... watch out Nikki... you're not dealing with a very logical person, he's likely to come up with more schemes like this in the future. It's a good thing you're onto him already. Remember to keep bills/receipts like Nami said, especially anything medically-related. Also write down dates and times that things happen (like conversations with him), keep texts, print out emails, whatever. I hate to act paranoid but you never know what you might need in the future. And DON'T SIGN ANYTHING without a lawyer!!!

[lupti]

Ugh...what a jerk! I am sorry you have to deal with this, but I admire you for your strength and intelligence where he is concerned. The other ladies have given you great advice about documenting everything, just in case you need it. Hang in there, she will be here soon!

No Kyle I was given that exact advice a while back. I started a journal and have written down any encounter I have had with him. I should add this to it, I didnt even think of it!! Thanks for reminding me!

[~*sierra*~]

you r very prepared, thats good for u and kennedi.

as if he wants favours from u, thats so redick