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December 15th, 2009, 09:03 PM
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Ian, Morgan and Isabella!
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Join Date: Mar 2008
Location: Hillsboro, Oregon
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So he ended up sending a very....harrassing letter to my midwifes. I could shoot this man. He said Im VERRRRY high risk, and told them everything he informed me and basically told them that they are risking my life letting me have a VBA2C. Which, ok, I am high risk after having 2 c-sections - but OMG who in the world would jump into risks like this without knowing the fine print?! Does he really think Im that stupid?!?! He flat out said "I dont mind her switching to you, Im completely fine with that" UM WHO ASKED YOU?! Your not my parents and your certainly NOT god!!! The nerve he has....lets just say my midwife was a bit astonished that he would even try to contact us like this and basically try to throw me off course. He also said he took care of my "previous pregnancie'S" hence the S there....um excuse me?! I switched to him when I was 28 weeks pregnant with MORGAN, my 2nd child!!! She will be informing him that I/WE are not appreciative of his phone call, and his his letter in attempt to scare me into a c-section. What is he thinking?! She wants to send him a picture of me in the birthing tub holding the baby, and smiling  So much for thinking he cared about me...I can dream right?
Can I just say - I LOVE MY MIDWIFES!!!
~Beth
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December 15th, 2009, 09:26 PM
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Mega Super Mommy
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Join Date: Mar 2008
Location: Washington
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Wow, he is weird!!! I hope he gets the hint when your midwife talks to him!!
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December 15th, 2009, 10:02 PM
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lost in la la land
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Location: lost in Iowa
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lurker here
I'd send a copy of that letter to the hospital he delivers at. He had no right to do that at all, completely unprofessional!
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December 15th, 2009, 10:16 PM
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Platinum Supermommy
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Join Date: Jan 2008
Location: Depends on the day....Earth :D
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^^^I would do that also. I actually would make photo copies of it and send it to the local media with some HBAC info 
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December 15th, 2009, 10:32 PM
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I wouldn't do anything other than send him a photo of you in the tub with your baby after your successful VBAC! 
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December 15th, 2009, 10:45 PM
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Platinum Supermommy
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Join Date: Apr 2007
Location: So. California
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What a weirdo! I would be mad to. I would do what the other girls said and add a pic, LOL!
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December 15th, 2009, 11:36 PM
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 Bre!
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December 16th, 2009, 01:03 AM
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Platinum Supermommy
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Join Date: Jul 2007
Location: Earth
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Double ditto Bre and Michelle lol!!!
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December 16th, 2009, 03:34 AM
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Platinum Supermommy
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Join Date: Feb 2006
Location: Hagerstown, MD
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I definitely agree with Bre! How crazy is this guy?! Wow!
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December 16th, 2009, 04:12 AM
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Platinum Supermommy
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Join Date: Apr 2007
Location: Barbados
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I am a bit surprised he sent the letter to your midwives but I do think he's very concerned but that may just be me. I know some doctors/persons wouldn't give 2 "cahoots" about what you are doing but he knows the risks and even though they are small he's perhaps trying to make sure that you do have all your bases covered especially since you have 2 young children to be concerned.
If I was in your position, I would call him and tell him that I understand his concerns but I've done the research, know the risks and am comfortable that I can get through this without complications. And, also that my midwives are highly trained and have coached me about this option as well. In addition, I would let him know that if a complication should present itself that the hospital is very close by.
AND THEN, I'd send him the pic after the successful VBA2C!
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December 16th, 2009, 04:56 AM
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Platinum Supermommy
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Join Date: Oct 2007
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a pic is worth 1000 words! when he sees u and baby safe he will realize he was being a spaz
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December 16th, 2009, 05:14 AM
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Platinum Supermommy
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Join Date: Mar 2008
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Woah! Okay, I was an advocate for this doc last thread, but I don't know... that borders on concerned and strange.
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December 16th, 2009, 05:56 AM
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Mega Super Mommy
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Join Date: Jan 2008
Location: South Carolina
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What a jerk. The end.
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December 16th, 2009, 06:03 AM
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Platinum Supermommy
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Join Date: Aug 2006
Location: Pittsburgh PA
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I would seriously report him. I know everyone said he was just concerned in the last thread but this is seriously messed up. First off, WE hire the doctors, they don't choose us! Doctors seem to forget that they are in a CUSTOMER SERVICE business. Yes they are much higher paid than a retail clerk but they have the same job description! They are there to provide a service! Second, he already expressed his concerns with you. Due to doctor-patient privelege he is NOT allowed to discuss your health history with anyone else, including your midwives, unless you sign a release! He violated the HIPPA laws which are there to protect you from harassment due to your health history! Report him and give a copy of his letter to the media and in a few months send his office a pic of your successful delivery! But do NOT let him get away with this! How many other women do you think he has scared out of their dream births?!
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December 16th, 2009, 06:27 AM
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Platinum Supermommy
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Location: Northern VA
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Thats bananas! I'm pretty sure your midwives know the risks of having a VBA2C. I definitely agree with them taking pics of 1) you pushing the baby out (kind of gross but proves the point!) and 2) you and the baby bonding right after birth.
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December 16th, 2009, 06:53 AM
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Mamma to Mia
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Location: Grimsby, England
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Hes already spoke to you on the phone so i dont think he should have gone behind your back and tried to get your midwife to his tearms.
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December 16th, 2009, 06:58 AM
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Lilyan's Mommy
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Join Date: Oct 2008
Location: Georgia
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He definitly over stepped his boundaries now. Thats ridiculous!! 
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December 16th, 2009, 09:02 AM
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Ian, Morgan and Isabella!
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Join Date: Mar 2008
Location: Hillsboro, Oregon
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thanks for your input ladies!!! I will be emailing Jesica to see what further we can do, and what she feels comfortable doing. Ladies, she has delivered over 400 babies, half being VBACs - I HIGHLY doubt she would take me on without knowing the risks herself 
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~Ian Michael, 6~
~Morgan Alexis, 5~
~Isabella Joy, 1~
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December 16th, 2009, 09:55 AM
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Mega Super Mommy
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Join Date: Oct 2009
Posts: 3,169
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Who does that?!  He was totally out of line, and I would definitely be sending that pic to him!!
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December 16th, 2009, 10:29 AM
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Platinum Supermommy
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Join Date: Jan 2008
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Quote:
Originally Posted by *krista*
Woah! Okay, I was an advocate for this doc last thread, but I don't know... that borders on concerned and strange.
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me too!
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Originally Posted by sara~b
I would seriously report him. I know everyone said he was just concerned in the last thread but this is seriously messed up. First off, WE hire the doctors, they don't choose us! Doctors seem to forget that they are in a CUSTOMER SERVICE business. Yes they are much higher paid than a retail clerk but they have the same job description! They are there to provide a service! Second, he already expressed his concerns with you. Due to doctor-patient privelege he is NOT allowed to discuss your health history with anyone else, including your midwives, unless you sign a release! He violated the HIPPA laws which are there to protect you from harassment due to your health history! Report him and give a copy of his letter to the media and in a few months send his office a pic of your successful delivery! But do NOT let him get away with this! How many other women do you think he has scared out of their dream births?!
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THAT was totally what I was thinking also---BIG HIPPA no-no!
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