[♥Ashley♥]

I havent done this in awhile, but a topic on another board got me thinking....


Do you think looking at porn is cheating? Would it bother you if your DH was watching porn on a regular basis?


You can vote only in the poll if you want, or you can explain why or why not also.

[CandaceDianne]

I think so because you are lusting after someone else.
DH's theory is 'why would I want to look at something I can't have, when I have you in the next room!?'

[Mod-LadyCoconut]

Looking at porn has never bothered me, but it also has never been excessive or a problem for us. I can certainly see how I would feel "cheated on" if he were turning me down for sex and then getting off with porn, or if he's looking at porn after we had sex, etc. From other boards where we've discussed this topic I've seen that brought up and I can totally understand how that would be an issue. But for just occasionally looking at porn it doesn't bother me... and a lot of times we'll watch it together.

[~*sierra*~]

humans have always been fascinated with the opposite sex's physical form....i think wanting to feel sexual is natural too and porn is just a means to that end. porn has been around for a REALLY long time in many forms (well before the internet/videos!) and i dont think it's going anywhere........that all being said my dh doesnt watch porn lol

heck wasnt there even some thing in the news about how PANDAS get horny when they see other pandas doing it!? lol i swear i read about this, cuz they were trying to get them to mate in captivity or something. panda porn. hehehehe

[~Caroline~]

Porn would only bother me if he was looking at it all the time (I'm talking regular porn here of course. Child porn, bestiality, rape, stuff like that would obviously not be ok). As far as I know, he doesn't watch it, but maybe he does when I'm not around, who knows.

[♥Ashley♥]

Originally Posted by LadyCoconut

But for just occasionally looking at porn it doesn't bother me... and a lot of times we'll watch it together.

Originally Posted by ~*sierra*~

humans have always been fascinated with the opposite sex's physical form....i think wanting to feel sexual is natural too and porn is just a means to that end. porn has been around for a REALLY long time in many forms (well before the internet/videos!) and i dont think it's going anywhere........that all being said my dh doesnt watch porn lol

Totally agree with both of you. It doesnt bother me at all! We used to watch it together all the time, we do every so often now.

[alicenwonderland]

It bothered me when we were dating. Mostly because we were going at it all the time, so it didn't make sense to me. Then we got married and i started working nights... and there was never any time. I realized it really didn't bother me, as long as it wasn't a secret. I'm on pelvic rest now, and i'd feel awful if DH wasn't getting it somewhere, ya know? Porn can inspire some really naughty nights too, if ya know what i mean.

[Mjp121212]

depends on the extent. Exdh would turn to that before me so yeah I felt cheated on because it was like ok...porn gets action 4 times a week or more and I do once every 4-6weeks.

[ANGWife]

I've never really considered whether it's cheating or not. But it's not acceptable in our marriage.

[**Jenn**]

Originally Posted by ♥Ashley♥

Totally agree with both of you. It doesnt bother me at all! We used to watch it together all the time, we do every so often now.

Completely agree!

[Babybear4]

Nope, I don't think it is cheating. As others have said, if it became an issue where DH was turning to that rather than me, I might reconsider how I felt about it.

[Resi]

It doesn't bother me. I know it's about the visual imagine and not the person in the porn. I have found porn on DH's computer so I know he looks at it.

[Angelaosaurus-rex]

I'm not bothered by it as long as its not used in excess or over actual sex. I know he watches it after PT while I'm still asleep a few times a week because he tells me when he does, and I still get laid pretty much every night! And like Alice said it inspires them to try new awesome things!!!!!!!

[Frozendesire]

I think it's a form of cheating. It has no place in our marriage. However I can understand how it depends on the people in the relationship.. how it can be cheating for one couple but something in anothers active sexual relationship.

[♥Ashley♥]

Originally Posted by Resi

I know it's about the visual imagine and not the person in the porn.

Exactly!

[Resi]

Originally Posted by ♥Ashley♥

Exactly!

I know my hubby isn't looking at the face at all! haha.. What
i have found on his computer are close up visuals.

[amazing_love]

It does not have a place in our marriage and yes i feel like it's a form of cheating, in most cases. I feel like it's completely unnecessary and just don't get it. My husband used to look at it when he was much younger but he is now a strong Christian and feels the same way i do. It would be extremely harmful for OUR relationship, but i understand that it's not a problem in every relationship. Everyone is different

[JediRach]

I don't think so unless its an alternative to an actual relationship ie: if my husband would rather have porn that have sex with me but otherwise I don't think its a problem.

[Bre*n*Will=Reid]

It doesn't bother me in the slightest. It would only bother me if he was looking at it instead of being with me or if he was looking at it all the time (like every day).

[LadyGamer]

Not in our relationship, but things need to be taken on a case by case basis. If it leads to lying and actually causes problems, then yes.