A bit upset...(a lil rant)

Trannyfromtheuk · #1 April 3rd, 2010, 10:56 AM

After talking to my mum yesterday I think she has resinged her self to think I will never give her another grandbaby

She knows all about what we've been going through and how we've been trying for almost a year (I needed to tell her as she looks after Mia when we have drs appointments etc)

Bit of background info; I have two sisters, My elder sister has two girls (10 & 4), I have Mia and my younger sister is now 21wks pregnant with another little Girl due in Aug)

As you can see from that we're lacking in the boy department and my mum seriously wants a grandson!

We was talking at her house yesterday about how my sister is having a little girl (My sister is over the moon shes having a little girl - she wanted a girl) and my mum said that they could always have another one and that it might be a boy because its the only chance she has of having a grandson now.

I was just sat there in disbelief! I couldnt beleive what I was hearing. I just looked at her like

and she tells me she didnt mean it like that and got all flusterd.

I think she knew I was upset so I tried telling her just because I have found out I have PCOS this dosent make me infertile - clearly I can have kids, Mia is living proof of that!

I've told her before, I will be able to have another eventually - It might just take longer then we planned.
She should know better - It took her 10yrs to have me after having my elder sister

I will get to be pregnant again, I will savor every moment of that pregnancy and I will hold a new born baby and give Mia a sibling, Boy or Girl, I dont care as long as its healthy - even if it takes me 10yrs! Im still young - If I did have to wait 10yrs I would only be 31 still... So mommy dear, Dont count me out yet!!

~*sierra*~ · #2 April 3rd, 2010, 11:45 AM

omg you are SO young! pfft dont listen to your mom, she was clearly being a bit selfish in thinking about how SHE needs a grandson....honestly, maybe u just caught her at a bad moment though, cuz she did seem to feel bad about it after as you said. lots of ppl with pcos have babies plus seriously you have so much time to work on it i dont think you should worry yourself about it at all. try to focus on learning what you can about your pcos and i think the next baby will follow naturally *hugs*

*krista* · #3 April 3rd, 2010, 11:51 AM

I know that must have hurt. I don't think she meant it the way it came out, she just wasn't thinking about what she was saying. I wish I could reach through and hug you though, I can imagine how that felt whether she meant it or not.

LisanAndy · #4 April 3rd, 2010, 12:24 PM

I'm sorry she unintentionally hurt your feelings

I totally believe you'll have another one. One of my very good friends has PCOS and she tried for 6 years to have a baby and her son is now 2 months old. It CAN and WILL happen ((HUGS))

Mod-LadyCoconut · #5 April 3rd, 2010, 12:35 PM

Aw I'm so sorry. That would have completely hurt my feelings as well, even if she didn't meant to. I can't imagine how hard it is struggling with fertility, and while your mom clearly doesn't know all the facts regarding PCOS and the odds of you getting pregnant, it still sucks to hear that she may think of you as not able to give her another grandchild. But hey, at least you'll get to prove her wrong!

I also didn't realize you were so young, that's awesome cause you have plenty of time to figure this out!

Trannyfromtheuk · #6 April 3rd, 2010, 12:49 PM

Aww thanks girls
:dothugs:

Yeh, Im only 21

SandKmommy · #7 April 3rd, 2010, 01:22 PM

i would've been upset too. When I found out about my problems my Ob told me I'd never have kids...And Ive got 2

So I know you'll have another one! (Seamus is only here because my ob forced ovulation, and Kieran is a miracle because I was told just weeks before that I'd need ovulation forced again to get pregnant again.)

alicenwonderland · #8 April 3rd, 2010, 03:05 PM

*Hugs* That's really hurtful. I'm always shocked at the things that come out of our mother's mouths. (My mother told me just yesterday that i didn't look pregnant, just fat) I have every confidence that you will concieve again. I think you just may need a little help. And yeah, your window of fertility is far from closing!

*Mrs.J.2011* · #9 April 3rd, 2010, 05:00 PM

Hugs! I'm sorry she said those things! I can't wait until you are pregnant again... Because it WILL happen!!!

Mars · #10 April 3rd, 2010, 05:10 PM

I can understand why your feelings were hurt. I get that she did not mean to do that intentionally but it was a pretty insensitive remark. But I guess we all have had those moment where we put out foot in out mouth.

I believe that you have the right attitude going forward and there have been many success stories for persons with PCOS and I see you as being one of them too. I wish you all the best in your journey and I hope that you get a BFP soon.

And yikes!!! You are so young!!!

#11 April 3rd, 2010, 05:42 PM

I just read an article saying the chances of women with PCOS getting pregnant at an older age (30s) was even higher then that of the regular non-PCOS population. Go us!

Trannyfromtheuk · #12 April 4th, 2010, 12:28 AM

Woohoo!

I am honestly trying my best to do all i can in helping me with getting my BFP. I have been reading PCOS - The Hidden Epidemic on Kaleighs recomendation.

I also joined WW 3wks ago and I am already 7lb lighter. Also got rid of white bread, white rice & white pasta out of my diet and I dont feel as bloated either!