[Oriyan]

For those of you who follow me on facebook, I am sure you have gotten wind of what is going on at J.J's day care and how angry I am at the situation.

For those of you who do not, let me explain.

As you all know, J.J has food allergies. Some of which we know, and some of which are unknown and we have not yet pin-pointed. J.J has his picture on the fridge at day care that says J.J is allergic to eggs and he is only to get food from home. J.J sometimes even reacts to foods he has eaten before because they were prepared differently or maybe we bought a different brand. (the only way to discover more allergies at this point is to broaden his food horizons.)

We send J.J with food everyday for breakfast, lunch and snack -- we NEVER allow him ANYTHING day care provides. We send his bottle and sippy cup too. We don't want to take any chances. We litterally do not allow them to feed him anything from their center other then cheerios or goldfishies.

Apparently, in my sons room, they only provide parents with "daily" food sheets until they are 12 months and then they stop. We still get his toileting and napping schedule thankfully.

Ok, first of all, other then this being RIDICULOUS, this is dangerous for J.J! For a child who has SUCH food allergies it is 100% important that I know at ALL times WHAT he ate and in what quantity. If he has a reaction I need to be able to know what to tell his doctors. "I don't know" is NOT an answer I want to tell them.

So far, the head witch in J.J's room is refusing to continue giving us this information. She says there are too many children in the room (there are LESS children now then there were a month ago!) to provide this information to us everyday. (We even supply the sheet, it takes 15 seconds to check off some boxes and write the food names next to them) and is down right refusing. She told us that we'll know how much he ate because she'll send home what he did not eat. See, that does not work because we KNOW and have been told that J.J throws his food on the floor (Heck he did it yesterday with his breakfast!). So this is deceptive. Her response (you'll love this)....

"Well, we tell him not to throw his food on the floor"



HE'S 17 MONTHS OLD! DO YOU REALLY THINK HE IS GOING TO LISTEN TO THAT?!!?!?!?!?

Then she tells us today, that we should provide separate containers and she'll pick up the food off the floor that he does not eat and send that home.



Ok.... other then that being DISGUSTING, that will take up more time then if she just filled out the stupid flippin' sheet!!!!! I mean its not a hard sheet! It has a place for breakfast and lunch, little check boxes (refused, 1/4, 1/2, 3/4, all) and a place to write how much of his bottle he had.

We are meeting with the head witch and the executive director tomorrow morning at 9am to discuss this. I have never in my life been so angry. I have been calling J.J's doctors to get notes stating we MUST be provided with this information. I should not even HAVE to be doing this, this is something that I should be provided with regardless.

Ladies, am I overeating?? Am I not reacting enough?? Am I being silly in my request?

[Chelnae6]

I honestly think its time to switch day cares. You are reacting correctly. They should be attentive and catering to both your and J.J.'s needs. If he has a bad reaction to something and falls really ill, you could sue the crap out of them.

[Oriyan]

Originally Posted by Chelnae6

I honestly think its time to switch day cares.

Sadly, this is the BEST in our area. All we have are chain day cares (Tutor Time, Kindercare, Learning Experiance) and they are all horrible and out of our price range. There are home day cares, and I have looked into them but they all have more violations then I have ever seen.

[soImarriedAnerd]

I would let her get on her hand and knees and pick up old/thrown food and have her bag it and label it (individually preferred ).....a few weeks of that and the check box or quick fill in will sound like a breeze so stupid she is willing to do more work than necessary but sounds like she is just in a pissing match and trying to "prove" a point. Great mind set for day care employee. And if the Dr note doesn't work I would probably call some regulating agency on them to do a spot check on how they interact/treat kids with allergies--which is a HUGE issue right now! (heck I may do it just because at this point).

[bittersweet]

I took Jenna to Kindercare ONE day and that was enough. Chain daycares are horrible and this response does not surprise me. They are not willing to adjust anything per individual child needs. Is there any way you can get him into a small home day care center or maybe get a nanny to come to your place? In my search, I was able to some people willing to babysit for $10/hr. An older Grandma type was what I was looking for.

I totally understand your frusteration and you are not being unreasonable in the least.

