[Resi]

Let's talk age gaps between siblings. Do you prefer close in age, far apart, a mixture of both? What are your reasons?

[**jessie**]

We always knew we wanted a second. I had a few goals to meet first before ttc the second LO. 1. Jaxon sttn 2. Back down to pre-preg weight 3. Have stable employment 3. Own our own house 4. Have baby fever!

Those goals were met around the time he was 1 year old (well, we own a house now but its not finished). We tried for the first time when he was 13 months old and conceived when he was 14 months. I think the 22/23 month age gap will be perfect.

[SandKmommy]

I like "average" age gaps, I don't care for close together cause then the older one, IMO, doesn't get enough mommy/daddy time. Seamus is 2yrs 8½mo older then Kieran and its perfect, he got his mommy/daddy time, and now they play together great.
I also wanted Kieran around 2yrs 8mo-3yrs older then the next, but doesnt' look like thats happening. But also at that point Seamus would be 5½yrs older and I worry they wouldnt' get along as well.

[Resi]

My ideal was around 3 years. I really wanted time with just Oliver and then he would be a bit more independent when the next baby came along. Now it's looking like we will have a 3.5-4 year age gap depending how long it takes us to get pregnant. I'm fine with it. I'd like to be able to do things as a family so that both kids will enjoy vacations and family outings.

I don't think the age gaps make or break a sibling relationship. My brother and I are 2 years apart. We were close as kids but grew apart as adults and don't talk now. Damon and his sister are 7 years apart and are close. It can go either way.

[**Jenn**]

I like them close in age. Liam is 19 1/2 months older than Lochy and while the first couple months were a little tough its really been wonderful. I wish Lila was a little closer in age but its worked out well having 2 1/2 years between her and Loch. Both boys had been completely potty trained for a while before she was born (6 months for Lochy and and 1 year 9 months for Liam) and they were a great help with her. Plus they could entertain themselves well and weren't as needy as Liam was when Lochy was born because he was still pretty much a baby too. *IF* we ever have another baby I would want to be pregnant before next summer is over.

[SandKmommy]

Originally Posted by Resi

My ideal was around 3 years. I really wanted time with just Oliver and then he would be a bit more independent when the next baby came along. Now it's looking like we will have a 3.5-4 year age gap depending how long it takes us to get pregnant. I'm fine with it. I'd like to be able to do things as a family so that both kids will enjoy vacations and family outings.

I don't think the age gaps make or break a sibling relationship. My brother and I are 2 years apart. We were close as kids but grew apart as adults and don't talk now. Damon and his sister are 7 years apart and are close. It can go either way.

My brothers and I are similar. I'm 3yrs 3mo older then my middle brother and 7yrs 1mo older then my youngest. I always felt like my little brothers other "mom" (and was sort of treated like that), and to this day I still feel like that (he just turned 17). My middle brother and younger brother never really got along and they are better now but not the best of friends. And my middle brother and I have always gotten along fairly well.

Dh and his brother are 9yrs 4months apart, they really don't have a relationship at all. But dh did live back and forth between his mom and dad, when his brother lived full time with his mom (and dh's step) and dad.

[MissusF]

I would like a 18 mo- 2 yr age gap between my kids. My main reasoning for this is that I would like to be able to stay home with them for the first few years. I want them closer in age to minimize the amount of time I'll have to spend away from work. If I didn't want to return to work or planned to be a working mom I would probably space them out a little more.

[ShannonMVT]

I wanted them a little closer together, not super close. So hopefully our spacing works out well, they will be 27 months apart, so a bit over 2 years.

Our reasoning was that it would be easier for them to play together and have more in common if they are closer together.

My older brother is 5 years older and younger is 7 years younger and growing up we just weren't ever on the same page as far as playing together much and family vacations it was always hard to find things that would interest such a big age range. We do get along great now though, it just took till we got to be adults!

[Frozendesire]

Hm. Well it's MUCH easier when Dustin isn't around. It's hard to explain, but like if he's napping or out with Grandma, things are much calmer and easier hehe. He's at the age where he is into EVERYTHING and has to do everything himself and it's really hard when I have to take care of AJ. However Curtis can do most things on his own, he's potty trained, he listens well, and he helps me ALOT. SO the age gap of 4 years is EASY. However that's just too big of an age gap if there is no one in the middle. I think Dustin creates a good bridge between AJ and Curtis. If that makes sense.

But I LOVE LOVE LOVE Curtis and Dustin's 2 year gap. It's just SO much fun. They are seriously the best of buddies and love playing together and doing things together.

My first and most important thing is that all my children are walking before we conceive again haha. I couldn't imagine having to carry two kids That's about it though lol.

[midnight_starr]

I always said I wanted atleast a 2 year age gap, but now it looks like it will probably be about a 3-4 year gap by the time we start TTC again.. I am fine with that.. I think the 3 year gap would be perfect for us. I want Adeline to be more independent and potty trained before we bring another baby into the picture!

[LadyGamer]

I am hoping for an 18m to 2y age gap. We'll see what ACTUALLY happens though

[~Caroline~]

I like a 2-3 year gap. But if we do try for a second child, we'll need to decide soon because I'm not getting any younger and it took forever to conceive Julien.

[thepinkleprechaun]

I always planned on 2-3 years. I wanted to be ready to get pregnant again obviously, and that took longer after #2 than after #1

I wanted them to be playing with the same toys, be able to get along and I also want to go back to school/work when #3 is old enough so that was something to consider. I honestly don't feel like I was 100pct ready to be pregnant again this time but I didn't want to wait that much longer and have a larger age gap!

[Mars]

No idea.

Most people say it's better to have siblings close in age and if I were to become pregnant again, hopefully the age gap would not be too great and hopefully it would happen when I'm past 35.

[.Brandi.]

2-3 years. No specific reason, but what I know and it works so I don't want to mess with it! lol

[Nami]

I love the age gap between Chris and Alissa, I wish this baby and Alissa had same age gap. It's not too close but not too far.

[~* Helen *~]

I would have LOVED a much closer age gap between Ryan and Chloe .. we started trying for another baby when Ryan was 15 months old .. he was actually 5 when Chloe came!!! We were also preparing ourselves for another 4 year gap .. but this one had other ideas and happened first time we tried!!

[niknok]

Drake and Eli are almost 15 months apart. Tessa (our daughter we are adopting) is only one day younger than Drake. Our house is crazy busy, and is only going to get busier when we get Tessa home, but I wouldn't change it for the world. It is hard, but I love having them all around the same stages. Eric and I have made distinct efforts to separate the boys so we have each have alone time with them. It's worked well for us.

[Bre*n*Will=Reid]

Ideally, our kids would all be 3-4 years apart, but as of right now the spacing between Reid and #2 is going to be more than that