[Resi]

Anyone have any idea why Oliver won't eat for my husband or I? But then he goes over to Grandma's and eats like crazy? She makes him soup (chicken & noodle or veggie & noodle) and he goes nuts for it. I make it and he turns his head to it and everything else I offer. I had to force in a taste of the soup I made him yesterday before he realized he liked it.

[Mars]

Hmmmm...I have no idea.

[LisanAndy]

Taylor's the same way but Rylie's the opposite. My mom can get Taylor to eat just about anything but not Andy or I. Rylie will ONLY eat for Andy and I but not my parents... it's crazy LoL. I wish I could be of more help but I have no clue why they do this.

[Angelaosaurus-rex]

Landen will eat for daddy but not me most of the time.

[~*Bethy*~]

If you dont offer - what does he do? We had to stop offering it to Morgan, and just feed her when shes interested. Maybe your mom has a fun way of eating LOL Maybe make a biiiiiiig fuss about a new plate and a new fork so he can feed himself? Morgan never wanted to eat until she saw us eating, and not offering anything to her. If we offered, she would pass it up.

[IamMom]

Oh Resi get use to that....HE HE HE! Harrison still does things better for "Mimi and Papa" and "babysitters" alot of the time....like this past Saturday Harrison stayed at their house overnight and I warned my parents that Harrison is going thru a "stay with me" "sing me a lullaby" "lay in here with me for 2 songs" "don't go" etc. etc. phase when we put him down at night...and is then trying to get up super freaking early (I think I have solved this issue though with a prize box!)....so they were prepared....what does he do...he went right into his bed, said "Goodnight Papa" and my dad walked out the door and they didn't hear from him until 7 am the next morning... Figures!

[Resi]

lol.. I thought I posted about this in my PR. Oh well.. I haven't told you guys about how picky he is. It's stressy me out at times. I can offer about 5-8 things for breakfast and he turns his head each time. Same with lunch and dinner. He can be picky with my mom too. He eats maybe a couple bites of something and he is done if he will eat at all! For example for breakfast it might be 2-4 bites of toast (he usually will always eat bread), lunch might be a couple bites of cheese and more bread, dinner might be a couple bites of what we are eating.. snacks puffs, crackers, toddler cookie. He will try something and spit it out or turn his head and get mad at me for trying to feed him. Then he will nurse a lot becaues he is hungry. Somedays he will do better.

[Trannyfromtheuk]

Does he eat when you guys do?

We found Mia ate better when she ate at the same time as us x

[Resi]

Originally Posted by Mummy2Mia

Does he eat when you guys do?

We found Mia ate better when she ate at the same time as us x

Yes. I almost always sit down and eat along with him. I have even tried holding him while he eats, letting him walk and come up to me for bites, eating out at a restaurant. There is no telling when he will eat or not eat. One day he will like something and a couple days later turns his head. I'm guessing it's something he will grow out of. I sure hope so.

I have no idea. My brother was super picky growing up though, and he grew like a weed. I ate copious amounts of everything and you know how that turned out

[ScottishBrit]

Cambria does the same thing!! She eats soooo much with my mom and David but when I feed her she whines and doesn't want to eat. It drives me crazy!!!!

[Chelnae6]

Miki was like that too. She'd only eat certain foods around us but would eat EVERYTHINg at the baby sitters. We eventually made food and ate it and eventually she'd want some too. The baby sitter said that its common for children to do that (be picky/shy eaters around their parents but eat everything around others)

[soImarriedAnerd]

I know many kids will not eat for moms who breastfeed...because you hold the "magic" boob and they want that. so they think your holding out on them! LOL thats what I hear at least

[Chelnae6]

@ magic boob!

[Resi]

Originally Posted by soImarriedAnerd

I know many kids will not eat for moms who breastfeed...because you hold the "magic" boob and they want that. so they think your holding out on them! LOL thats what I hear at least

So what should I do? Keep stressing out about it or not worry too much. Damon has tried feeding him without me in the room and that doesn't work either.

[Resi]

Originally Posted by soImarriedAnerd

I know many kids will not eat for moms who breastfeed...because you hold the "magic" boob and they want that. so they think your holding out on them! LOL thats what I hear at least

So what should I do? Keep stressing out about it or not worry too much. Damon has tried feeding him without me in the room and that doesn't work either.