[Chelnae6]

Originally Posted by soImarriedAnerd

I would let her get on her hand and knees and pick up old/thrown food and have her bag it and label it (individually preferred ).....a few weeks of that and the check box or quick fill in will sound like a breeze

Since thats basically the best there is in your town, Angela's options seems to be the best choice! lol. Seriously, it'll teach them a lesson.

[Oriyan]

Funny enough, J.J is not in a chain day care. He was in tutor time for 4 weeks and we pulled him -- seeing my 10 week old in a swing, swaddled 2 times a week every time i picked him up was enough for me! The day care he is in, is on DH's campus and there is always a waiting list a mile long to get in because its so good. I have no problems with ANYONE else at this day care and had ZERO problems until this women took over his room. Once this woman took over, we have had NOTHING but problems.

Angela I like your idea! LOL I'll make her get down and individually baggie all the foods LOL! If they do not comply, I am going to report them to the state for discriminating against a child with a medical condition.

[**Jenn**]

I think you're completely right here. Allergies or not I'd want to know what and how much my child ate during the day.

Having worked in a day care and as a nanny I can tell you that what you are requesting they do is completely reasonable and should be done! I used to nanny for a little boy and I logged our entire day together the whole year I nannied him (age 4 months to 16 months)--what he ate, what time he ate it, how much, the times he napped, when he pooped, etc. It seriously takes no time at all to fill out a simple sheet like that. Sounds like she's being unreasonable for the sake of being unreasonable.

I've been in way too many chain daycares and they are all awful. That's really all there is around here too. I hope you can get this resolved asap!

[Mars]

I'm concerned on a number of levels and I agree with your concerns. The problem I have now if she fills out the chart would be if she actually spends the time filling it out correctly and can you trust what she puts on it. Is there not an assistant or someone else who can assist you in this regard?

[Oriyan]

Well shes not the one herself who fills it out, its the teachers assistants in the room. Usually either S or K feed him in the morning and J or R in the afternoon. It's always one of those 4 feeding him, NEVER the head in the room.

This is the same woman who did not call me when J.J was out sick for a WEEK. A WEEK!!!! The woman who ran the room before used to call us even if J.J was acting "off" for the day. This woman has no right to be a day care provider, let alone the head in the infant/toddler room. She has ZERO compassion or common sense.

[JediRach]

I'd be pissed personally. I'm glad you are meeting with the director.

[~*sierra*~]

i agree with angela, make her pick up the food off the floor!

KUP on how the meeting goes

*hugs* i totally agree, it shouldnt even be an issue

[ANGWife]

Another daycare teacher here and I don't think it's unreasonable. Yes, it DOES take extra time to remember to jot down his info. But it's not like it's just cause you want it. It's for medical purposes. If the director doesn't enforce your request I would be shocked and report them as well.

[Alison81]

No you're not overreacting at all. I also have worked in childcare & schools for years, often the attitude in daycare is we get paid crap why should we go above & beyond. But I think the best way to handle it is instead of attacking her, explain the importance of knowing what foods he ate, what time, how much, etc you are not asking for alot.They can have one person in charge of writing the info down. For instance, we had one child who was losing weight so we would track amounts of everything he ate for his doctor. It wasnt hard to do lol there is always someone at j.js daycare who can say, hey, what did j.j. eat, how much, and when. Honestly you shouldnt even have this issue, and I hope the director agrees. I hope it goes your way!

[Resi]

Is it because no one is watching to see how much he eats? That is my first thought. Or do they still spoon/fork feed him? My second thought is that she doesn't like you and wants to be a witch.

[*vi]

It's so ridiculous that she's making such a big deal out of this. I mean I can see her complaining if it was just something random you wanted them to do, but still, he is YOUR child and you need to know what's going on with him when it's not you taking care of him.

you are definitely NOT overreacting. I would be doing the same thing you are. good luck tomorrow!

[Trannyfromtheuk]

What a b!tch!
It sounds like what your asking is simple enough for her to do, espeically if she does it straight after he has eaten so she dosent forget.
I hope you get this delt with quickly and you are given an appology for the distress its caused you x

[~Jess~]

I already posted in your other thread, but I'll post again. You are NOT being unreasonable at all. Frankly, it's something they should be doing for every child. Our state regulations require it (CA). Them balking at this simple request would infuriate me and prompt me to call and report them. You're even providing the form for pete's sake! I'm glad you got this resolved, but the fact that it was an issue at all is really scary.