[LisanAndy]

Who's hubby had it done? How did it go? Was it super painful? How do you like it?

Andy and I have talked and we've decided he'll have a vasectomy done with income tax money next year when our 3rd and last baby is 3 or 4 months old. We both know financially this is all we should have and I actually feel done. I always wondered how anyone could feel that way but now I know, I just feel it. I'll miss pregnancy but it's not another reason to have another baby. SO! He's still nervous about it but my 2 BILs had it done and have never regretted it. I HATE condoms and never have or will take hormonal birth control and don't feel like charting until menopause is through so we feel like this is the best option. Any insight on this subject would be awesome

[.Brandi.]

We aren't sure if it's something we want yet. Chris and I both want more children. But unsure of how many. Everyone around us say he should get a vasectomy and I should get my tubes tied. But we've discussed this and neither of us wants that. But if it works for you, I say go for it. I just want to say, be careful. Chris works with a guy who had a vasectomy after he and his wife had their two boys (both are in high school) and they had their daughter in March of 2008. They still got pregnant with a vasectomy. Now, my dad got one right after my brother was born and my mom is currently going through menopause. They never had a problem with it. I guess, if God wants you to have more, you will!

[greeneyes]

I've heard of vasectomies self-reversing before but don't personally know anyone that it has happened to. Lee will be getting a vasectomy once we get to NC, before this baby is even born. I know it takes 3 - 4 months for the vasectomy to be considered "effective" so you'll still need some form of birth control (if you're not nursing or don't want to risk it) until that time.

I think Keri's husband (IamMom) has had a vasectomy, hopefully she'll jump on and tell us more about it.

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Ok, I just looked up the failure rate for vasectomy and it's 1 in 2,000 as compared to 1 in 200-300 for a tubal. That failure rate was based on "early vasectomy failure" so basically unprotected intercourse was practiced before the vasectomy was deemed successful. There wasn't a specific rate for "late vasectomy failure", it was just listed as "exceptionally rare".

[LisanAndy]

Thanks girls! If God gave me another baby I'd be ok with it but I'm hoping the vasectomy works LoL. Both of my BILs have had it done for 16 years now and they've never had any other kids. I'll be nursing and Andy will use condoms until we're given the ok. Yeah Keri, jump in and give lots of info

[IamMom]

My DH did have it done...best decision we ever made! I'll try to find my post about it....but DH was in pain for a few days...but nothing unbearable...he liked being babied he he he...it took about 2 minutes to do the procedure...its very non-invasive and quick! He hasn't had any issues since, no lose of feeling, no difference in "operation" etc. etc. We were also told that the liklihood of ending up with another baby is really high if you don't use protection right after its done...or it you don't get your two six week checks...we used other forms of contraception until both checks were done (12 weeks!) and he got the all clear. I still do worry a little about long term reversal but its very very rare (however, three of my parents friends had this happen in real life so I know for a fact it happens, I'm pretty sure they didn't do the checks though or at least that's what my dad says HE HE HE)....but that would be God's will.

Lisa - Andy should do it!!! You are right too...when you're done - you just know it!

http://www.justmommies.com/forums/f5...t-through.html (He went through with it!)

Here it is...its funny Lisa you say here that Andy would never go thru with it.....HA....things change when you're faced with reality huh!!!!

[ShannonMVT]

I just wanted to say that most stories I have heard of the vasectomy not working were cases of people not waiting long enough to clear out all the sperm. I guess nothing is 100% foolproof though and there is always a slim chance. I do think it's the best way for long term BC once you know you are done. We plan on Dh having it done once we know for sure we are through.

[LisanAndy]

Yeah, I finally convinced him, go me I just told him that since we'd like to home school I want to give my kids the best education possible. It also costs money and with 3 different grade levels it could get expensive. Plus I want to be able to have my kids enjoy things they want.. sports, dance, eating out, vacations, ect and I don't think we could do it with 4 kids. I keep getting "oh you're so young, why would you stop now?" but 3 children is plenty and I'll be 41 when my last is 18! So after 12 weeks they'll usually give the clear? I know it goes on an individual basis. So are there anymore checks after that? How do they numb the area?

[ANGWife]

Originally Posted by ShannonMVT

I just wanted to say that most stories I have heard of the vasectomy not working were cases of people not waiting long enough to clear out all the sperm. I guess nothing is 100% foolproof though and there is always a slim chance. .

That's how my BIL was conceived. It was 7 months after the vasectomy.

