[Mod-LadyCoconut]

Okay I'm a little sensitive about this topic so if you disagree with me that's totally okay, but please be considerate because I might get my feelings hurt. I debated about saying anything at all... but I need to vent about it and hopefully at least someone agrees with me. Like I said, if you don't agree with me that's okay too... but please be nice about it.

For Valentine's Day I gave DH this photo frame of Lily. On one side it holds a 5x7 photo and on the other it had a little clay well thing where I did Lily's handprint and footprint. So for the photo I put this photo in --



So anyway, DH loved it and brought it to his office and put it on his desk. A woman co-worker came in and said that it was inappropriate to have a picture showing off her 'boobs' and that he should probably take it down.

I can certainly understand not doing photos with an actual penis or vagina showing... but her chest? On like a 3 week old baby? Really? I mean to me, you can't tell the difference if she's a girl or boy in that photo and it would be okay for a man's chest to be showing. I just don't see how this is inappropriate or offensive. I really don't think any pedophile is going to get off looking at that picture.



So now I'm all subconscious about if its weird to have pictures of Lily without a shirt on or something. I feel like it's no big deal but maybe everyone else disagrees. It's making me feel bad.

[greeneyes]

Whaaa?? I totally disagree with Ben's coworker. I have the CUTEST pic of Violet's adorable lil baby butt displayed in our house and have never thought twice about it. I agree that itty bitty baby naked pics are totally fine to publicly display as long as there is no penis or vagina showing.

People are weird, I swear.

ps: Lee agrees with me and I cannot repeat what he said because the Air Force has given him a potty mouth.

[A*LOT*OF*HOPE]

Thats the dumbest thing I have ever heard!!! That lady is crazy!! I think that is an adorable picture!! It's not like she is 12 or something. When it comes to babies my husband has some strange ideas(like not bathing with our kids) so I thought if there was any bit of weirdness to this he would say it!!! I told him what you did for Ben and then showed him the pic......I then told him what the lady said, and he thought that lady should give her head a shake. So if my DH thinks it is ok, then it must be ok......LOL Keep taking those adorable nakey baby pics because they are to cute!!

[SandKmommy]

OMG That is the dumbest thing ever, whats the problem with that. I told dh and he rolled his eyes. I post "naked" pictures of the kids on facebook, heck go to any photo studio (and some doctors offices) and you will see naked babies with their butts showing. Its not like she has real boobies yet their just cheechee's which all babies this age have and basically look the same (I think its weird that someone could associate something sexual with a 3week old like that)



There's nothing wrong with the picture, keep posting and sharing! heck you saw my facebook pictures of my almost 11mo old shirtless

That co-worker is a dumb *******. No baby has boobs. You have to GROW them - at puberty. Even men get boobs! Give me a break! I want to kick his coworker in the anus for you. That picture is adorable, and don't feel bad for showing pictures like that

[Kiwi]

That is the most stupid thing I've ever heard!

Your daughter is absolutely adorable, and there is nothing inappropriate or offensive about a 3 week old babies bare chest!

Don't let that women upset you Shannon, she's the one with the issues here, not you.

[A*LOT*OF*HOPE]

Originally Posted by MomToJack

I want to kick his coworker in the anus for you.

OMG I love you Michelle........thats so funny

[Mod-LadyCoconut]

Thanks girls. I felt like it was acceptable but got a little paranoid that maybe it's just like an "okay for JM" type photo or something and not work-appropriate. Either way it hurt my feelings that someone could say something negative about my daughter, even if she didn't mean it specifically about Lily, and even though it doesn't hurt Lily's feelings. I just keep looking at my innocent baby and feeling bad that someone would think ANY photo of her right now could be anything but adorable.

Also... just b/c its kind of an interesting situation with this woman --

Ben had to train her when she first started working there and he totally hated her. People in his office gave him a bunch of crap b/c he was paranoid about catching the flu or something and getting me sick while I was pregnant... so he had this gallon sized hand sanitizer on his desk. So then he had to train this woman who was constantly snotting all over the place. Like she was touching his mouse/keyboard and it was driving him crazy. She would throw her kleenex towards his trash and miss and not pick it up. When he came back from break and found her CUTTING HER FINGERNAILS AT HIS DESK, we thought surely people were just fing with him and sent her to do this on purpose. Nope!

So we couldn't stand her... and then she threw him an office baby shower. She cooked all of this awesome jamacain food and got gifts and a cake and balloons, etc. So after that Ben felt like he couldn't not like her because then he'd just be a dick.

On top of that - she's from Haiti. 29 of her 32 family members living there died. Her 3 year old niece lost both of her parents, and Ben's company used their private jet to fly the niece up here and now the co-worker is raising her. She brought her into work one day like right when she got her because she had no one to watch her for a couple hours and Ben said he felt so bad he was going to volunteer me. Poor little girl doesn't even speak english! I'm glad that didn't wind up happening b/c I'd have been a mess that day - Lily was like a week old at the time.

ANYWAY... so that's the backstory on this woman. He is really insulted about her comment about the photo but feels like he can't be mad at her b/c of the Haiti thing andd the fact that she went out of her way to throw the shower.

I think its weird her ettiqute says my photo is inappropriate, but snotting on someone's desk and cutting your nails there is totally okay. Whatever.

