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August 7th, 2008, 12:34 PM
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Thought I'd post since I was in our DDC and Ro just decided to come early. Here's his story:


I got home Monday afternoon (June 30th) and Tuesday morning (July 1st) at 4:50am I felt like I had to pee bad. Well it wasn't pee. My water broke. Brad immediately called 911 and our nearest hospital. While on the phone with the hospital, out came Roman at 5:15am. Brad did awesome! He was scared and freaking out but he was so strong for me. He helped deliver the baby and keep him warm until the ambulance came.
The ambulance took me to Pontiac hospital and they life flighted Roman to the NICU in Peoria. My mom and dad, who were visiting from West Virginia, went with Roman and Brad stayed with me. I had to have a D&C since the placenta wasn't fully "expelled."
Roman's lungs weren't fully formed and he was dependant on a respirator. He also had some placenta blood back flush into him and he was all red in color. The nurse also said he hasn't been moving except for twitches and involuntary movements because he's using all his energy to profuse the oxygen. Brad had to consent for a bunch of things such as blood transfusion (just incase) while I was out for the D&C and he was all worried that he did the right thing.
Brad and I were with Roman until 4am Saturday (July 5th) morning. We went back to the apartment we were staying at and got a call at 11am (Sunday July 6th)from the hospital requesting we come right away. We got up and zoomed over to the hospital (only 2 blocks away).
Dr. Hocker, the head pediatrician, was our doctor this weekend. We had a meeting with him and they found out so many things about Roman over night. He had:

-Spinal menangitis
-Blindness
-Hydrocephalus
-His brain was only firing minimal synapses (no movement was controlled, only jerky moves)
-Cerebral palsy
-His lungs were failing and he needed nitrogen pumped into his oxygen to keep O2 flowing
-His bowels weren't fully formed so they couldn't give him nutrition other than by blood because he had no way to expel it from his body (poop)
-Severe brain damage, would never have logic or reason or be able to understand or communicate
-Blood was bypassing his lungs and his body was reverting to in-utero status

Brad and I had a BIG decision to make. Did we want Ro to be in this state forever or did we want to stop life support and let our son rest after fighting SO hard?
We decided since our son would have no quality of life to disconnect the life support. We both got to hold him while he was still hooked up to the vents and we got pictures. We cried, prayed, and said our "good-byes" and told him that we would see him again in Heaven when Heavenly Father chose our time to be with him again. We then left.
My mom and dad were there and they cleaned him up, dressed him in a suit, and removed the vent. Mom was there when he passed officially. I just couldn't do it. I didn't want to let my son go. EVER. But that was being selfish of me. Roman was so tired from fighting he was on his 3rd blood transfusion of the day, and it had only been2 hours since his last 3 transfusions. He fought so hard he was using up all his white blood cells just to fight the infections, swelling, and other issues. I could just tell by looking at my son that he was so tired and he needed us to let him know it was ok to rest. He fought hard enough.


A link to his memorial site is:

http://roman-bradley.gonetoosoon.co.uk/
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August 7th, 2008, 02:14 PM
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I am so sorry for your loss. You are a wonderful mother for making such a difficult decision for your son. He knew how much he was loved.
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August 7th, 2008, 02:16 PM
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Wow..I am in tears. He was here for such a short time but grew his wings to watch over his mommy and daddy. God needed a beautiful angel that day Michelle. Thank you for sharing. He is beautiful!
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August 7th, 2008, 03:25 PM
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Thank you for sharing your birth story, Michelle. I am so very sorry for your loss!
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August 7th, 2008, 05:37 PM
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I am so sorry for your loss. ROman will always be with you guys, watching over you always, and living forever in your heart.

I saw his pictures on his memory site btw, he is very handsome!!!
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August 7th, 2008, 06:18 PM
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I am sooo sorry for your loss. Tears are running down my cheeks...... I too was a part of the Sept DDC, although I didn't post very much. I was carring twins and lost them at 20 wks.

You and your famiy are in my thoughts and prayers. Roman was absolutly beautiful, and you are a strong and loving mother to let him go.
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August 7th, 2008, 06:41 PM
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Thank you for sharing the story of your precious little angel.

You are such a strong mommy to be able to make such a hard decision.

I am so sorry Roman had to leave you.
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August 7th, 2008, 07:25 PM
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How brave of you. I'm so sorry you had to go through that. I'm sure your sweet little angel is always by your side.
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August 7th, 2008, 07:28 PM
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Your story touches my heart every time I read it. You and Brad had to make the hardest parenting decision possible and did the only think you could for little Roman. He will always be with you.
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August 8th, 2008, 05:00 AM
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I was going to say the same as above. It touches me every time plus hundreds of tears. I am so emotional with stories like this.

You are so strong hun and are a wonderful Mom to your angel

Love and prayers to you and your family
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August 8th, 2008, 07:47 AM
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Thank you for sharing Roman's story. I am so sorry for your loss. He is such a beautiful angel!
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August 8th, 2008, 08:35 AM
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Thank you for sharing your story and once again, Im very sorry for your loss.. I hope you continue to stay strong and hang in there!
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August 8th, 2008, 09:05 AM
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Thank you so much for sharing Roman's story... as heartbreaking as it is. I'm so sorry for your loss - you and your family will continue to be in my thoughts and prayers through this difficult time.

Roman is such a beautiful angel and he'll be with you always. God bless!

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August 8th, 2008, 09:19 PM
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I am so sorry for your loss You are such a strong person, thank you for sharing your story. Roman is a beautiful angel.
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August 10th, 2008, 08:28 PM
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Thank you for sharing your story with us Michelle. I am so sorry for your loss.
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August 10th, 2008, 08:57 PM
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Thank you for sharing your story! Roman is such a beautiful angel now. You and your husband are very strong people to make the decision that you had to make. One day you will see him again. Thanks, again!

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August 15th, 2008, 04:41 PM
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I am very sorry for your loss. It was a very hard decision that you and Dh had to make.
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September 18th, 2008, 02:14 PM
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I was here checking in on friends and saw your story. I just wanted to say you are an amazingly strong and brave lady. God bless your little angel xxx
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October 14th, 2008, 05:45 PM
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I think I've just cried for a half an hour for you, you are so so so strong for doing right by your baby. And one day you will get to meet him again, when it's your time. It's an honor reading stories like yours, showing me how strong mommies can be. I just hope I could be as strong as you if faced with such decisions. Thank you for your story, it's beyond inspiring.
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