We've talked about it a little bit before, and neither one of us want another one any time soon. I was thinking of ntnp this upcoming summer, but today Dustin tells me he is happy if Jack is our only.

Even though I don't want another baby for a good while, I think I want more then one! I guess pregnancy and birth and the first few months were no pic nic for him either. Anyone care to share their experiences with this?

[**Jenn**]

I think just give it some time. Jack is still very new and a baby is a hard thing to adjust to. Once he gets older I think Dustin will start missing that baby stage and will be more inclined to want another. Getting pregnant has not been an easy road for you guys, he's probably not eager to repeat it or even think of repeating it right now. I'm sure he'll come around though in time.

Ian always said he'd be fine with just one (if any at all!) and then we had Liam. Once he started getting older he was more ready to add another baby to the family. Then once we had Lochy he said he was done for a while and was happy with just the two of them. Then as time went on a little further he got the baby bug and wanted another too. We were both completely adament that Lila would be our last and now we're talking about a 4th!!! You can't rule anything out yet! Just give it some time, I don't think you guys are done yet!

[~*sierra*~]

i hope ur man just needs some time to come around michelle

i'm having a hard enough time getting my dh to bd with me for #1!! lol so i'm no help!

[IamMom]

Did Dustin ever want more than one? Did he just change his mind now that Jack is here? This was something DH and I decided long long long ago.....two for us plus Brayden....that was always the plan. If Dustin has changed his mind remind him that you all made a decision together a while ago on a number....and I'm sure once Jack gets to be a little older he'll see how important it would be for Jack to have a sibling if that's what God has in store for you guys! Good luck girl!

When I first met him he told me he couldn't have children. I told him I'd fix that He really didn't think he could have kids though, and then I told him I wanted 4. Originally I think he thought he would just go with whatever I wanted, but now that reality has set in he doesn't ever want to go through any of it again. I can't really blame him, especially when Jack still won't sleep through the night. He seems pretty resolute on not wanting another now, and although I think eventually he would acquiesce to whatever I wanted, I want him to be happy. Whoa, I 'm using big words today! lmao

You girls are right I should just give it time. I don't want to do it again anytime soon either. Stupid c section

[*krista*]

I think Jenn made some great points. Although I don't have any btdt mommy experience to share, I think if I were in that situation I would make it clear to DH that I do want more eventually and then just leave it at that for now... you know, plant the seed.

[Resi]

Damon would be more than happy with one too. But I don't think it's because of the newborn stage. I've always done most of the hard work and he hasn't lost much sleep because I've always been the one to do all of that. For him he just can't imagine sharing his love with another.

I think in time they both could come around. How would you feel if he stayed firm about it? Would you be okay with only one child? I know I would be okay but sad that I could not do it all over again. Plus it's nice to think about having a family of 4. On the other hand I think we could provide and offer more to just one.

[LisanAndy]

I would just wait it out. Once Jack gets a little bit older I bet he'll change his mind

[sara~b]

I'm in your boat Michelle! Shane doesn't want any (at least for a long time) and I want another one fairly soon. I'd say space and time is all you can do. It's hard being patient and it's harder the older our babies get! Shane and I don't use protection anymore so I still have some hope but I think it would have happened by now if it was going to happen naturally. What are you guys' chances of conceiving naturally? (sorry, I forget what your problems were! oops!) Maybe you could NTNP until he's ready?

[ShannonMVT]

Does he have siblings? I think David might be content to have just Matthew (it's hard to imagine loving another baby the way you love the one you have I think) but for the fact that he agrees with me that it is good to have a sibling. So I think he'll agree to having another just to provide a sibling and then of course he'll fall in love with that baby too.
I'm sure the first months (and even now) being hard has an impact as well. I'm not in a huge hurry to repeat all that either. All the TTC bullcrap and the newborn stage are no picnic. (pregnancy was cool though haha)
I'd mention the sibling aspect to him and see what he says about that. But really he may just need more time to forget about any of the "bad parts" of having a new baby and he'll probably come around in time. Wait till Jack is walking and talking and then go find a friend with a newborn for him to hold and he might just be sighing and wishing for another.

[Mars]

I can't offer much advice besides what's already been said and that is to give it more time.

I'm happy with one and so is DH. I don't know if I'll change my mind in the future or if DH will change his but I don't concentrate on it. I just live in the now and enjoy Amara. Our decision is basically this, we planned for one, Amara, and we're happy with her. We're not "planning" (that is, no timing bding or anything like that) for another but if another should come along then so be it and we'll be happy.

[petalfuzz]

Obviously I don't have any, but DH and I decided before we were married to have 3, and then maybe a 4th. We're still of the same mindset and we approach ttc as ttc our first, not our only. So sorry! Just enjoy your baby and see what happens with time

DH is adamant we will never have anymore. He has health issues which made it virtually impossible for us to get Kirsty so I can safely say we wont have another which saddens me. It breaks my heart that I'll never experience a baby growing inside me ever again

I always wanted 2. DH wanted non so I guess we have both made sacrifices.

There is something appealing in never playing the reproduction game again. I dunno, I always wanted more, and wanted to have them relatively close together. I'm not so sure now. Maybe I would be ok with Jack. Only time will tell. Although if we couldn't get preggo again I don't think that would really bother me since I do have my little guy. I like your outlook Mari.

I'm sorry Fi ((HUGS))