[bittersweet]

My very best friend is getting married. She got engaged over Valentine's Day and has the whole wedding planned already . She mentioned initially they'd be married before the end of the year.

We haven't announced our pregnancy to people yet. I just received her Save the Date and the wedding is over Labor Day weekend. I'll be 37 weeks pregnant. I'd have to fly from Michigan to Oregon. It is a 4-5 hr flight...IF I can get it direct. If I have a stop it could be 6-7 hrs of travel. I checked Southwest Airlines website and they allow pregnant women to fly up to 7 days before their due date. My concern is I went into labor with DD at 38 weeks and delivered her within 8 hrs. There are the obvious health concerns with going into labor in air/delivering in a non medical environment. But my insurance doesn't fully cover out of network care either. If I had to be admitted to a hospital there I'd have to pay 20% of all the costs.

Ugh, I'm so torn b/c I'd move mountains for her. I want to go SO bad. And to throw another stick into the fire...DH may not be able to come with. If this is the case, I have another local girlfriend who is going without her DH as well and I could see if she'd fly with me. She's a nurse too.

What would you do?

[alicenwonderland]

It would depend a lot on how your pregnancy goes... I would just be honest with you friend and tell her you are planning on going... but something might happen last minute. But that you are going to do you absolute best to get there!

I wouldn't go, but thats only because i've been told i will be spending all my pregnancies on bedrest.

[Oriyan]

Most airlines will not let you fly past 36 weeks and if they think you are, they will require a note from a doctor stating that you are not.

[Frozendesire]

Can you tell her about your pregnancy since she's a good friend?

I personally wouldn't. Dustin came at 37 weeks on the dot, even though Curtis came at 42! It varies so much I wouldn't take the risk.

[LisanAndy]

I wouldn't go, personally. All my kids have been late (except for Seth since I had GD and was induced at 39 weeks 1 day LoL) but I wouldn't want to take the chance because it would be my luck that would be the one time my baby would come early LoL.

[Resi]

I wouldn't do it because I'd be stressed about going early. Considering you went at 38 wks last time.. You could go early again or end up late though. That is a hard one. I'm sure you bff will understand but it still is sad that you might not be able to attend her wedding.

[soImarriedAnerd]

I'm surprised SWA lets you fly till 39 weeks. Most airlines its 36 weeks, I only knew a couple that would go farther 38weeks and you need a dr note with in 24 hrs of flying (each way! so you would have to find a dr in MI with in 24 hrs of flying also)...or thats what I have found at least. AND at anytime if a flight attendant or pilot feel uncomfortable they can refuse to let you fly--- happens more than you think to women who just seem to look pretty pregnant! Flight attendants I'm told can't fly past 36 weeks even. ( I speak of united specifically on this one since I was talking to a Preggo FA LOL).
I wouldn't but my m/w doesn't want me more than 4 hrs away (by car) at 36 weeks and no more than 2 hrs at 38 weeks. But man to miss my BF wedding....UGH that would make me want to go so bad.....VERY VERY tough call. Tell her your preggo ASAP and judge her response maybe?

[**jessie**]

Having a early one, as well, I don't think I would go that late. I was meant to go back to the states this June (6-8 wks before edd) and I've decided it isn't worth the risk. At that point I was on bedrest with Jaxon. I'm sure your friend would understand... or you could just say that the airlines won't let you fly.

[**Jenn**]

At 37 weeks I wouldn't. Liam came at 37 weeks and although Lochy made it til his due date and Lila a couple days before I wouldn't risk it at all. My kids come very quickly (my longest labor was 6 hours 49 minutes and shortest 1 hour 37 minutes--start to finish). I know how upsetting it would be to miss your best friend's wedding but baby comes first (I know this goes without saying). I'm sure she'll be disappointed but completely understand. Maybe earlier in the summer or after the baby is born you can do something special just the two of you?

[bittersweet]

I just want to go have a big cry now When I found out the date I was just so excited it was before my due date I thought OF COURSE I can go We talked the day I got the save the date and I told her I would do everything possible to come, but I'll be very pregnant. I'm sure she realizes I might not come without me saying it. DH and I are flying out there this May to see her and another friend on the west coast. Maybe we can have our own celebration then. She was my maid of honor and it just breaks my heart I'll miss her wedding.

[soImarriedAnerd]

I would do something extra special while your out there! so heart breaking... I would be very upset as well if I had to miss my BF's wedding.

[Mars]

I wouldn't chance it either but I do think it's a great idea to do something extra special for her when you visit in May.

[ShannonMVT]

I wouldn't go either. Just too risky. If Jenna had come on or after her due date I could see *maybe* trying to go, but knowing she came at 38 weeks it seems way to risky.

Sorry, I know it must be really disappointing for you.