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As you may have noticed, Breanna stepped down from the two boards she co-hosted and deleted her entire account from JM this evening. She asked me to share this message from her -
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I have been a member of Justmommies for over 4 years now and I have been a part of this community since before Reid was even a thought in my mind. On this board I have made true, wonderful friends. I have learned more than I could have ever imagined from a group of wonderful, supportive women. The memories that I share with Justmommies will be with me forever and it will forever hold a special place in my heart.
A recent development has changed my future with this site. A post that I made in the private forum of my playroom was sent to my boss in an attempt to get me fired from my job. I made a post that I thought would be kept private amungst friends and it was taken and used against me in a fashion that is simply indescribable. I can't imagine the type of person who would do this to me...to anyone. I don't know what I did to this person (or from what I hear, group of people) to deserve this, but the fact of the matter is that it has been done.
I'm not going to accuse anyone or try to make any guesses. It could have been anyone - a member of this playroom, a moderator, or someone else who somehow had access to a private, password protected forum. A while back I used to stay logged into JM on my work computer because I had no reason to think that anyone would ever be on my computer. Maybe my boss had been able to see my log-in information and saved it, reading it all himself, first-hand. I haven't the SLIGHTEST clue but my gut is that it is a JM member with access to our private forum.
For this reason, I have had my account deleted. 4 years and over 20,000 posts...gone. I have devoted so much of myself to this place and it has been ripped away. I take blame for what I have done at my place of employment. It is my own fault and I am dealing with the consequences. My whole life is up in the air. My boss did not fire me, in fact, he wants to work things out. It is ME that doesn't know if I can recover from this. I have never been more ashamed of anything in my life. My boss did not deserve to see the things that I wrote, but again, that is something that I have to deal with in my personal life.
My heart is literally broken. I don't think that I can cry anymore, and yet the tears keep coming. I am devestated that I have to leave this place that I love, that I have to leave the comradery that we have all formed over the years. I want a place to talk about my son, to ask questions, to be light-hearted with, to share my jounery through parenthood with. I want it back so badly, but I have to let it go. It's time for me to say goodbye.
I had no hesitation when I asked Rachel do delete my account. I also went onto Facebook and deleted every single person who is my friend through JM alone. I kept a few people that I've met in real life and that's it. Please, please, please try to not take it personally. I could barely see through my tears as I was deleting all of you because I know that 99% of you are good people. I hope that I haven't hurt you. If I have, I am so, so sorry. Please accept my appology. I just need to be done and to sever my ties.
I love you all so, so much. Give your beautiful babies a hug for me and Reid. Thank you all for sharing your lives with us. I will never take for granted what you have given me.
Wow. What a mess! i hope she will come back even if it is anonymously through another account or something. I will really miss her!
__________________ Sara, 27, married to Shane, 31, mom to Gemma, 6, and Ashlyn, born 8/7/10
Running for my health and sanity!
PR's: 5k-25:05 (old PR 25:10), 5M-45:03 (old PR - 47:22), 10k - 52:00 (approximate - training), HM-2:25:58 (ran a 2:17:36 during marathon), Full- 4:49:25 (old PR -5:49:40), 50k-7:05:56, 50M-13:31:14, 100k- 18:59:31 (old PR 20:56)
(All of these PR's are going down this season!)
OMG OMG. That's just horrible. How could anyone do that??? (If it was a JM member) UGH. OMG. I'm going to miss her, she removed me from her facebook I totally understand but that's so sad Is there anyway she'd rethink her decision of removing some people? I guess that would be really hard though
I'm so ticked off that someone would do this to her. I feel like crying. I can't believe that someone in our PR would do this. She is such a good hearted person. She shared her private life with us and someone used that to do something awful to her.
I cannot believe someone did this to her. Unbelievable. Absolutely, unbelievable.
Breanna, I stalked you at your DDC and of course the photography forum. I wish you didn't have to leave. This is just sick. Sick and twisted and horrible. I don't know, if you ever need anything or ever want to talk, I think you still have my number. I wish there was something I could do I don't know what else to say. I am going to miss you . . .
I don't believe it! I can't believe someone could do that.... especially to such a sweet person. That's just heartbreaking. She will be sorely missed. We love you Breanna!
OMG. That is unreal. Bre, I really hope you read this and understand that so many people want you to stay here and I hope, in time, you will be able to come back. You are a person I have 'stalked' over the past few years as I've loved your posts - reading about your journey up to TTC, then during TTC and pregnancy... and now as a Mummy.
I have unfortunately been in a similar situation as you. Within the first few weeks of me starting my current job, another workmate wrote an email from a work computer to a friend. My boss found it and I was pulled into the whole mess as the email contained information about me and things I had done/said. It was a very difficult few weeks. However, we were able to all work through it and now my boss and I have a really good relationship for it, built on trust and honesty - my boss is someone who I would now consider a very good friend.
WHAT! Are you kidding me??? I am soooooo Pissed Off right now! How can someone do this? This is Ridiculous! I dont want you to leave Bre! I am si up set and can not beliveve there are people out there that would do something so Malicious! Im speechless, I dont even know what to say
I am still just floored. And really, pretty ***** ticked. That someone would do that is Unbe******glievable. I just cannot imagine someone trying to ruin her life, and FOR WHAT!?
Honestly, I can't imagine even doing something like that to someone that I hated, loathed, and despised. It's evil. Pure evil.
Agreed. My stomach is just in total knots for her. I mean, this is her LIFE, she has to go into work daily... and if her boss had fired her for this, THEN what?! I just cannot believe anyone would do this to a person ever. And to top it all off, she just lost the support of 4 years of an online community, many who were actual friends and support to her, because now how can she trust anyone? What a devastating and isolated place to be in. Many prayers are being sent to her during this difficult time. What a nightmare. And what's awful is while everyone vents about their jobs, rarely do you hear someone on JM post about how many opportunities their job has given them, and the things they've learned and love about their career like Breanna has... she even sold a page in the magazine while in labor! And unfortunately her boss just had to read the complaints, the things she surely never thought she would have to have thrown back in her face as her boss sits her down to talk about it. I just cannot believe someone would be so cruel to do this to another person.
Omg that is so terrible. I cannot imagine what kind of person can be so cruel and so mean. That is soooo awful. What goes around comes around and I hope whoever did it gets theirs. It's not right. I'vee known people who I haven't seen eye to eye with but I could never ever besotted mean and malicious.
Breanna. I will miss u. I always loved reading about u and Reid. I hope u. Can stop in and update us. It's too sad for words. I'm sorry u had to go through what u have and my thoughts are with u.
Whoever did this to Breanna... is just sick and twisted and demented. Bre is such a good caring person! I actually really hope that the identity of the person who did this comes out in the open.
This is horrible. Bre, you and Reid will be SO very missed here!!! You are an important part of our community, you always will be. God this sucks!
