I have become much better at this, but it is still a problem for me. How do you bite your tongue and not start an argument over something stupid just because you are annoyed. I am talking mostly with your spouse, but really I suppose it applies to anyone. Are you just laid back? Do you count to 20? I find that I am still sleep deprived, and I get too irritable sometimes. Now that I have a child, I feel like I have to get rid of any negative behaviors I have pronto so Jack doesn't pick this stuff up from me. Anyone else feel this way?

[~*sierra*~]

when i get annoyed or mad (with dh or anyone really) i usually just take a deep breath and keep to myself for a bit. i usually calm down and realize it wasnt such a huge deal whatever it was.

[♥Ashley♥]

I have no advice because I get mad easily and yell. (Not with my DH really at all but with people in general)

[ANGWife]

I drink














j/k I usually just do most things around the house myself, so when something goes wrong I will only have myself to blame. Seriously though, it's all about picking your battles and then try to see the positive in the situation. I get so angry that Ed leaves his crap everywhere and I'm left to clean it up. But then I have to say I'm thankful he's even HERE to leave his crap around, KWIM?

[Angelaosaurus-rex]

OMG Morgan LOL!!!!


I just quickly go over my options in my head and normally ignoring it seems better then me eating the person alive. Because you know I might go to jail or something.

[soImarriedAnerd]

It takes ALOT for someone I know to get me upset. But random strangers....I have less patience with them and I don't hold back much since I figure I will never see them again! LOL

[Trannyfromtheuk]

I normally just walk off and have to be on my own for a while, calm down and then address the situation witbh a clare head.

[*Amy*]

I'm having a problem with this right now. Not with DH but with our permanent houseguest. He just has NO common sense whatsoever. I ask him to do something and he doesn't do it then makes up some dumb excuse as to why he didn't do it. I just have to walk away because it's not worth getting heated about anymore. I have my baby to think of and I don't need to be getting upset about stuff right now.

I guess I'm no help. But my only suggestion is to just walk away, take a deep breath and count to 10. If it's something worth having a discussion over wait til you've calmed down a little so it doesn't start an argument or make the situation bigger than it needs to be.

[SandKmommy]

W/ dh I don't not really. I'm trying to be better but I normally say whats on my mind IRL...online not so much because I already tick enough people off(and cause they don't know me and wouldnt know how what I typed is supposed to come across) and because I can't get my point across by typing it out.

[Mars]

It depends on my situation and mood. If I'm in a crappy mood, then someone's going to get it. If not, I just think about something different, kind of like going to my happy place...lol.

Morgan, LOL!

[*krista*]

I'm fairly non-confrontational in general. But with DH I agree, it is about picking your battles. If it is something that will matter in five years, I will pursue it; if not, I ask myself "do I really want to ruin the evening or weekend over this?"

When DH and I argue, we keep it pretty level headed and talk things out... we don't yell or name call, ever, which I think is very important. We try to avoid placing blame since that won't really get you anywhere, and focus on resolving the issue instead.

I think I just went off on a tangent...

[Mod-LadyCoconut]

My 'bad habit' I need to get rid of is casually cursing. I am GREAT at not yelling when I stub my toe or get peed on or something like that, but just in calm casual conversation, I drop the f bomb as an adjective pretty frequently without noticing. That's what I really need to control. But as far as my temper goes... I can cut a bits down to size pretty quickly when I have to... telling my MIL we were pregnant was a pretty fine example in screaming matches... but typically if I'm mad about something, I want to walk away and be alone until I cool off. Its not very often that I get that fed up, but when I do I need some space. DH and I don't yell or call eachother names... but if he didn't let me go when I was mad I'd probably wind up yelling at him... its rare that I'm pissed but when I am I really need to cool off. Taking the time to walk away makes it pretty evident that there's usually nothing of importance I'm actually MAD about and that I'm just in a crap mood in general and wanting to take it out on someone who doesn't deserve it. And apologizing over 'nothing' feels really good. Like when I haven't lost my cool and can just apologize for being in a crappy mood and having that affect other people... I dig that. It's like I'm apologizing for not being fun to be around, and I'm not having to apologize for actually being a bits to anyone, if that makes sense. Instead of feeling like I "won" an argument, I feel like I "won" the battle against my temper. Wow I feel really lame typing that out, but its true. haha.

[JediRach]

I yell. I'm getting better about it but I'm a yeller.

[~*Bethy*~]

Originally Posted by LadyCoconut

My 'bad habit' I need to get rid of is casually cursing. I am GREAT at not yelling when I stub my toe or get peed on or something like that, but just in calm casual conversation, I drop the f bomb as an adjective pretty frequently without noticing. That's what I really need to control. But as far as my temper goes... I can cut a bits down to size pretty quickly when I have to... telling my MIL we were pregnant was a pretty fine example in screaming matches... but typically if I'm mad about something, I want to walk away and be alone until I cool off. Its not very often that I get that fed up, but when I do I need some space. DH and I don't yell or call eachother names... but if he didn't let me go when I was mad I'd probably wind up yelling at him... its rare that I'm pissed but when I am I really need to cool off. Taking the time to walk away makes it pretty evident that there's usually nothing of importance I'm actually MAD about and that I'm just in a crap mood in general and wanting to take it out on someone who doesn't deserve it. And apologizing over 'nothing' feels really good. Like when I haven't lost my cool and can just apologize for being in a crappy mood and having that affect other people... I dig that. It's like I'm apologizing for not being fun to be around, and I'm not having to apologize for actually being a bits to anyone, if that makes sense. Instead of feeling like I "won" an argument, I feel like I "won" the battle against my temper. Wow I feel really lame typing that out, but its true. haha.

Im. the. exact. same. way. I do yell, but most of the time if I do something stupid I drop the F bomb, where hubby would drop the f bomb while yelling. But when he pisses me off my temper does fly.....

[LisanAndy]

Because we're always around the kids, they're the reason we don't fight more I walk away for a little while because I don't want to argue in front of them... it's hard sometimes. After I've cooled down we talk about it calmly. Like last night... Rylie got shots yesterday and at 5:30PM I told him we are down to a half dose of Tylenol for her and we need to get more. He said ok. I was saying this until 7 PM and but he was playing Madden and said ok now we can go. I said, I told you this an hour and a half ago, it's an hour until the girls bed time! It'll take 10 mins to get there, 10 mins to get back, and at least 5 mins in the store. They still need their baths and story time and they haven't had a nap today so they're probably going to nap on the way there and back which will take the edge off which means they'll be up a little later!!! There's a Weis right by our house but he said he preferred to go to Wal Mart because it'd be cheaper... umm, Andy, after the gas it'll take it'll be the same. I had to walk away because I was going to yell A LOT LoL. He apologized and said we could go to Weis but I just told him I'd go this morning when the girls woke up... SO annoying

[Chelnae6]

I rarely yell. I get too emotional when I yell and want to cry. Esp with being prego. I normally go "AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAHHHHHHHHHHHH" and walk away OR I throw things, not at the person I'm yelling at but I've broken about 3 phones throwing them down the stairs or at walls after being PISSED OFF!!!

I dont like to fuss or yell, I'd rather fight lol but I know how to control myself and hold back. Although there were a few times where, boy oh boy, if a specific person was in my presence I'd knock em out (or atleast attempt to). It takes A LOT, A WHOLE LOT, to get me going though. I have a lot of patience but DO NOT PISS ME OFF!!!

I am also apologetic and dont hold grudges and get over things a lot quicker than most.