Daddy bonding...

*krista* · #1 July 13th, 2010, 03:47 PM

I was wondering if anyone has any suggestions on helping Charlotte bond with DH? I know it is only natural for her to be more bonded to me at this point since I'm at home with her all day, but I feel bad because it is painfully obvious to DH. I can imagine how it makes him feel. Don't get me wrong, he is a wonderful and very hands on daddy. When he is home he is holding or playing with her.

Any thoughts?

Also, random question not worth another thread... can you use Butt Paste with CDs? No diaper rash, but she does have just a tiny bit of redness.

ANGWife · #2 July 13th, 2010, 03:49 PM

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Originally Posted by *krista*

I was wondering if anyone has any suggestions on helping Charlotte bond with DH? I know it is only natural for her to be more bonded to me at this point since I'm at home with her all day, but I feel bad because it is painfully obvious to DH. I can imagine how it makes him feel. Don't get me wrong, he is a wonderful and very hands on daddy. When he is home he is holding or playing with her.

Any thoughts?

Also, random question not worth another thread... can you use Butt Paste with CDs? No diaper rash, but she does have just a tiny bit of redness.

I don't have any bonding tips since whenever Ed is around, I'm always second best.

But no, you can't use Butt Paste with CDs

szczepanski · #3 July 13th, 2010, 04:23 PM

What kind of CDs? I use butt past with our natural fibers with no issues but the synthetics - suedecloth, microfleece, etc. you can't. BUT - just lay in a liner - like a piece of fleece, even a flannel wipe and voila, you are are good to go. You just want a barrier to protect the diaper from the cream. LOVE butt paste here too. We use that when his bum is a little red, but we use CJ's all the time.

As far as bonding....DH always gets Nolan when he comes home from work. They play on the floor together, read, he puts Nolan on his chest and makes up songs while laying on the floor. It gets better as she gets older and can "do" more stuff. Now Nolan is yanking on his nose, hitting him in the face with links...its nice, hahaha.

Resi · #4 July 13th, 2010, 04:37 PM

I've used Butt Paste on occasion with CD and had no issues. But I have mostly cotton diapers.

In time she will become more attached to him. She is still so young.

~*sierra*~ · #5 July 13th, 2010, 05:10 PM

i wish i had some advice for u hun! i'm sure as she gets older it will get a lot easier for them to chill together

Frozendesire · #6 July 13th, 2010, 05:16 PM

All I can suggest is lots of 1 on 1 time with Daddy and daughter. When he gets home from work and they are hanging out, leave! Not like totally leave but like go clean, read, shower, make dinner, or something. Just leave them alone to bond

If you are ever in doubt about a butt cream just throw in a wipe, or liner on top to protect the diaper. I never worry about what cream I use, I just wrap the insert in a baby wash cloth (what I use for a wipe) and it's good to go. I also have fleece liners I made that I use as well.

soImarriedAnerd · #7 July 13th, 2010, 05:57 PM

daddy baby alone time (where he can do things the way HE wants and not worry about us telling him how to do it! LOL). I did a long hot bath and dad got the baby.... that helps. But really time is what does the most. men and babies just don't mesh great....once they can do more than dads can do the "games/play" that they use to bond.... but then its they are the fun parent your the food/cloths/bath/etc parent! LOL so someone is always on the shorter end of the stick

*krista* · #8 July 13th, 2010, 07:02 PM

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Originally Posted by soImarriedAnerd

daddy baby alone time (where he can do things the way HE wants and not worry about us telling him how to do it! LOL).

Guilty as charged!

soImarriedAnerd · #9 July 13th, 2010, 07:37 PM

Yeah I did it to and BAD. When troy was able to loosen up because I wasn't hovering it helped a TON!!!! He THEN got all "unmanly" and did silly stuff and enjoyed him more. Also make sure you hand over a freshed diapered fully feed infant to help it out.
So pass baby over and DON'T peak---just go take a hot bath (with ear plugs because if you hear fussy you will want to "help") LOL, or go run a quick thing you need to do. Just make sure you can't hear dad/baby and that baby can't smell you!

bittersweet · #10 July 14th, 2010, 05:50 AM

I am going to say ditto to Angela's thoughts. My DH does best with the baby when I'm not around, at all. They have a great bond b/c I had to go back to work and there were a couple days he had to take care of her allll day. I left for work before she was awake and I would get home after she went to bed...so he had to do EVERYTHING.

He didn't do things how I do them...but he kept her fed, changed, bathed, and put her to bed. What and how he did it was not important at that point. He is super confident in his daddy skills now.

**Jenn** · #11 July 14th, 2010, 07:46 AM

I agree with everyone else. Also a great way mu dh would bond with the babies is by giving them their baths and doing infant massage with them.

szczepanski · #12 July 14th, 2010, 09:49 AM

Yes - I ditto Angela. As soon as DH walks through the door (and changes and doe what he needs to do) he is itching for his baby boy fix. So Nolan is either in the process of being fed or fed, changed and fresh from a nap so all he gets is fun time.

It really helps - and then I completely leave the room and they go.

I am a SUPER bad hoverer and sometimes it sounds like they are having SO much fun I get jealous and have to go peak and see what they are doing, hahaha.