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April 20th, 2010, 06:26 PM
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Platinum Supermommy
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Join Date: Aug 2006
Location: Pittsburgh PA
Posts: 10,350
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my pregnancy, my marriage, my sanity....
I went to the bathroom and there's blood on the toilet paper, red blood. I told Shane and he told me I'm just stressing myself out and I need to calm down. I asked him when the last time was that stress made him bleed and he just stared at me. I knew immediately that he wasn't going to call off work, we weren't running off to the ER or at least calling the after hours line. I started sobbing and went on a rampage throwing all the baby stuff in boxes and bags. Shane tried to calm me down but he just kept telling me that I needed to calm down and if I calmed down then it would all be okay. I just yelled at him "Don't you get it? We're not coming out of this with a baby!" He put Gem to bed and just left. I can't believe he left! I finished packing up all of the baby stuff and I have it in a big pile in the dining room for him to put in the attic. I just can't believe he doesn't care at all and that he didn't even ask his parents to take me to the hospital or take Gem so I can go. After he left and I finished packing I realized I left my phone in my truck. I went out to get it and saw a missed call from him. I was hoping he was saying he was going to come home but I called him back and he just said he asked his parents to watch Gem tomorrow while I work so I can drop her off in the morning and pick her up after I get done. I can't believe what's on his mind is my going to work. I can't believe anything that's happening right now. I just feel sick. It's just not supposed to be this way!
update: i cried myself out after i posted and finally just fell asleep. i havent even gotten out of bed yet. i just dont want to know if im still bleeding. i hear shane feeding the dogs and getting wound down from work. if he even tries to talk to me i think ill punch him. i will update again when i get back from work (if the bleeding is gone). i got a couple kicks around 5am so i know she's okay for now. hopefully today will just end quickly because i feel like getting pregnant again and getting married are the two worst things ive done in a long time.
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Sara, 27, married to Shane, 31, mom to Gemma, 6, and Ashlyn, born 8/7/10
Running for my health and sanity!
PR's: 5k-25:05 (old PR 25:10), 5M-45:03 (old PR - 47:22), 10k - 52:00 (approximate - training), HM-2:25:58 (ran a 2:17:36 during marathon), Full- 4:49:25 (old PR -5:49:40), 50k-7:05:56, 50M-13:31:14, 100k- 18:59:31 (old PR 20:56)
(All of these PR's are going down this season!)
My Pregnancy Chart: http://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/1c6297
Last edited by sara~b; April 21st, 2010 at 03:48 AM.
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April 20th, 2010, 06:32 PM
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Platinum Supermommy
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Join Date: Feb 2006
Location: Hagerstown, MD
Posts: 23,058
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Wow  I'm sorry he isn't being supportive the way you need him to be right now ((HUGS))
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April 20th, 2010, 06:34 PM
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Platinum Supermommy
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Join Date: Apr 2008
Location: St. Louis, MO
Posts: 14,102
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WOW so what are you doing? You really need to be getting to the ER as soon as possible, if your bleeding like that!
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Cycle #1-9 - All Natural....5BFN's, 4BFP's (all ended in miscarriage) Cycle #10-11 - Met with first RE, diagnosed with heterzygeous MTHFR mutation & slightly low SA on all counts. -BFN, Cycle #12 - First IUI+Trigger - BFN, Cycle #13 - BFN Cycle #14-15 - Met with new RE, diagnosed with a blocked right tube that previous RE completely overlooked or didnt care to mention. Soy (120mg) - BFN Cycle #16 - Clomid (100mg) - BFN, Cycle #17 - Clomid (100mg)+Trigger+IUI - BFN Cycle #18 - Acupuncture+Clomid (100mg) - BFN Cycle #19-27 - 2 Soy (160mg) cycles, the rest all natural also 30lbs lost!! - BFN's Cycle #28 - New RE is GREAT! Put on bcp 7/6/11, Lap surgery 8/1/11- Tubal cyst (5cm) found and removed, Uterine Septum removed, and Stage II-III endo removed. Cycle #29 - All Natural - BFN, Cycle #30 - All Natural - BFN, Cycle#31 - All Natural - BFN, DONE TTC FOR NOW
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April 20th, 2010, 06:36 PM
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Mama To 3 Amazing Boys
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Join Date: Apr 2006
Location: Just the other side of sane!
Posts: 7,140
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Ummm what????? You're bleeding and he's not concerned?!?! What the hell? I'd call his parents and ask if you could drop Gem off with them and take myself to the ER or see if they'll take you! What an *****!!! I'm so sorry Sweetie!!!! Praying for your baby girl!!
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April 20th, 2010, 06:37 PM
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Platinum Supermommy
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Join Date: Oct 2007
Posts: 8,102
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first of all ****HUGS**** times a million.
secondly please phone the after hours nurse to go over whats happening with your pregnancy. if you feel something is wrong then u should definitely talk to them.
also, being married isn't always easy, but it definitely doenst mean that your marriage is over. there are hard times, when u can't believe the other person's actions for sure, but that marriage commitment pulls you through and gives you the courage to face that person again and forgive.
i wish i was there to give u a big hug and take u to the hospital......