Well, that is sad for sure . . . but I'd still want to kick her in the anus. I suppose it is a cultural difference thing. Last week Dustin took Jack into work and one of his Russian co-workers and his wife came up to Jack's sock-less feet and went on and on about how cold his feet were, asking how he could be sock-less in our - gasp! - 70 degree weather when Dustin was wearing a jacket, and how Americans are always doing things like that, blah blah blah. He was PISSED. Jack's feet were fine, and he felt like they were calling him a bad dad (and he is seriously an incredible dad). Uhhhh, what was my point? Oh yeah, cultural differences. That must have something to do with the co-worker's dumb butt comments in both cases. Not that that makes it any less hurtful.

& lol you can type dick on JM

[szczepanski]

Maybe it is just a cultural thing then and nothing to take personally?

I don't find anything wrong with it.....she is too precious in that photo. Her being nakkey was the last thing on my mind when looking at it!

[ShannonMVT]

There is NOTHING wrong with that photo! As long as it's not showing penis or vagina it is fine. Even little baby butts to me are fine. Lots of people do those cute photos with the butt up in the air.

Maybe this woman is just being a weirdo b/c she has issues going on right now. Or maybe it's a cultural thing? If I were Ben I'd keep the photo up, she probably won't say anything else and if she does he can just tell her that is his BABY and she doesn't have any boobs.

[JediRach]

I'm gonna jump on the bandwagon and say there is nothing wrong with that picture and no reason for him to take it down.

[Mod-LadyCoconut]

Originally Posted by MomToJack

& lol you can type dick on JM

You used to not be able to, but one of the hosts was saying it was crappy because it was her husband's name or something... so now we're allowed to as long as we don't get out of hand about it.

When I said Ben didn't want to feel like a dick, I mean he didn't want to feel like a guy named dick. I just forgot to capitalize the proper name.

and yeah... I'm going to chalk this up to cultural differences ... the people in my PR agree that the photo is okay... and perhaps I scared off all the people who disagree with me by posting that it'll hurt my feelings... but whatever, I got validation and I feel better now so ... win!

Originally Posted by LadyCoconut

You used to not be able to, but one of the hosts was saying it was crappy because it was her husband's name or something... so now we're allowed to as long as we don't get out of hand about it.

When I said Ben didn't want to feel like a dick, I mean he didn't want to feel like a guy named dick. I just forgot to capitalize the proper name.

and yeah... I'm going to chalk this up to cultural differences ... the people in my PR agree that the photo is okay... and perhaps I scared off all the people who disagree with me by posting that it'll hurt my feelings... but whatever, I got validation and I feel better now so ... win!

I am now soooo tempted to get out of hand about it and make up long sentences using that word. ooooh, must resist

[sara~b]

I'm with everyone else! I mean a newborn is NOT sexual in any way, shape or form! You couldn't tell that photo of Lily from a photo of Gem or Dustin or Taylor or Henry at that age! If I can post photos of my big ole naked preggo belly on FB for everyone to see then there is NOTHING wrong with that pic! (And we all know how SEXY preggo bellies are!!!! LOL).

[.Brandi.]

Shannon....I see absolutely NOTHING wrong with this photo!!! And Ben's co worker is a not nice word.....(<----sorry...that's really all I can think of her!) She's an absolutely beautiful, gorgeous and adorable baby girl and I don't see any wrong with her being nude.....I don't know if you're religious or anything but Ben should have turned around and said "Oh, yeah...well if it wasn't for Eve...none of this would matter!".....Hope that doesn't offend anyone...I'm a Christian, but if it wasn't for Eve....nakedness wouldn't be an issue!!!

[*Anna*]

Very cute picture!!!! And I think that lady is so crazy. Just like a woman who told me when I was NIP that girl babies who are BFed can turn into a lesbian! NO JOKE!!!! CRAZYSSS!!!!

Nothing wrong with babies being naked for pics. I would think a child, maybe 2-3-4 ish without clothes may be too old... because of all the sick-o's out there though!

[Mod-LadyCoconut]

Originally Posted by *Anna*

Very cute picture!!!! And I think that lady is so crazy. Just like a woman who told me when I was NIP that girl babies who are BFed can turn into a lesbian! NO JOKE!!!! CRAZYSSS!!!!

NO WAY!!! No way! What on Earth did you say in response to that?! I don't even think I'd be able to say anything I'd be so SHOCKED! What is the matter with people!? That is insane and totally ridiculous!

[*Anna*]

Originally Posted by LadyCoconut

NO WAY!!! No way! What on Earth did you say in response to that?! I don't even think I'd be able to say anything I'd be so SHOCKED! What is the matter with people!? That is insane and totally ridiculous!

I sat there with a "DUH" face and then said, "I don't believe that for one moment and I know whats best for my little girl." Then she said something like "well she's young, and if you don't do it past 6 weeks she'll be fine" I then got very mad... and said something like "I'll def go past 6 wks, and prob BF til she's 2-3 years old at least but definately before she leaves for college!!!!" I was so mad. Alexa was like 4 months old at the time, and the lady thought she was like 2 wks old. She was old and sooooo old school... She is prob like my MIL who thinks BFing is gross!!! Yes my MIL actually thinks its gross... and I won't go into it but told me when I'm at their house to be "discreet" and not BF in front of her or FIL!!!!! That infuriates me and I have to go to bed so I won't get into it. Ahhhhh ILs drive me nuts!

[Mod-LadyCoconut]

my MIL thinks its gross too