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I have a question with Matthew's 2nd birthday coming up...
I've been part of a mom's group now for a while. A lot of the moms (but not all) have invited everyone in the group to their child's birthday party or had a seperate birthday party for just the playgroup kids/moms. Since the kids are all young, it's been mostly first birthday parties. I've gone to maybe 4 or so? And bought gifts for the babies of moms that I am closer to/interact with me, whether I went to the party or not. There have been some I didn't buy for or attend the party, just because I felt like I didn't know them as well (they don't go to as many events, or what have you).
Since our group has gone to facebook, we have gotten lots of new members recently too.
I was thinking of doing a seperate party for the playgroup kids because I think it would be too much to have them and our families on the same day. But now I am wondering what to do about the gift situation?
There was one mom who asked for "green" gifts only, like consignment, hand-me-down, etc, which I thought was cool. And just recently one mom who is doing a party for her son's 2nd birthday has requested no gifts please (no presents, just your presence), which is nice because that eliminates having to buy something.
So now I'm not sure what to do for Matthew's birthday party? (Our group was just starting out when he turned 1, so I didn't do any party for the mom's group.) On one hand, I don't want ppl to feel obligated to bring a gift, but on the other hand, it would be nice, especially from those who I have bought a gift for their kid. And I'm totally cool with a "green" gift, though it's probably hard to find for a 2 year old than a 1 year old (goodwill has lots of great baby toys, I got my friend's girl a little people barn that is normally $35 new).
Would it be tacky to say something like "please don't feel obligated to bring a gift, but if you choose to do so, we appreciate either new or "green" gifts".
I just hate to even bring up the gifts but I know if I don't say anything it is kind of "expected" that if you come to a bday party, that you bring a gift.
Oh and any suggestions for me for a theme? I was thinking monkey theme for a while but now I am just not sure. There isn't really one thing he is "into" right now, unless you count his obsession with blueberries/fruit.
I think your idea sounds good. For Rylie's 2nd birthday I made a "wish list" on ToysRUs.com and emailed to everyone and said these are the things she interested in but don't feel obligated, just come and enjoy the party. I made no gift over $25 to make it easier on everyone. I'm going to be doing Dora for Rylie because she is head over heals in love with that show LoL. Taylor had Sesame Street for her 2nd birthday.
As part of Logan's first birthday celebrations, we are having a playdate with just the moms that I have gotten to know from my mom's group. I just said that all we ask for is their presence. I really don't know if people will bring gifts. If they do and it's not something that we want/will use, most places take returns or exchanges without receipts, so I'm not too worried about that.
I like the other ideas, too.
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I like the book party idea and I've been to a few "no presents just your presence" parties. I generally do not hold any expectations to receiving gifts from persons even if I have given their child a gift.
An alternative gift idea is awesome! Face it - our kids have way too much stuff as it is and we really have a party just to hang out not to get all kinds of "stuff"!!! I just had to respond to this post because I just came up with something special for my own kids party! Harrison has really become concerned for others - learning alot about those less fortunate both in school and at church and his feelings of empathy have just developed and are on overdrive right now! So we decided that for his birthday party (which is going to be joint with Nora) we will be collecting toys for Toys for Tots in our area.... and we just put a small not in with the invitations that instead of bringing gifts for the kids the kids are collecting toys for TFT and for our guests to share that message with their kids as they shop for that toy! Harrison is very excited about it! I already contact our TFT coordinators in our area and they accept toys all year round!
Good luck with what you decide! And a farm theme (like Old macdonald) is always a good bet for a little guy!!!!
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Great ideas! Matthew has tons of books but they are all board books and even with so many Dh and I get tired of reading the same ones over and over, haha. So maybe I wil use the book idea (and also put but don't feel obligated). I'm cool with used as well, you can find books at Goodwill for $1! It's just hit or miss sometimes on if you find good ones.
Just thought I'd give an update! I've decided to request no gifts. I think simple is better. He has lots of toys and will get more from relatives. What he needs is a playmate because it doesn't matter what toys he has, he wants someone to play WITH him.