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April 20th, 2010, 06:42 PM
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Mega Super Mommy
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Join Date: Mar 2008
Posts: 2,931
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GAAAHH Sara...call an ambulance if you have no other options.......you need to get looked at.....please!!! HUGS!
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"Children too are a gift from the LORD, the fruit of the womb, a reward." Psalm 127:3
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April 20th, 2010, 07:14 PM
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Platinum Supermommy
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Join Date: Apr 2007
Location: So. California
Posts: 12,651
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OK, you NEED to go the hospital and I hope you are there right now! I will say though that SIL bleed like that during her pregnancy and they could never really figure out why? So DONT give up hope!!! There could be nothing wrong!!! Also I can't believe he acted like that! That is crazy! What did his parents think? I know It's not a real excuse but maybe thats just the way he deals with thing's, is to run away from them. Maybe he is freaking out inside and doesn't know how to deal with it. Still you'd think his parents would care! Im sorry Sara!!! If I lived close I'd come watch Gem for you so you could get some help!!!
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April 20th, 2010, 07:23 PM
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Ian, Morgan and Isabella!
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Join Date: Mar 2008
Location: Hillsboro, Oregon
Posts: 6,244
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 please tell me you went in!!! Shane is not right in the head!!! Pleeeease give us an update soon!!! 
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~Isabella Joy, 1~
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April 20th, 2010, 07:27 PM
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Mega Super Mommy
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Join Date: Feb 2010
Location: DC Area
Posts: 4,410
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Please call the nurse! I hope that everything is alright!
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April 20th, 2010, 07:47 PM
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Mega Super Mommy
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Join Date: Mar 2008
Posts: 1,451
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please update us soon!
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April 20th, 2010, 08:07 PM
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Platinum Supermommy
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Join Date: Sep 2005
Location: New York
Posts: 7,577
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Umm, yeah, get your butt to the ER! I'd even call a neighbor and ask for a ride!
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April 20th, 2010, 08:19 PM
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Mega Super Mommy
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Join Date: Mar 2008
Location: Washington
Posts: 2,563
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I hope you are at the hospital right now!! Im so sorry you have to go through all of this!!! Please update us when you can!!! Hugs!!
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April 20th, 2010, 10:20 PM
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Platinum Supermommy
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Join Date: Apr 2007
Location: So. California
Posts: 12,651
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I hope your OK too! I keep checking here and FB for you =( Wait I have your number! But it's late here I dont wanna bug you. Im calling as soon as I wake up If I dont hear from you!!
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April 20th, 2010, 10:35 PM
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♥ Mommy of three ♥
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Join Date: Dec 2008
Location: Europe
Posts: 3,343
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Hope all is well, we'll be waiting on updates.
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April 21st, 2010, 12:15 AM
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Mega Super Mommy
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Join Date: Jul 2006
Location: New Zealand
Posts: 4,882
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Sara, I hope everything is okay and you can update us as soon as possible. I'm so sorry Shane isn't being supportive. Maybe he just doesn't understand how serious this is and doesn't know how to cope.
I'm sure everything is going to be okay. Thinking of you xx
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April 21st, 2010, 03:42 AM
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Platinum Supermommy
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Join Date: Feb 2006
Location: Hagerstown, MD
Posts: 23,058
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I hope everything is ok hun
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April 21st, 2010, 04:09 AM
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Mega Super Mommy
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Join Date: Aug 2007
Location: Southern Germany
Posts: 4,229
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I'm sorry Sara. Have faith... it will all work out. The only thing I can think of is to be direct with him and say what you need/want. Say if you need him to take off work to go to the hospital. Trust me, I completely agree that men should be able to figure this stuff out on their own but certain things (like pregnancy) they just need a little help.
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April 21st, 2010, 04:17 AM
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Platinum Supermommy
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Join Date: Feb 2006
Location: Hagerstown, MD
Posts: 23,058
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Huge hugs Sara. Men can be TOTAL idiots sometimes. My husband can still be insensitive but it's all about talking it out. Try not to let him or you go to bed angry and no silent treatment. Tell him what you're feelings are in a calm way and maybe that will open the door for him to talk too. Wow, I sound like a therapist LoL ((HUGS))
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April 21st, 2010, 04:52 AM
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Platinum Supermommy
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Join Date: Oct 2007
Posts: 8,102
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i hope today is a better day sweetie.....please KUP
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April 21st, 2010, 05:17 AM
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Platinum Supermommy
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Join Date: Mar 2008
Posts: 6,553
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Sara, I hope you know I say this with 100% love and concern for you and your baby. If you are still bleeding and you haven't done so yet, snap out of it and get your butt to the hospital! You don't need him to get to the hospital. I know it is hard but you need to hurt and be mad later, for now you need to get some medical attention. It might be a total non-emergency (hopefully), but then again, it might not be.
I don't think Shane doesn't care. I think he just doesn't understand the urgence of the situation. I'm sorry he isn't being supportive.
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