[Babybear4]

Last night DH and I went over to MIL and FIL's for my FIL's birthday dinner (which he chose not to show up for). Lorena was playing the living room with DH and BIL and she had grabbed the Wii remote. My MIL walks up to her and says "Is that your vibrator?" in a playful, lovey type voice. I was sitting at the computer and just pretended not to hear it, because my MIL knows that kind of crap pisses me off. DH didn't even really say anything.

This is the second time this woman has spoken this way to my daughter. THe first time was when she was 3 months old and I was blowing on her diaper area to dry her off. MIL walks up and goes "Aww, is mommy giving you a blow job?" and when DH asked he not to say that she repeated it THREE more times.

It's really not THAT big of a deal because Lorena doesn't understand right now, but it just bothers me that she sees her granddaughter playing and automatically thinks something sexual. It's just not okay to speak to children like that, no matter how old they are. I told DH this morning that since his mother obviously has no common sense in the things she says to our 15 month old, we need to let her know that sexual comments are unacceptable. I almost feel like writing her an e-mail just letting her know it really bothered me, but she is such an entitled, everything in this world is about her and everybody needs to just cater to her and her feelings type of person that she would probably act as though I am wrong and make me out to be the bad guy.

Can we just make a MIL island?

[~Caroline~]

Yeah I would not like it if my MIL (or anyone) said something like that to my kid. You should talk to her or write an email and hopefully she'll listen.

[LuvMyLwAaMr]

I know how you feel... my mil thinks sexual all the time too and I hate it... maybe she doesn't understand, but you don't want your 15 month old daughter to repeat things like that... keep me updated on that MIL island

[Babybear4]

Originally Posted by LuvMyLwAa

I know how you feel... my mil thinks sexual all the time too and I hate it... maybe she doesn't understand, but you don't want your 15 month old daughter to repeat things like that... keep me updated on that MIL island

See, that's what's weird about it, though. My MIL doesn't talk sexual all of the time, and she doesn't even understand when DH and I are making sex jokes or say obvious sexual things to each other. We're pretty open and speak pretty openly around Lorena, but never specifically sexual TO her, KWIM? I don't know, I probably wouldn't care if MIL was talking about HER vibrator in front of Lorena right now, but to ASK a 15 month old if it is HERS is just weird to me.

[Mjp121212]

Sorry the whole "Is mommy giving you a blow job" would have been enough to make me angry. It's a disgusting and wrong comment to make in the first place. Then to say that about a vibrator. No, I would have already said something.

[alicenwonderland]

i'm sorry... thats just gross. I hope you don't have to deal with that again.

[LisanAndy]

Wow, that's completely out of line. I would have been LIVID. My MIL and FIL are VERY similar and we don't go over there anymore and haven't in months. I'm sorry

[soImarriedAnerd]

Where can we sign up for the island at! Can you think how much money would could make doing a reality show of last one standing?!

[Trannyfromtheuk]

I would have gone mad. End of. You dont say that to a child if they understand or not!

[*krista*]

I'm sorry but that struck me as very strange and really pretty disgusting. I would be really angry and weirded out. I would try to get your DH to say something. She would probably take it a little more seriously than if it came from you.

[Mars]

I think that is completely out of line. Lorena may not understand what it means now but she may say it when you're somewhere and then you'll have a lot of people wondering what you've been teaching her. I don't agree with your MIL making such remarks. I would not ignore it. I would be very stern about her not doing it.