[sara~b]

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[HopeWishWait]

Wow, I'm sorry hun. Not having the support of your sister is hard, I went through something similar with mine. But your baby will have lots of JM aunties who love and support both of you!!

[Chelnae6]

WTH!!! Ok so maybe I'm missing some background. Does she think he's a controlling person and controlling your life or something?

I cant believe that she's disowning you. She should be joyful that she's going to be an auntie and if she doesnt like your BF, thats more of the reason why she needs to be there for you.

I'd sent her butt a picture back of your belly and gemma and say "You chose to give us up, not me!". Ok maybe thats not nice, so dont take that advice lol. Maybe you can give her some time. Just continue to be cordial with her and if she starts talking that crazy stuff just let her know that she's being negative for no reason and to talk to you when she's calmed down.

[*krista*]

Woah... what the heck?? Sounds like she is more having a pity party than having any genuine concern for you. And using her child to put a guilt trip on you as though she has no ownership in it is SO not cool. I'm sorry it didn't go well. Hopefully she will get over herself and start being excited for you!

[Alison81]

I'd give it some time. My friend went through something similar. She moved in with her bf, and her sister basically told her she had lost her as a sister because her bf wouldn't let them spend time together, etc. Her sister was just so used to her being the single one with her, and I honestly think she just needed to adjust to her having a supportive bf. It wasn't a baby but her sister and her parents also said they moved in together too soon, but eventually they all came around. She started visiting more with her bf, so they could get to know him, and now they love him.

Just keep reminding her that you love her, and want her support more than anything now.

[A*LOT*OF*HOPE]

Wow, Im sorry you have to go through this!! I hope she gets over it!! She is being very very childish!!

[LaLaRose3]

Ah, she is real WITCH! I am sorry hon, but know you will have lots of support from us here!

[midnight_starr]

I'm so sorry she is acting like that.. Give it some time and I'm sure she will over this real soon!

[sara~b]

Thanks girls. There's really no background between her and Shane. When I wanted to move out of my mom's I made the choice to move in with Shane and not her (she lives with her mom, she's only my half sis). That really ticked her off but I've said from the beginning that Shane is the one for me. She hated that I moved in with him so quickly (or at least that's what she claimed she hated about it).

Then she met him for the first time at her mom's BF's son's (confused yet?) 21st birthday. They set up a stage in the backyard and had a band and a pig roast and stuff. Shane asked the bathroom question that I mentioned in the last thread and that was it. She blew up and has hated him ever since.

We went to my nephews baptism and that was the second, and last, time they met. We sat through the baptism and then went back to our family's bar and ate some food and chatted a bit before we left. Nothing bad happened, no scenes, etc. I thought all was cool.

Now this. And after all that convo she just texted Shane complaining about me ruining her birthday. For all her claiming to hate him and claiming that he hates her, she sure did run to him quick when I wouldn't agree to an abortion just so I could drink with her in March.

[ShannonMVT]

Wow sounds like she is being really selfish! Have an abortion so you can go drinking with her?!

[~*sierra*~]

i sure hope she simmers down & comes to her senses.....she sounds totally irrational

[LaLaRose3]

That is insane! Expecting to you abort so you can go around drinking with her?! Craziness!

It sounds a lot like jealousy to me... She didn't like him from the beginning for no reason at all, and is now giving you all this crap when she SHOULD be supporting you! I am sorry you are having to deal with this right now, especially when you should be happy! *HUGS*

Keep your chin up girl!

[*krista*]

Woah, abortion so you can go drinking with her??? The world really DOES revolve around her doesn't it? Ugh... I'm sorry to say this because I know she is your sis, but that just makes me sick.

It sounds to me like she was looking for a reason to hate him from the beginning... the bathroom excuse is pretty lame. Why do you think she wants to hate him so bad? Is it jealousy?

[Resi]

Maybe she is jealous that you are living with your BF and she is single? My other thought is she isn't very mature? I think it's a little self centered for her to worry about having a drinking buddy for her 21st bday. It's not like you planned to get pregnant in order to not drink with her. You can still have a fun time together on her bday doing something else. Maybe she will come around after some time. She should be supportive of you because she has btdt.

[sara~b]

Originally Posted by *krista*

It sounds to me like she was looking for a reason to hate him from the beginning... the bathroom excuse is pretty lame. Why do you think she wants to hate him so bad? Is it jealousy?

We had talked about moving into her uncle's house (he passed away). We figured I made enough to pay the bills and she would stay home with the kids and finish her GED and do some college. I told her she'd have to get a night/weekend job to have spending money because I don't make THAT much. BUT all this was before I met Shane, or at least before I became serious about Shane.

When it came time to move out of my mom's house she still didn't have her uncle's house cleaned up and livable. She lives with her mom next door to it so there was really no excuse not to have it cleaned out and cleaned up. I had to make a quick decision and sleeping on her couch for the next 2 months didn't sound like a great plan so I moved in with Shane. She's been mad at me and hated him ever since.

She has a BF (albeit a very new one) and she talks about marriage and more kids, etc. So I just can't fathom that she thought we would live together forever or anything. And I told her she had to go to college AND be working but she's doing neither so she broke the deal before it started. I guess I'm just trying to rationalize my feelings but I really can't see where she has any right to get mad at me for getting exactly what I've wanted.

It's been 5 years, 5 months and 2 days since I had a positive pregnancy test. This one might not have been expected but I can't be upset. In fact I'm thrilled so her anger at my happiness just hurts all the more...

[Angelaosaurus-rex]

Wow your sister is acting immature and selfish. Seriously waaa you can't go bar crawling! And what does she expect you to do? Its a little to late to be like yeah NVM I don't want to be pregnant lol. Please don't let her get you down.

[Mars]

WOW! I don't know what to say. I can only conclude that it possible that she's jealous. I hope she comes around.

[*krista*]

So she's not jealous of you, she's jeaous of Shane. It sounds like she is doing it again and looking for a reason to hate the fact that you are pregnant, and once again she has this lame excuse of you not being able to go bar hopping with her on her birthday. She's not good with excuses is she? I hope she isn't really that self-centered and is just saying that because she is worked up right now.

Sounds like you and your sister need to have a serious sit down talk and get all the feelings on the table... maybe that would heal things. I hope she comes around. KUP.

[CandaceDianne]

I am really sorry that was her reaction! I dont agree with it, but I hope she comes around!

Yeah Sarah, I seriously hear, "But what about meeeeeeeeeeeeee?" in all of that. I bet she'll come around. Sorry she has to be such a PITA!