So tired of everything being "cause hes in daycare" (Saw the ENT today with JJ)

Oriyan · #1 February 22nd, 2010, 02:36 PM

I'VE HAD IT WITH THESE DOCTORS!!

With the exception of J.J's wonderful chiropractor (who understands that moms who are educated come with college loan debt and need to work to pay them off), our ped and the new ear nose throat doctor we saw today's answer to everything seems to be "its because hes in daycare"!

NO ITS NOT BECAUSE HES IN DAY CARE YOU MORON! HE'S BEEN SICK SINCE HE WAS 3 WEEKS OLD! HE DIDN'T ENTER DAY CARE TILL HE WAS 10 WEEKS OLD!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

The ENT barely even looked at J.J before he determined "he needs tubes in his ears" since hes had an infection for 8 weeks now which mind you, the latest course of antibiotics has not worked yet. (So we're doing it for ANOTHER 7 days).

*sigh*

We've decided with spring around the corner that we are gonna see what happens. Less snot nosed sick kids around might help him. We are also gonna continue with the chiropractor and see how that goes as well. If all goes well, then yay. If not, then we will discuss the whole tube issue.

But really, I am tired of hearing "He's a day care baby". Well gee, If YOU wanna pay the rent and all my bills and my tuition at private college, I would GLADLY stay home all day with my son. But until then, he needs to be watched so daddy and mommy can work.

soImarriedAnerd · #2 February 22nd, 2010, 02:42 PM

I wouldn't tell them he is in daycare

then see what they say! LOL

sara~b · #3 February 22nd, 2010, 02:45 PM

I hear you. But I also have experienced first hand just how crappy daycare germs are. Gemma was just like JJ with ear infections constantly (always double, always recurring). They even diagnosed her with asthma which I now think was just recurring coughs, congestion and infections. I took Gemma out of daycare early last month and we haven't had a single illness/ear infection/snotty nose since. I understand that you HAVE to work and your ped should NOT use that as an excuse for not looking for a better treatment for your little man. I hope he gets well soon and you get some answers. Oh, and I would probably do the tubes. I will say that, looking back, 5 years of treating constant infections and missing work and filling scripts was probably more trying and harder on me and my wallet than just biting the bullet. Not to mention now I am not sure about Gem's hearing. We are always yelling at her to turn down the TV and she says she can't hear it. Sorry you have to deal with this!

*krista* · #4 February 22nd, 2010, 05:09 PM

Ditto to Angela, go get a second opinion and don't tell him/her he is in daycare!

Mars · #5 February 22nd, 2010, 05:17 PM

I'm really scared for you with these ear infections because I know what could happen. I'm not sure if there's anyone around where you could get a second opinion and perhaps better treatment but continue to monitor the situation very closely. I really do not like that his ear drum ruptured and I don't like that it seems to be getting overlooked rather than getting a thorough inspection. I understand the frustration about getting told that it's perhaps due to him being in day care. While there is some truth to it being associated with being around other children who will be sick, etc, I think that they're overlooking the fact that he's been suffering with it way before he went to daycare. I really, really hope you find a treatment plan soon.

Oriyan · #6 February 22nd, 2010, 05:58 PM

See that's the thing no one seems to be looking at is that he has been having this issue 2 months PRIOR to entering day care. He was NOT around children before then. He was at home with me or being watched by a friend. Obviously he caught a resistant strain of something from somewhere.

Problem with doing tubes now is there is so much research that says not to do it this young. Makes me wonder if he just wants a buck.

Not to mention, I saw this guy today myself for my sinus infection and he spent more time cleaning the wax out of my ears then addressing my sinus problem.

The wax by the way was friggin NASTY.

Looks like I am gonna have to get a FOURTH opinion.
(Ped wants to keep an eye on it, Chiro says they can treat it and he won't need tubes or antibiotics, and ENT wants to do tubes)

All i wanna do is take my baby to swimming class (cause he LOVES water) and I can't even do that cause I am afraid of getting water in his ears

~*sierra*~ · #7 February 22nd, 2010, 06:24 PM

awe i hope jj gets well soon.
they make these moldable earplugs that work really well, and then you put a swim headband on the kid over top of the moldable earplugs. my sis can't get water in her ears and that's what she uses. so you could take him swimming.

LisanAndy · #8 February 23rd, 2010, 02:46 AM

Oh gosh, I'm sorry!

Andy, myself, and out girls have ALL managed to get H1N1 and a terrible sinus infection with a fever this year and they don't go to daycare. It could be from anywhere... my DH at work, going grocery shopping and touching the carts, ect. Anytime you're in a public place you're susceptible to germs so sure, daycare might be part of the culprit but it won't be any different once he's in school KWIM? You're doing just fine with the little guy and you're a very strong mama. I agree, I wouldn't tell them he's in daycare anymore! ((HUGS))

*krista* · #9 February 23rd, 2010, 05:19 AM

I just wanted to add... I'm sorry you can't get a doc to listen to you. I know that's gotta be incredibly frustrating, not to mention insulting. Docs can be so hard headed. Poor little J.J.

midnight_starr · #10 February 23rd, 2010, 06:12 AM

Geez Sam, I'm sorry all these drs are hard headed!!

Trannyfromtheuk · #11 February 23rd, 2010, 06:58 AM

The poor little man

and poor you!
Im sorry the dr is trying to blame this on the fact he goes to daycare. Thats tottaly wrong in everyway!!
I honestly hope he gets something that makes him better soon!

Chelnae6 · #12 February 23rd, 2010, 11:12 AM

Oh wow! How frustrating and angry I'd be so I definitely understand. Esp b/c they dont listen to the fact that he's had it since he was 2 weeks and didnt enter daycare until 8 weeks later. I agree on getting a 2nd opinion and not letting them know that he's in daycare to see what they say.

**Jenn** · #13 February 23rd, 2010, 11:42 AM

I'm so sorry the doctors are giving you such a hard time. Daycare or not he has something wrong with him and blame isn't going to fix it! These doctors need to do something about it and not give personal commentary and speculation on why he may have these recurrent ear infections. His poor little ears, I feel so bad for him! I had chronic ear infections when I was little and so did my younger brother--his to the extent that it did affect his speech. And none of us were in daycare. I really hope you find someone to help JJ and that his pain will stop.

IamMom · #14 February 23rd, 2010, 02:13 PM

my kids are daycare kids....and Harrison ended up with tubes - it was like the world changed overnight - he hardly ever got sick after that (with the ENT stuff). I wouldn't rule out tubes....it really all went smoothly and worked quite well to stop the ear infections and whatnot.

freesiangel · #15 February 23rd, 2010, 03:27 PM

I'm so sorry you guys are having to go through all of this.

Adriana's Mommy · #16 February 23rd, 2010, 09:50 PM

I'm a working mommy and I totally understand.. Your supporting your family and your not taking handouts.. Good job mom!!

Can you get a second opinion? I would go to a different doctor or stress that you want other options and putting tubes in his ears is a last resort..

Remember, your a advocate for your son! Don't let them push you around..

Oh and both of my kids go to daycare and they are rarely sick.. They will have a stronger immune system when they attend public school..