[ANGWife]

I feel like such a sucky mom right now and just need some support.

I'll be 14 weeks pregnant tomorrow, and I've had MS since week 6. It's getting really old at this point. Every day I wake up and pray this will be the day I start to feel better. Then I find my head in the toilet. It's so impossible to keep my hopes up and see the end of this.

Ed once again is away on a business trip. After this one, we have about 2 weeks until he leaves the country for a month. I just want to give up This single parent crap is getting super old since I became pregnant again. OMG and here I am crying right this second because I feel so bad. For gosh sakes, my husband has been to war and I've never felt this depressed.

Henry has been more than sweet today. I was sitting on the floor next to him while he played with his blocks and all I could think of is how I wanted to run away. Imagining all the things I could be doing if he wasn't in my life, how I could rest in peace. THEN crying because I felt so guilty for thinking it and how dare I take him for granted.



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[niknok]

Oh Morgan, I wish I could just hug you through the computer right now. I honestly don't have any great advice. Just know that probably every Mom on earth has at some point wanted to run away for some "Mommy time". This is the hardest job on earth. I'm sorry your DH can't be there for you more.

[Oriyan]

Oh hun

Have you talked to your doctor about getting some Zofran? It is pregnancy safe, and was the ONLY thing to get me from week 6 to week 19 through my morning sickness. Without it I would have not been able to make it through because I was sick all day, everyday from the second I woke up till the second I fell asleep. You need to take a stool softer with it because it does cause constipation.

Can in laws come by and help out? Or your parents or any family come by once or twice a week so you can just have some ME time?

[Frozendesire]

I haven't done the single mom thing but I can relate to the thoughts of "if there were no kids, what would I be doing right now?" It's a really tough job. 24/7 you are needed... and that's so tiring and tough. Adding sickness on top of that makes it even harder!

[*Mrs.J.2011*]

I too wish I could give you a hug right now! Obviously I cant sit here and I say I know what you are going through, but I hope that the feelings pass soon. You are such a great Mommy and Henry (and baby) are lucky to have you. Your hormones are all out of whack. I hope everything gets straightened out soon for you! :dothugs:

[ANGWife]

Originally Posted by Oriyan

Oh hun

Have you talked to your doctor about getting some Zofran? It is pregnancy safe, and was the ONLY thing to get me from week 6 to week 19 through my morning sickness. Without it I would have not been able to make it through because I was sick all day, everyday from the second I woke up till the second I fell asleep. You need to take a stool softer with it because it does cause constipation.

Can in laws come by and help out? Or your parents or any family come by once or twice a week so you can just have some ME time?

My OB gave me Zofran at my last appointment. But every time I took it, I got a major headache

[midnight_starr]

((HUGS)) You are such a great mom don't ever think otherwise!

[Mars]

I wish I was closer to you to give you a hug and also a helping hand. I can only imagine what your going through and the feelings seem only natural. I'm sorry that your DH can't be around more to offer the needed support. It's seems so tough but hang in there. You're a great parent and working double time with all that's going on.I hope the MS will go away soon. Mine stopped at 16 weeks so here's hoping to some relief soon.

(((HUGS)))

[Resi]

I'm sorry to hear you are having a hard time. I can understand how hard it is when you don't get a break. It's very rare that I ever get one. It must be awful to be so sick without any support for such long stretches of time. I hope your MS gets better soon. Is there another brand of meds you can try out? I thought there were a couple MS meds out ther but I could be wrong.

[~Caroline~]

Doctors here prescribe Diclectin for nausea. It's pregnancy safe and it's been a life saver for me. I don't know if it's the same as Zofran with another name, but maybe you could ask your doctor about it?

[Kiwi]

There is other medication rather than Zofpan - have you tried anything else? I feel your pain, hon. Morning sickness seriously SUCKS. I've only just started feeling better over the last week and I'm 24 weeks along. Do you have any family members close who could help out?

[ANGWife]

Well, I have an appointment with my OB tomorrow so I was going to ask about other drugs. But if I remember, she said the others would make me drowsy

[LisanAndy]

Ohhh mama, do I understand!!! It's not easy AT ALL to be pregnant with little people running around, especially in the beginning. I'm so sorry you're feeling so miserably. All I did was grin and bare it, drank ginger ale (which did nothing), and tried to stay as full as possible. Hang in there, I hope it leaves for you soon!!!

