I did it...Ive failed...saw a LC, update in #13

~*Bethy*~ · #1 July 14th, 2010, 01:47 PM

She would latch on every single flipping time weather I had milk or not. Now that my supply is back up where it should be...shes SCREAMING bloody freaking murder.

Ive failed.

I know there are ways of getting her back, but in all honesty, how long will it take? 2 days of both of us insanly crying? I would give up my first born (ha...) to nurse again. I screwed all this crap up and now Im reaping what I sewed.

EP sounds like my only option...

sorry, vent over...

~Beth

.Brandi. · #2 July 14th, 2010, 01:53 PM

Oh Bethy, don't give up!!!

Did you try sitting her up on your lap?? Is she still screaming when you do that??

~*Bethy*~ · #3 July 14th, 2010, 02:08 PM

yup even swaddled she arches so bad I dont want to drop her

.Brandi. · #4 July 14th, 2010, 02:22 PM

Hmm...have you taken her to the doctor?? She might have an ear infection which would cause this kind of reaction to the different positions. It would seem odd that he get an ear infection so early, but, gosh, you never know!!! She doesn't have any problem with a bottle though right? Could your let down be too much for her??? Have you tried pumping a bit before she nurses and then try to get her latched??? I'm trying to think about what might help you....Before you get her to the breast, do you express some milk so there is a few drops of milk around the nipple to entice her to latch??

Resi · #5 July 14th, 2010, 02:31 PM

I'm sorry it's not working out for the two of you. Is she latching on and then screaming? It could be she is getting upset if you let down is fast.

~*Bethy*~ · #6 July 14th, 2010, 02:56 PM

at this point shes not even trying. Ive squirted many streams of milk into her mouth and she just keeps on crying. shes fine with the bottle. of course, who wouldnt be? Im calling around to see if I can find one of thoes syringes with the tubeing attached...colostrum feeders I think their called. Im NOT ready to throw in the towel but I am REALLY wanting to make her happy at the same time...maybe she just doesnt realize its back full force? Ill try to pump and then latch her on. Im thinking that If I can get really full again to where Im leaking (good luck with that right lol) that shell just realize and latch on. this is so frustraiting

~*sierra*~ · #7 July 14th, 2010, 03:16 PM

*hugs* stay strong! you're an awesome mom!

Chelnae6 · #8 July 14th, 2010, 04:27 PM

Have you tried feeding her when she's not hungry. Like wait an hour before her next feeding when she's more content and then latch her on, it may be less frustrating for the both of you that way.

Sorry its not going to well. And you didnt fail. If thats the case most of these mothers in the world are failures. As long as Bella is eating BM or FF, you're not a failure.

.Brandi. · #9 July 14th, 2010, 05:02 PM

Bethy, PM me your address, I have one of those syringe things...I'll send it to you!!! I never used it!

And I ditto Chelle, you didn't fail...you're still trying, and even if you felt like it was best to quit, you're still not failing!!! You're a fantastic Mama and with all the trouble and stuggles with this you've been deal with, you're super strong!!! You should give yourself kudos because you definitely deserve them!!!

Babybear4 · #10 July 14th, 2010, 05:12 PM

I can't say I understand the frustration you are going through, as I have not experienced it before, but I am so very sorry you are going through this. You are not a failure, I am sure any mothers instinct would be to do what makes their baby stop crying. Stay strong, momma. I hope you can get this all worked out!

~Caroline~ · #11 July 14th, 2010, 05:20 PM

I'm sorry I don't know much about breastfeeding yet, but I wanna say you definitely didn't fail. I'm sorry things are so hard right now. Stay strong.

bittersweet · #12 July 14th, 2010, 05:22 PM

Ugh, that is the worst. Jenna does this occasionally if she's had the bottle for a couple feedings in a row. When she does do it, it is always at her before bed feeding...when she is the most hungry and tired.

It is so miserable. She will take 2 sucks, realize no milk it coming like it does in the bottle, then start SCREAMING.

When she does do this, I had her off to DH..he walks for around a bit to calm her down, then we get a bottle ready. I put her back to my breast (which restarts the screaming), with DH right next to me. He will put the bottle in her mouth, let her suck a couple times, then takes it out quickly and I replace it with the boob.

This seems to 'trick' her into sucking enough to stimulate my let down. If I can get her calmed down enough to suck and stimulate let down, all is good.

~*Bethy*~ · #13 July 14th, 2010, 05:40 PM

I went and saw a LC that gave me a $7 nipple shield and said I wasnt pumping enough. put me on a pumping schedule rather than BABY COMES FIRST! routine, KWIM? "its ok if baby wants to nurse but you need to pump right after!" ok, I can do this, but what do I do about her screaming at the breast? "well lets try a nipple shield" so we tried it but she would only latch on if formula was involved. *****! So now Im to use the nipple shield because shes use to the nipple of the bottle and my flow isnt fast enough.

WHERE THE CRAP DID MY BABY GO?!

She nursed JUST FINE till yesterday afternoon, never cared about my milk supply, well she whined but I could always get her to relatch on. Its like something in her mind like snapped and shes having an out of body experience.

So I pump every 3 hours, with an allowance of 5 hours at night to bring in my supply. Put her to breast before I pump, with the shield and drops of formula to keep her interested and see if we can get her sucking longer and longer. Im REALLY hoping to be done power pumping by this next weekend coming up (not this weekend) because were going camping and I want her 95% BF by then...

At least she latched on at the LC appointment...

Mars · #14 July 14th, 2010, 06:20 PM

Hang in there. I can only imagine the frustration but hopefully she will readjust soon. (((HUGS)))

.Brandi. · #15 July 14th, 2010, 06:25 PM

I'm so glad the LC had some advice for you!!! I was feel really bad about not having better advice to give you!!!

So YAY for the LC!!!

I know the two I saw on a regular basis were Heaven sent!!!! Keep us posted on how it goes!!!

~*sierra*~ · #16 July 14th, 2010, 06:37 PM

i'm glad you got some help! i hope things are back on track in no time!

Mjp121212 · #17 July 14th, 2010, 08:39 PM

Wanna know what I did when we could go from bottle to breast: I took the little itty bitty nipples and put really tiny holes in them so he had to suck the dickens outta the bottle...he'd get so frustrated that he'd give up and that made breastfeeding easier than getting it from the bottle. It took about 2 days of him being not a happy camper but he got fed up with trying. And we were exclusively breastfed from then on. LOL to the point he didn't want solids until 9m when it was forced lol and I thought he was gonna be nursing at his high school graduation LOL!

~*Bethy*~ · #18 July 14th, 2010, 10:29 PM

thats a good idea! make her REALLLLY work for the bottle, and the breast seems easier! Thank you

Mjp121212 · #19 July 14th, 2010, 10:43 PM

I never had a problem with him dropping the bottle. He couldn't latch on at all....I had to teach him to latch. He couldn't suck, he had to be taught.....long process and I had no help. LC came one time, pedi said it was useless to try anymore. I ended up nursing for 3 years!

**Jenn** · #20 July 15th, 2010, 05:44 AM

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Originally Posted by ~*Bethy*~

thats a good idea! make her REALLLLY work for the bottle, and the breast seems easier! Thank you

I did this with Liam--used preemie flow nipples. Also, I have a breastflow bottle I'll use for Lila and its wonderful--she doesn't get the milk right away and has to work for it because of the design of the bottle/nipple.

I was down this road when Liam was a baby, just hang in there, you can do it! If we could get rid of the formula with my crap supply you can do it too!!!