Im right there with ya babe. I still think about mine daily. "what could have been..." But the best thing to do is NOT dwell on it....there will be times it hurts...but it will get better.
My biggest problem Im having now, is knowing Im broken forever (uterus ruptured = no more kids...) And people going "awww come on, just one more..." THAT kills me. Not wanting to get into it, I just smile and say, nope not for us....
Now I know that has nothing to do with your c-section, Im just lending a shoulder to cry on. I know what it feels like to have felt like YOU failed...but it wasnt YOU at all...it just wasnt in the cards. God, alla, Ja, who ever you believe in has better plans for you.....
like I said, let me know if you need to talk
~Beth