[ScottishBrit]

OMG, I have 2 weeks left
I think it's really hit's me when as of now I can't do anything with Cambria and I feel so bad! She always want's me to chase her and play with her and I can't!! I feel like a bad mom. I keep thinking Im so selfish for wanting to have a sibling for her close in age when She has so many Issue's we still need to be working though. Of course she gagged on her food AGAIN today! This time Breanna got to witness it and Im sure it freaked her out too. What If Im not there when someone feeds her something or she gets into something and Really chokes What If I can't Go to her cause Im taking care of the baby, I mean I know she CAN wait but she hasn't had to before Has anyone felt like this when you went from 1-2????

[SandKmommy]

I had the same fears the last month of pregnancy and the first month Kieran was here and Seamus was 7 or so months older then Cambria. I think no matter the age gap there is a slight fear for the older child (and I know what you mean about the issues, as I think most here know Seamus has a lot). But believe me you'll be able to do it, it may take a week or so but you can do it, and it will work out. And once you see the kids together you'll know it will be ok

[Angelaosaurus-rex]

You are a great mom and you will figure it all out I know you will!!!!!

[soImarriedAnerd]

sounds normal to me, I have 100% faith it will work out

[LisanAndy]

I felt like a selfish and horrible person for wanting to be pregnant again and have another baby. I was terrified it was going to mess Taylor and I's relationship up. I couldn't fathom, even though I was told I would, how I could possibly love another as strongly as Taylor and how would I take care of both their needs, ect. I kept Andy up in bed for hours talking about it. The minute they place that baby in your arms you love them just as much but differently... just as different as each child's personality is. Some things may have worked with Taylor but they weren't going to work with Rylie. Cambria is going to have to cry sometimes and that's just the way it is. I felt guilty at first but it teaches them patience and manners and after the first month or so, once you're in a real good routine, it's amazingly fun. Sure, there are stressful moments but that's true of any mother's day or age spacing. I finally realized I was GIVING Taylor something. The joy of having a sibling, someone to always have around when Andy or I can't be, someone to share life with. My girls are so close now. Does Taylor try to bully Rylie... sure does but let someone else try and I have to stop Taylor before she turns into smackdown mode Taylor has learned to share (not easy LoL) and tries to teach Rylie things. This time, I'm not even worried one bit about how it'll go. You just make it work. Just be prepared there IS going to be crying every now and then, especially when she wants your attention NOW and isn't used to waiting but it's GOOD for her. 9 times out of 10 she's not in any pain or trouble, she's just getting nasty so ignore it until she can talk to you/ask properly and move on. You'll do great I'm sure! You'll be surprised how easy it can be, just relax and ENJOY your kids

[~* Helen *~]

Thats normal hun ... I felt the same and Ryan was 5 when I had Chloe It all just click into place !! You have nothing to worry about !!!

And Lisa just wanted to say you look gorgeous in your wedding pic!!!

[ANGWife]

Originally Posted by ScottishBrit

I think it's really hit's me when as of now I can't do anything with Cambria and I feel so bad! She always want's me to chase her and play with her and I can't!! I feel like a bad mom.

I feel this way now! I feel so sick and tired all the time that I hardly do as much with Hank as I used to. And yeah, I'm having alot of fears about how I'm destroying his little bubble of life.

I dont have advice but I can sympathize.

[Mars]

I too think the fears are normal but you will get it figured out. Your mommy instinct will take over and you'll be amazed at your ability to juggle everything and make everyone happy.

(((HUGS)))

[~*sierra*~]

i just know you will be an amazing mommy of two!!

[~Caroline~]

I think your fears are normal but I just know everything will work out. Cambria will get used to having to share you with a brother and I'm sure she'll love him.

[sara~b]

I was worried about Gem because she was an only child for almost 5.5 years. She was horrible at the end of my pregnancy, filled with jealousy and acting out. I hated that I couldn't take her to the park or pick her up or get on the floor with her. But as soon as she met Ashlyn she totally turned around. She wants to hold Ash more than I do! She loves giving her a bottle and she likes picking out her outfits. She gets me things when my hands are full with baby or baby things. She loves being my helper and my big girl.

Cambria may not understand as much on an intellectual level as Gem but I'm sure she'll love it just as much!

[Frozendesire]

Oh Amy! Your going to be a wonderful momma to two!! It is a big lesson for Cambria but not a bad/hard one... patience and sharing. Having Dustin was only a benefit to Curtis' life. You should see them play and interact!!! It's the cutest thing ever. They love each other so much. In the beginning it was tough... you just have to figure out a schedule that works for them both. I couldn't imagine not doing it the way I've done. It's perfect for us to have them close together and more then one... it's also all I know Yes sleep is less, mommy time is less, etc etc but it's worth it in so many ways!!

[ScottishBrit]

Thanks guys, I know it's gonna be hard at first and It will get better it's just a lot to take in I guess. I guess Im scared to to let her cry to much cause she cry's and then gag's. But maybe If I let her cry a bit till she gag's she'll get over doing that! It's so annoying! Ive tried doing time out's with her a couple times and she's gaged. Also were gonna not have the baby in our room this time. I dont want to hear David complain about how tired he is!!! So Im gonna try and sleep in his room but their cribs are back to back ( with a wall in between ) so Im afraid she will wake up and it takes forever to get her to go back to bed!! I told David thats his job, when she wakes YOU get her! haha. We'll see how long that last Thanks again for all your words of advice!!!

[Frozendesire]

Curtis had to wait at times for certain things but after a while you get used to doing things with a baby in your arms. You get really good at juggling things!

I hope Cambria does well for you... I hope she surprises you Just remember things get better

[*kyle*]

I can't relate as a mommy of only one (at least for now and the foreseeable future). But I can relate as a person with 3 siblings. Siblings have been one of the best parts of my life. They were constant companions growing up. Someone was always around to play with, argue with, and learn how to share and other lessons of socialization. Even now, nobody understands me like my 2 brothers and sister. Who came to live with me when my marriage fell apart? My sister. Who installed a webcam on his computer just so he could have "video conferences" with his nephew? My brother. And who spent his last dime flying out for a visit to support me? My other brother. When all else fails, siblings are there. That is the gift you're giving Cambria. She won't really understand it for a while, but she and the new baby will BOTH thank you for going through the rough transitions to create this family.

I know that doesn't help with the "what to do when she's crying" or "how to teach her to share mommy's attention" questions. I don't know except that it will happen over time, whether through careful teaching and guidance from you, or just from naturally living all together on a daily basis. Families make room for each other and yours will, too.

[ScottishBrit]

Kyle That brought a tear to eye!!! My sister was 16 when I was born so we weren't really close. I remember always wanting someone to play with and she wanted nothing to do with a Little kid! She used to hate when people would ask If I was her's when we'd go out in public. So I knew when we did have kids I didn't want them that far apart. I hop they do enjoy having them selves to play with when they get older and have someone to rely on! Thank you for sharing that