[soImarriedAnerd]

Originally Posted by Resi

So what should I do? Keep stressing out about it or not worry too much. Damon has tried feeding him without me in the room and that doesn't work either.

As long as he is getting nutrition and gaining weight I would just not worry. Its not hurting him and your not messing him up or anything. he will get there with you guys....hopefully sooner than later.

Just out of curiosity does he eat from her with you guys in the room?

Don't stress... stressing makes it all worse... BTDT!! Do you always offer spoon-feeding foods?

How does he do if you were to cook small chunks of veggies & chicken? Pop them on his tray and let him try picking it up and eating it? Chunks of fruit?

Try not to get into the trap of "try this", "one more bite", "go on", etc.... but when he does take a mouthful, praise him to the heavens!! Make a HUGE deal that he has eaten something and ignore that he hasn't eaten.

It sounds more difficult as he is BFing to replace his solids, by the sounds of it, But try to persevere. Does he ask for booby? Or do you feel he might be hungry & offer?

Another tactic to try... I have to give Kirsty a food tub to play with whilst I feed her. I tried giving her a spoon but she'd put her spoon in her mouth & eat nothing. So a pot works better! Whilst she is occupied with the pot, she automatically opens her mouth & accepts food from me. Deffo try the chunks of food though. Kirsty went through a phase of not eating last week as she was ill, and the chunks worked better as she could pick & choose what she wanted/didn't want.

If he doesn't eat what you offer, do you then offer something else and something else in the hope that he will eat? Do you ever give in and give him a "favourite" food just so he has eaten something? If you do... try not to! He will get into the knowing that if I refuse the food mummy offers, I'll get rewarded with something I love. I used to offer savoury, it'd ger refused so I'd give a yogurt so Kirsty would have "something in her belly"... but she got used to the fact if she refused savoury, she would get a yogurt reward

(sorry this was so long)

[Resi]

Originally Posted by *Fiona*

Don't stress... stressing makes it all worse... BTDT!! Do you always offer spoon-feeding foods?

How does he do if you were to cook small chunks of veggies & chicken? Pop them on his tray and let him try picking it up and eating it? Chunks of fruit?

Try not to get into the trap of "try this", "one more bite", "go on", etc.... but when he does take a mouthful, praise him to the heavens!! Make a HUGE deal that he has eaten something and ignore that he hasn't eaten.

It sounds more difficult as he is BFing to replace his solids, by the sounds of it, But try to persevere. Does he ask for booby? Or do you feel he might be hungry & offer?

Another tactic to try... I have to give Kirsty a food tub to play with whilst I feed her. I tried giving her a spoon but she'd put her spoon in her mouth & eat nothing. So a pot works better! Whilst she is occupied with the pot, she automatically opens her mouth & accepts food from me. Deffo try the chunks of food though. Kirsty went through a phase of not eating last week as she was ill, and the chunks worked better as she could pick & choose what she wanted/didn't want.

If he doesn't eat what you offer, do you then offer something else and something else in the hope that he will eat? Do you ever give in and give him a "favourite" food just so he has eaten something? If you do... try not to! He will get into the knowing that if I refuse the food mummy offers, I'll get rewarded with something I love. I used to offer savoury, it'd ger refused so I'd give a yogurt so Kirsty would have "something in her belly"... but she got used to the fact if she refused savoury, she would get a yogurt reward

(sorry this was so long)

Thanks for all the advice and ideas. I offer chunks of food that he can pick up and if he doesn't want it he wipes it off the tray on to the floor. I also always try to feed him myself. We do praise him and try to make a big deal about it but I have tried to force him to eat something by offering it over and over again. Sometimes he will try it after I force a little taste on his lip. I do think he uses the BF as a back up when he is hungry because he refused to eat solids. He will ask or I will offer a lot during the day. I will try your idea of giving him something to play with so that I can try to feed him while he is distracted. Yes, a lot of the time I end up giving him something I know he will eat like snack food when he refuses everything else. I guess I do it because he keeps saying "ummm" which is his word for "I'm hungry". He is smart so I'm sure he knows I will give in to him..

Bless him! As difficult as it is, try not to offer "nice things" when he refuses food. If he says he is hungry, try and give him the meal again (heat up only a little bit of it initially, then you have some still fresh to offer shortly after?)