I think the V is a good choice though. Of course, we're still in the I'm not sure and want more kids stage. Only you know what's right for your family!

[*JenJen*]

Lisa, all I can say is be 10000% sure you are done. I don't want to talk more on the board but you can PM me if you are interested in my opinion...we've dealt with life post V, post reversal, and with all that jazz.

[LisanAndy]

I'd love to hear your opinion through PM I think my heart will ALWAYS want more because I love my kids but I have to take into consideration what's best for the kids I already have here and as much as I wouldn't be upset by a 4th (neither would Andy) I just know it's not good for us. Looking ahead to all the "expensive years" to come, I'd like to avoid as much debt as possible and with already having 3 kids it may be tough at times. I've watched my parents struggle raising 4 kids and my mom's 2 sisters and they accumulated over a 100 thousand dollars worth of debt over the years and are just now, at 61 years old, close to paying it off. I don't want to go through that, it scares me I said Andy, what if you don't love me anymore and you want a divorce and the person you're with wants kids? He said well when we got married we made the decision to have God as the center of marriage and it's a lifetime commitment, I won't fall out of love with you, I can't believe you'd say such a thing. I said well Andy, I love you and want you to be happy, though I'd rather it be with me forever, I just don't want you to do something you'd regret. Ahhh, I dunno. I guess I'll know more too once our 3rd baby is here. I was trying to convince him to wait until Spring 2012 when the baby would be 15 months so we'd have time to make sure but he's adamant about next Spring. We'll see...

[IamMom]

Lisa...I also believe that marriage is forever and this is how DH and I looked at the V decision...however, there is death and I said what if you marry some woman if I die and she wants kids...and he basically said well tough on her cause he won't want anymore kids and willl still have three kids in his life to raise and he has to think about them....so I hear what you are saying and its the same things me and DH thought and talked about. I think you are being very mature and selfless....and those are my opinions of course but I just wanted to give you some encouragement and let you know you are not alone!

[LisanAndy]

Thank you Keri I'll update again when the final decision has been made, probably after the baby is a few months old.

[**Jenn**]

This is the route we're going to go after we have our fourth. I thought I was for sure done until I was about halfway through my pregnancy with Lila. For some reason I just feel like there is one more little one out there for us, like our family isn't quite complete yet. Of course several things have to happen before we're in a position to have another baby and who knows, it may not happen, we may be done with three and I think I'll be ok with that. Regardless, it'll be a few years before we know for sure but dh will get it done at some point in the future. Like you, I don't know that I'd ever really "feel" done but at some point you just have to be for the sake of the kids you already have.

My Dad had a vasectomy about a year after my sister was born (my parents had a pregnancy scare and knew they couldn't afford a 5th child) and all was well with that! I think you just have to be careful until the dr. gives you the all clear, I think there's 2 post op appts, not sure on that one though.

[~*Bethy*~]

Thank you for bringing up this topic, Lisa! I will always crave that little newborn/pregnancy but if i ever want to ride and train horses again, we have to be done at 3 (2 would have been sufficient but I wanted our 3rd and last lol) hubby said he'd go for it so well be planning it for next years returns as well (izzy will be 9-10 months old)

[LisanAndy]

Yeah I'm ready for condomless sex without the fear of pregnancy, to get all the kids potty trained and take long vacations, and just enjoy their older years... bring on the vasectomy!

[IamMom]

Bring on the V! I love it!!!

Nice long relaxing vacations does sound nice.

Do you think we'll all still be on here when our kids are teenagers and we're all crying to each other about how they don't want to hang out with us anymore???!! That'll be so funny won't it.

[LisanAndy]

LoL!! I know, it's sad to think about. I can't even imagine Taylor, Rylie, and new baby being 16, 14, and 12... oh gosh, whole new set of worries there!

Yes, vacations where kids entertain each other and there's no "give that back", "don't eat the sand", "watch where you're walking", "mommy doesn't want to get in the ocean for the millionth time today, I just want to sit in the sun" I'll miss these ages though, I really will

[Resi]

I wish Damon would get "the big V" after we know we are done. There is no way we would have a third child and I'd like something done to prevent that. He is too chicken though..

[ShannonMVT]

Originally Posted by IamMom

Bring on the V! I love it!!!

Viva la vasectomy!

I'm hoping that I will "know" when I am done and that Dh will agree with me. I'm a little worried that I won't ever really feel done but we'll have to make the decision at some point and just move on to that next phase in our lives.

[Trannyfromtheuk]

Gary would have been happy to get it after Mia but hes slowly come around to having one more then we will be done.