Jealousy has gotten the better of me - vent....

~*Bethy*~ · #1 March 3rd, 2010, 04:47 PM

I wonder if when I go into labor, if we didnt tell DH's mom....if his mom would care? When my BIL's girlfriend had their baby, I got so ooberly jealous - I dunno why. So its almost like I want that type of private party that they all seem to of had. It really makes me mad at times that people probably dont ever feel the way Im feeling. Yes, Im jealous. But her baby is more important than my kids ever where. Its like as soon as I had Morgan, no one cared. She didnt bother to come get Ian anymore. Im just hurt...and overly pregnant Im sure.....but is there ANYONE out there that feels like I do?

*Mrs.J.2011* · #2 March 3rd, 2010, 04:57 PM

It's your time. I say if you don't want her there then don't invite her. It's not a requirement that everyone be there. It's your special time don't stress enjoy your baby being born in a stress free way if that means she isn't there than too bad for her!

~*Bethy*~ · #3 March 3rd, 2010, 05:02 PM

well it wasnt a question of her being there, I wouldnt have allowed it anyways. She wont have my kids either, I wont allow it. If that baby is more important that my kids who were there FIRST, she wont have them. Im just so mad that Katie can parade her baby around and get everything she needs just handed to her - and yet I dont even get a phone call to see how Im feeling....its not fair

faith*hope*love · #4 March 3rd, 2010, 05:42 PM

I don't have any advice but I just wanted to say that I'm sorry that you are feeling like this and having to go through that. Hugs!

Resi · #5 March 3rd, 2010, 06:16 PM

She should be treating and loving all of her grandchildren equally. Does she have a closer relationship with your BIL's GF? Is she closer with BIL than your DH? It's not an excuse but I'm wondering if that is part of it? It's too bad she doesn't think of your children and want to be more involved.

Chelnae6 · #6 March 3rd, 2010, 07:19 PM

I remember you telling us about this before. I think it was after BIL g/f had the baby. I'm sorry you're feeling this way. I have no idea what you're going through and cant even imagine the way you're feeling.

((((((((HUGS))))))))

Have you ever thought about asking her or having DH ask why she doesnt do things for your children?

~*Bethy*~ · #7 March 3rd, 2010, 08:25 PM

Thank you ladies

Its because they live with my MIL which is another reason I think she honestly doesnt care. Maybe shes too wrapped up? Christmas went smoothly...but when I handed her the card from Isabelle to Grandma linda, she just looked at it funny and goes "oh well I guess its a girl..." no congrats, no hugs no nothing

Sorry guys Im just having a hard day....

No I dont think it would be worth it for hubby to talk to his mom because I dont want to seem needy....

ScottishBrit · #8 March 3rd, 2010, 08:47 PM

OK, I just posted something similar to how you feel in Private!!! I totally know how you feel!!!!! Mine is mostly about SIL but MIL has a lot to do with it too!!! Im sorry, I know how you feel and being pregnant doesn't help things. How does DH feel about it?

~*Bethy*~ · #9 March 3rd, 2010, 08:50 PM

thats actually what sparked this amy LOL I was reading your post and about started crying because IVE BEEN THERE TOO!!! Its such a feeling isnt it

Almost like I was replaced and thrown in the gutter

soImarriedAnerd · #10 March 3rd, 2010, 10:37 PM

alicenwonderland · #11 March 3rd, 2010, 11:38 PM

*Hugs* I'm sorry, that has to be sooo hard. I'm definately not in the same situation, but i find myself jealous of my own last pregnancy.

The first time i was pregnant, everyone was ecstatic an my SIL was pregnant at the same time. Everyone was always asking how i was, and my SIL would reminise with me.

This time... everyone must be all nervous or something. Nobody asks how i'm feeling. No one even smiled when I announced it. I just don't understand.

Trannyfromtheuk · #12 March 4th, 2010, 02:01 AM

to you all.

Bethy - Have you spoke or asked Dh to speak to his mom and tell her how he feels? Do the kiddy winks realises how there grandma is about them and their cousin?

LisanAndy · #13 March 4th, 2010, 02:28 AM

((HUGS)) Beth

fromGirltoMommy · #14 March 4th, 2010, 03:35 AM

Im sorry sweetie, like others have said she really should be treating all her grandkids the same!

Mars · #15 March 4th, 2010, 03:57 AM

(((HUGS))) for Bethy, Amy, Alice and anyone one else going through something like this.

~*sierra*~ · #16 March 4th, 2010, 05:03 AM

maybe call her and ask her to spend time with your kids? i'm not saying leave them with her, but maybe have her over to bake cookies or something together? maybe she is so wrapped up with the new baby that she forgets what she's missing.... although i can't believe she said that after you gave her the card...that sounds so bee with an itchy!

midnight_starr · #17 March 4th, 2010, 05:08 AM

(((HUGS))) I know the feeling.. My MIL has DH's cousin and pregnant girlfriend living with her and seems to take more of an interest in her pregnancy than mine and I'm sure she'll do more for that baby since we don't live by her and it makes me sooooo upset that she probably won't be around much for her first grandchild!!!!

Chelnae6 · #18 March 4th, 2010, 08:15 AM

YEah have you thought about having Morgs or Ian call her every once in a blue and maybe having them ask when she's coming to see them. I know its not their responsibility to do this but its a start.

ScottishBrit · #19 March 4th, 2010, 08:31 AM

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Originally Posted by ~*Bethy*~

thats actually what sparked this amy LOL I was reading your post and about started crying because IVE BEEN THERE TOO!!! Its such a feeling isnt it

Almost like I was replaced and thrown in the gutter

Thats It I say we have these babies and Tell no one!!!!! But DH's of course

Frozendesire · #20 March 4th, 2010, 09:15 AM

Awe I'm really sorry, that's horrible!

The only thing I can suggest it opening up communication. Either yourself talking to her or your husband. But I can understand how that would be hard.