[sara~b]

I went down to my sister's house yesterday to give her and my nephew their gifts. She had some gifts for Gem and I and I wanted to get back all the baby stuff I had given her when she was pregnant.

Well we exchanged gifts and then went to get all my baby stuff. I was appalled! Everything is filthy, dirty and stained! She lost the bolts to my crib! She gave me my walker back with three legs and no wheels! The crib is knicked and scratched all to hell! The jumperoo is so nasty that I'm not sure I will be able to get it clean! The crib bedding is the same way! The worst part is that she never even used the crib or bedding! She was too lazy to set it up so I don't understand why it's in such horrid condition! I'm soooo mad at her!

She didn't have to buy a d@mn#d thing for my nephew because I gave her EVERYTHING and now she has destroyed it all and I have to buy everything new! I'm disowning her! I swear to God!

[Chelnae6]

Dont disown her. Thats ur sister despite her actions. U just know what to do/not do for the next time.

That is absurd tho. Shows that she doesnt care about ur items at all

[greeneyes]

Given the stories you've posted about your sister, I can't say that I'm the least bit surprised.

And seriously, I don't think there is anything wrong with cutting toxic people out of your life. You have Gem, a new baby, and an upcoming marriage to focus on, you don't need your sister's dramariffic crap.

[sara~b]

Thank you Kate! I love you! With everything she put me through with my nephew, then coming back and acting like it was nothing, now she's saying she's in love with some new guy, and now THIS..... I just can't take it. She's my only sibling but I'd rather just not have one. Plus she still hasn't gotten AF so we're still waiting to see if she's pregnant to the last guy or not! I just wanted my baby stuff back before we find out she's pregnant again. Now I wish I hadn't even asked! UGH!

[Mars]

I too am not surprised at this but I would not disown her. I honestly think your sister needs some sort of intervention or reality check.

[Angelaosaurus-rex]

That's messed up! I would pretty much beat her, but I would not cut her out. My mom cut every family member out of my life and I hate her for it. But just do what you feel is right for you and your family.

I hope she's not pregnant that guy is a p.o.s and that poor baby!!!

[JediRach]

Wow, that's really rough. I'd probably take a break from her for a while and let myself destress.

[ScottishBrit]

I would be mad to! Did you say anything to her when she gave them back to you? Like why is that so dirty or where's the leg to the walker? Maybe you can just space your self from her for a while?

[sara~b]

Thanks everyone but I'm just done. I CAN'T fix her. I've tried... I've offered her a home, I've offered my nephew a home, I offered to help her with school... I visited her when she was locked up in the youth home. I gave her all my baby stuff when she got pregnant ON PURPOSE the first time.... How much can I do really? She's going to be 21 in 3 months. She'll probably drink herself to death and there's nothing I can do to stop it! I just can't put myself through her crap anymore! Just because she's blood doesn't change the fact that she has never done anything but use me and everyone around her! There's just nothing left to do and I've got no emotions left towards her except apathy....

[~*sierra*~]

BLARGH! i agree with the pp...do whats best for you, at this point ur sister is just craziness non stop

[midnight_starr]

I'm so sorry your sister is like this.. I wish there wasn't something more for you to do to make things better for your sister but sometimes the toxic people in your life just isn't worth it even if it is family!

[Chelnae6]

Unfortunately in life there are some people that you just cant change. You can give and give and try and try but nothing works. They have to come to conclusions on their own and sometimes it doesnt lead to the best result. All u can do is be there for your nephew.

Dont cut her out though. Cut back on what you do for her and being there for her, I understand but you cant save everybody unfortunately and not everyone is as appreciative as we'd like for them to be.

[*krista*]

DH has family members who do nothing but use him, really and truly, and always have, so I kinda know where you are coming from on that note. I don't really want to go into detail, but he recently wrote them off, which I wasn't so sure about at first, but it seems to have done him some good for him in his situation. I'm not saying the same applies to yours, only you can really know that. I guess I'm just saying that in some situations it can be for the best to just let go, you know?

Honestly I think your sister has a lot of growing up to do... I hope she manages to do it. It is unfortunate that a child is stuck in the middle of the situation. This is awful to say, but I hope she isn't pregnant again considering she is turning 21 soon... with her erratic behavior there is no telling whether she will restrain herself from destructive habits.

[Mars]

I just hate that there is a little child in the midst of this. Someone needs to be around to protect him.

Will you guys, well your stepmom, continue to try for custody of him?

[sara~b]

I can't get custody of him unless the state removes him from her care. My stepmom has a shot because PA recognizes grandparent rights. I don't know if she will keep fighting for him or not but there's nothing more I can do and I need to think about MY children. I love my nephew but with as many CYS reports as I've filed the last couple weeks I don't think I'm getting anywhere. It sucks but I'm not the law and I can't kidnap him...

[Trannyfromtheuk]

Sometimes you've gotta just back off and let people realises what a total mess they are making of their lives. It may take her a month it could take her years but she will realises one day.
Such a shame there is a poor helpless child caught up into her selfish behavior and noone will take him away from her!

Like you said, you need to think of you and YOUR children!