[~*sierra*~]

And scared. I have the NT scan tomorrow and NOBODY will go with me. I'm upset because i didnt even want to do it in the first place because i would never abort a baby unless it had a fatal abnormality. I am doing it for my dh but he can't come. My MIL & SIL have a stupid doctors appt that they could EASILY reschedule but they wont. Refilling MIL's prescription sleeping pills that she's obsessed with (but doesnt need) is more important apparently. And SIL could easily go to the doc thats right down the street from her but she is instead driving an hour out of town to see her childhood doctor. I just feel like i gave so much to SIL during her pregnancy that maybe when she knows i need her she'd come. But i guess not. I tried to change the NT scan but it's impossible at the place i'm having it done. I am thinking of asking a friend to go with me but i will feel like a complete idiot doing that. Ugh i just feel so awful about this. i asked my sister too, and she can't make it either (but she lives over 4 hrs away). GAHHHHHHHH i'm so pi.ssed.

[midnight_starr]

((HUGS)) I wish I was closer because I'd come with you! Go ahead and ask that friend to tag along! You shouldn't feel like an idiot asking a friend!

[Frozendesire]

Ask your friend to go!! I'm sorry everyone seems to be putting trivial things before you, that's really sad. I hope the scan goes beautifully though! Keep us updated

[*kyle*]

You did so much for your SIL, that was apparent all the way through her pregnancy and birth, even though you were having your own struggles. You always seemed to put her and your nephew first. I always admired that about you. I am sorry you're not feeling like that is being returned to you the way that it should be. If I lived by you I would definitely call in sick to work and come with you! I think you should ask your friend to go with you. It'll feel a lot better sharing it with someone than no one.

[♥Ashley♥]

Im sorry Sarah! I cannot believe everyone is being so selfish! After all you've done for the both of them! Why cant your DH go? That would be the one and only person I would want to go with me!

[JediRach]

I'm sorry hun. I wish I could go with you.

[~*sierra*~]

my dh has a work commitment that he can't miss. that kinda irritates me too & makes me feel sorta unimportant, but i am more understanding of his work stuff because i wouldnt be able to be a stay at home incubator or SAHM if it wasn't for all that he does. It only really irritates me that he cant go because he's the one who wanted the tests done.....kwim? but whatever. i am pissed about SIL & MIL ditching me because their excuses are idiotic, and i dont care if its a doctors appt, they are REDICULOUS doctor's appointments, who on earth would drive that far for a legitimate medical issue? i know MIL's just going cuz she knows the doc will give her whatever prescriptions she asks for unlike a doctor around here who'd be able to tell she has a problem. ugh. at least this scan will be done and overwith tomorrow!

[**Jenn**]

I'd be angry too. I think you should ask your friend to go with you. My very first u/s with Liam (12 weeks) I had to go alone and it kinda took some of the magic away not being able to share it with someone. If I lived closer I'd totally go with you! And may I add that your mil and sil are acting rather selfish. You practically turned your life upside down for both of them and neither one seems to acknowledge or appreciate it. HUGS

[~*sierra*~]

jenn i think thats exactly why i'm so mad that they 'can't' come, because i thought they'd care after all my dh and i had done for them. but they are pretty selfish.

[ANGWife]

What woman wouldn't be so tickled to go to your u/s! Who doesn't love a baby?

How sad that your in laws are acting that way

[alicenwonderland]

I think it's odd that your DH didn't make arrangements as soon as you made the appointment to make sure he could go. My DH scheduled himself for a half day that day.

I'm sad for you that no one will go. Go ahead and invite a friend. They might think it's cool! (though mine was over an hour)

*Hugs* I would go with you if i could.

[Kiwi]

I'm so sorry noone can go with you. That seems pretty horrible, esp. after your loses. If I was any closer, I'd offer to come.

[~*sierra*~]

i'd like for you all to come!!
i thought more about inviting a friend and i think i'm going to just go alone on the off chance (or on chance?) that i will be feeling as hormonal and sad about this tomorrow. i dont wanna cry in front of her. my dh can't just schedule time off, it's complicated....he really can't come but i do understand. i might go shopping after to try to make myself feel better! i need some tshirts.....

[*krista*]

I'm sorry DH can't go. I experienced the same thing with some of my u/s and DH not being able to go. He wanted to go bad, but he couldn't because at the time he was the only IT support for the company and something important IT related was going down. He couldn't put the company on hold so he could come to the u/s. It can be hard to understand and frustrating! But if he is the only one who can do what he is doing, we have to understand.



I think you should ask your friend! What's the worst she can do, say she can't go? It is worth asking. She won't think ill of you for it, I promise! I would be honored if a friend asked me to go share something so important.

[~*sierra*~]

yeah krista, my dh is in a very similar position as your dh. there is really nobody else that can do his job. the more i think about it the more fine i am with him not being able to go. what can ya do right? knowing that my baby is so small, i imagine its going to take for freakin ever for them to do the scan like u alice, so it would be a several hour thing with driving and parking.

[LaLaRose3]

I am sorry Sarah I had to go alone to my US too, and I know it stinks. If I was closer, I would come with ya!!

*HUGS*

[Resi]

I'm sorry they are being selfish. Make it a special day in some way w/ mommy & baby.

[Mjp121212]

Awe I'm sorry! I went to all of mine alone, except for the gender one, so I understand. I'd go with you if I was closer!

[~*sierra*~]

So my MIL's doctor's office called her back and said she can't come in for the appt because she is no longer a patient there since she left the practice! she seemed to be in quite the mood about not being able to refill her Rx's, but i'm kinda happy cuz she is going to come with me to the scan! Things have been a bit tense with her since last night because we went out to dinner with FIL & stepMIL and MIL wasnt invited. I mean that's the way it goes, but i think she really wanted to go because an old friend of hers was going to be there. but it would have been really awkward. anyways i came home to dog pee, so i just cleaned it up cuz i didnt want to bother MIL but she came out and asked what i was doing so i told her and she said WELL IT WASNT MY DOGS. lol chile can hold it for like 24 hrs so i know it wasnt her, but whatever i just said ok and left it at that. but she was like really insistent about how she had put the dogs out, even telling dh about it a few times...wierd. it was tense. i just put on my hypnobabies and it was bliss

[CandaceDianne]

Ugh, I am sorry this was such a nightmare. I am glad it worked out to where your MIL can go.