Ex-Fiance......Who's got them????

A*LOT*OF*HOPE · #1 February 8th, 2010, 12:21 PM

I was noticing in another post that some of you girls have had an ex fiance. I also have an ex fiance!! We were together for 6 years when we got engaged. The engagement only lasted 3 months when we called it off!! He was/is an amazing man, so kind caring and funny!! We just got bored, we grew up together, there was no spark there anymore. We still talked after we broke up, but since I got married we have stopped talking(it made Kyle uncomfortable).

So tell me.......who has an ex fiance....Why did you break up....Do you still talk??

~*sierra*~ · #2 February 8th, 2010, 12:29 PM

nope! dh was my only fiance

SandKmommy · #3 February 8th, 2010, 12:33 PM

unless you count the neighbor kid that gave me his mom's old wedding ring(she left/divorced her hubby cause she realized she was a lesbian) and asked me to marry him when we were 9

Chelnae6 · #4 February 8th, 2010, 01:00 PM

Me Me Me! I have an ex-fiance lol. We're still together though lol

Mod-LadyCoconut · #5 February 8th, 2010, 01:04 PM

I do. It was my highschool sweetheart. I was 17 & he was 19 when he proposed. My ring was white gold with a half carat diamond. We were super happy but then I told him we needed to take a break b/c I felt like we were too young. It's not that I didn't want to be with him, but I was being really rational vs emotional and I just kept thinking of how often people say that it won't work out b/c you're so young, blah blah that I felt like the mature thing to do would be to take a few steps back. I still feel AWFUL when I picture him crying. He hasn't been able to speak to me in years b/c he says it hurts too much... and he's had a series of really crappy girlfriends who cheated on him etc. I genuinely think if we had stayed together we'd still be happy... BUT I am so so happy that it worked out this way because I'm with Ben. I really feel like one of those lucky people who just found two people who were perfect for me. I don't have any regrets - although I do wish I hadn't hurt my ex. But I feel like this is the life I was meant to have and couldn't be more blessed.

A*LOT*OF*HOPE · #6 February 8th, 2010, 01:11 PM

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Originally Posted by LadyCoconut

I still feel AWFUL when I picture him crying.

I don't have any regrets - although I do wish I hadn't hurt my ex. But I feel like this is the life I was meant to have and couldn't be more blessed.

I feel the same way!! I never want to hurt anyone again as much as I hurt my ex!! It was a terrible time for me!!

The Jenny · #7 February 8th, 2010, 01:16 PM

Not me, but Dh has an ex wife

LisanAndy · #8 February 8th, 2010, 01:29 PM

I dated a guy from the time I was 14-16 and I totally thought we were gonna get married and he proposed to me and everything. I told everyone it was a promise ring because clearly it was ridiculous. He's now engaged and has a daughter. He's a HUGE druggy now and almost got sent to prison for cashing fake checks. His mom told me it was my fault he's like that because I broke his heart when I broke up with him. He was already starting to head down that path and that's why I called it off. I'm honestly not totally sure but I think I may have even had a chemical pregnancy with him. I had a positive test, a very light one, and I was terrified because I was only 15. I took another test the next day and it was negative. Of course, back then I knew nothing about babies and didn't know about evap lines or chemical pregnancies. I guess I'll know if I have another baby some day...

LadyGamer · #9 February 8th, 2010, 01:29 PM

mine left me for my ex-best friend... who are getting married this year. no we don't talk. we didn't end very well. i don't really tolerate betrayal.

Mars · #10 February 8th, 2010, 01:37 PM

No ex fiances here.

HopeWishWait · #11 February 8th, 2010, 01:49 PM

Mine is similar to Lisa's, I was like 16 so it doesn't really count I don' think. We were together for 3 years and I absolutely thought I would marry him (who doesn't at that age, right?) But he went off to college and started partying, which is fine, it's what you do at college I guess but then he started smoking weed which is a big no no as far as I'm concered. He just started treating me like crap and I was miserable constantly..so I finally got the nerve to call it off! And I'm so happy I did

He hasn't been with anyone else since and to this day I get emails randomly about how much he misses me and how he screwed up and he thinks he will never find anyone else and will be alone forever because I was "the one". I feel badly for him being so sad and lonely but I have no regrets about ending it.

#12 February 8th, 2010, 02:33 PM

Nope. I wasn't interested in love or long term relationships in high school. I wasn't really all that interested when I met DH either, but look at me now!

sara~b · #13 February 8th, 2010, 03:45 PM

I def have one, kind of two! I'm sure most everyone here remembers all the drama with Zack and me moving to NC and then back because he called off the wedding 4 months before the big day!

Well before him, back in highschool, I met a wonderful man. We were great together and we're still great friends. He gave me a promise ring for Christmas and everyone was thrilled. We planned to wait until I was a sophomore in college to get married and then rent until I graduated and then buy a house. I went down the wrong path with partying and such and broke up with him my senior year. We tried again a couple times once I got straight but I just didn't have the same feelings for him anymore. And now I'm glad because the third time is a charm for me!

soImarriedAnerd · #14 February 8th, 2010, 08:30 PM

I did. We were together on and off for about 5 yrs. We broke up when I was 20 (he was 24). He dumped me because he felt bad the 9th time he cheated on me....yeah I was a winner back then

greeneyes · #15 February 9th, 2010, 06:05 PM

I have one, sort of. Does it count if we talked about getting married for months and months, only to have him propose and I said no? Lots of drama and then he ended up trying to sue me. Boys!

A*LOT*OF*HOPE · #16 February 9th, 2010, 08:26 PM

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Originally Posted by greeneyes

I have one, sort of. Does it count if we talked about getting married for months and months, only to have him propose and I said no? Lots of drama and then he ended up trying to sue me. Boys!

Tried to sue you for what...... Breaking his heart???? If I could sue someone every time they broke my heart, I would be friggen rich!!!

greeneyes · #17 February 9th, 2010, 09:27 PM

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Originally Posted by A*LOT*OF*HOPE

Tried to sue you for what...... Breaking his heart???? If I could sue someone every time they broke my heart, I would be friggen rich!!!

He tried to sue me for my half of everything he paid for during our relationship: Gifts he bought me, meals we shared (he had McDonald's receipts in there!), cost of gas when we took trips together, etc. If you search my threads in the private section you'll see where he tried to get me to appear on a TV court show. I don't want to post too much about it because technically he can still pursue a case (valid or not) until May 2010.