[LuvMyLwAaMr]

I ssoo understand how you're feeling and it is not easy at all dh is home at some point every day but we go through stretches where he might as well not be because he comes home to sleep and is back off to work... and I love him to pieces and couldn't imagine life without him, but even when he is here, he really doesn't help out much (but I blame myself for that because I never make him and ever since my 1st was born I always tried to be supermom and be the perfect wife and mommy)

The only advice I have is to scoop up your little guy and give him an extra big extra long hug when you're feeling really down... and allow yourself a good cry when you need it! Sounds silly but that's what helps me get through a really tough moment... seems to kind of settle the hormones for a short time!

I hope your m/s gets better real soon and you emotionally you start feeling better!

[**Jenn**]

Oh Morgan, I understand completely! I had hyperemesis when I was pregnant with Lochlann from week 3 to week 21. My only saving grace was Phenergan. It did make me a bit sleepy but that was way better than puking 24/7. Liam was just a baby (10 1/2) months when I got pregnant and still very high needs. DH was gone at least 12 hours a day and then his parents decided to get their bathroom redone when he got laid off and had him stay at their house overnight a few days a week to supervise the workers (yeah, that pissed me off). So I had very little help. It sucked! I had many thoughts of "what did I do?" and wanting to just run away from it all, Liam, the pregnancy, everything, even if just for a few hours. You are not a bad Mom for feeling the way you do. Everything is taking its toll on you and you need a break! Is there any way anyone can come help you even for just an hour or two?

Huge HUGS! It will get better!

[greeneyes]

Oh, Morgan, I'm so sorry. *hugs* I know exactly how you feel, this pregnancy was by FAR my hardest, my symptoms were the most severe I've ever had and I had two little kids to take care of while Lee was off flying around the country for work.

Eventually I just had to let go of all my personal mommy expectations and tell myself it was ok to do the bare minimum. The kids were fed, changed, bathed, and didn't kill each other and those were my only goals each day. I top to bottom baby proofed their room and put a gate in the doorway and a pinch guard on the door hinge, took the monitor in my room and stayed in bed while I was sick. If I felt up to it, I would take them outside to run around for a bit but if I didn't feel up to it, I didn't beat myself up. It's not the kind of mom I want to be or enjoy being, but it was a short-term solution and my kids don't seem any worse for the wear.

I know it's hard to see right now, but there IS a light at the end of the tunnel. Hopefully in a few weeks you'll be feeling significantly better and can start enjoying your pregnancy!

[alicenwonderland]

*Hugs* I have no advice, but i know that you are an amazing mama!

And there is an end in sight, though it might take awhile. My MS did finally go away between 18 and 20 weeks.

[ShannonMVT]

I'm sorry you are having such a tough time. I hope your morning sickness eases up soon and that you can get some help from Dh and your family.

[Bre*n*Will=Reid]

I really hope your morning sickness starts to ease soon.

Do not EVER get yourself down for simply wanting "me" time - think about it. Being a SAHM is a job....it is just as hard, just as time consuming, and just as difficult than a "regular" job - if not 10x moreso. It's socially acceptable to not want to be at work (if you're at a regular job) and pretty much every outside-of-the-home worker feels that way a LOT. You're always anxious to get the heck out of work so that you can do your own thing. It makes complete sense that we feel that way about our new jobs as SAHMs. It doesn't mean that you're a bad mommy or that you don't love your son. It means your human and you need a break.

If I tried to be a martyr and pretend that I could do it all, it would be at Reid's detriment. I've allowed myself to have me time. I push out the guilt and do it, because I know it's best for me and best for Reid.

Those things that you daydream about.....going to a movie along, being at home alone, going out to dinner with a friend....DO THEM. Find a way to do them, even if Ed isn't home. I'm sure there is someone that would LOVE to watch Henry for a few hours (or longer?? A full day?)

HUGS! If we lived closer I would both babysit Henry for you and take you out for some adult-only fun Hugs mommy....you'll get through this.

[Angelaosaurus-rex]

You are not even close to being a bad mother! It is perfectly normal to feel this way from time to time!!! I know how hard it is to be alone sick with a baby and it sucks bad! I hope your MS goes away soon!!!!


I'd give you liquor but your pregnant ((HUGS)) !!!