[LisanAndy]

So I haven't talked to Andy yet because he's still working but I wanted to see what you all thought. As you know, we're living in my parent's 3 bedroom apartment in the upstairs of their house right now. They offered us to stay here for 3 years, save money to buy our own house, and in the mean time they'd finish the 4th bedroom which would make it 1200 sq. feet up here. We could paint and do whatever we wanted. They live in a gated community with a pool, a HUGE lake, and playgrounds everywhere. It's an ideal place to raise kids. We'd start paying $550 a month instead of staying free for only 1 year. There's a part of me that thinks it's an AWESOME idea since we would be saving to own something and could still continue to have kids if we chose to do so. There's another part of me that wants to be an independent family of our own. So, WDYT?

[*vi]

I think that's an awesome opportunity. The only thing I would say is make sure that you all have your individual space and that your parents aren't always around in your part of the house and you guys aren't always in their space. It would give you guys a great chance to save and get your own place and for now it sounds like a great place to raise your kids. I think as long as you and Andy both agree that it will work out for you, then you'll be fine, but like I said you'll need to definitely keep time for your personal space and personal time with just you, Andy and the kids. If that makes sense...

[Trannyfromtheuk]

I totaly agree with Vienna.
If me and my Dh had this oppertunity, I would snatch it with both hands before my parents changed their minds!

In the long run, 3 years isnt really that long.

[Frozendesire]

I would do it... actually we are impatiently waiting to do that right now. Once my in laws house sells we are outta here and into a nice split house. If there is a separate entrance, separate washer and dryer etc etc so we don't have to share anything then we'll do it.

Sounds like a good idea to me

[*krista*]

I would stay with parents. It really is a great opportunity to get ahead financially. I wish I was able to live with my parents and save money a little longer!

[**Jenn**]

I agree with everyone else, I'd do it! Especially since you have your own apartment up there. It's a great opportunity to save some money and there's nothing saying you have to stay 3 years. If you're able to buy something of your own before that you can do that too!

[Mars]

I totally agree with Vienna and the other ladies.

[bittersweet]

Hmmm...it depends on the relationship dynamics with your parents. If you have a great relationship, they dont cause issues b/w you and DH, they dont try to tell you how to be mom, etc.....then I think I would be more willing to do it. But sometimes, things like this dont come without a 'cost' of some sort. As long as this doesnt turn into them feeling like you owe them something, or b/c they let you live there practically rent free they should have a say in how you live your life/parent your children.

But assuming all is well with the parents and there isnt serious dysfunction, I would do it. You really do need 20% down for a house now and this is a great way to get a home of your own at a decent rate.

[A*LOT*OF*HOPE]

The question I would ask myself would be if I would really save the money?? Im the kind of person who would spend more becasue I had it!! If you will truly save money for a house then I say go for it, if you are like me and wouldn't save money, or save for a bit and then stop, I would think really hard about it!!

[LisanAndy]

I REALLY appreciate all of your input. It means so much to me and you've given me a lot to think about. I'll be sure to update with our final decision