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On October 5th I told Aaron that the worst thing in the world that could happen to us, would be for me to deliver our soon early and have to travel back and forth from the NICU all day long.
On friday the 10th I took Gabryel and headed up to my dads place. We love to go up there and visit Grandpa and Auntie and Uncle and cousin Tyler who is 4 months younger than Gabe. I was feeling awful and still having mild contractions. That night that I went to bed I woke up after having thrown up in my sleep! Caleb was up so high irretating my stomach. The next day Aaron came over and I was still feeling so awful, my back was hurting and I was having trouble sleeping. We all went to bed early that night. The morning of the 12th we all got up at 7:30am every last person in the house. My dad made us all toast and scrambled eggs. That day we were all going to head over to my moms house for thanksgiving dinner. After breakfast I was feeling really weird and asked Aaron to rub my shoulders on the couch. I felt a very weird warm gush in my pants - it didn't feel like my water breaking andit didn't feel like I was getting my period or anything like that. I just thought it was probably normal pregnancy discharge. At about 9am I decided to go shower and get ready for the day. I went into the washroom and began to undress.
I noticed that my dark grey panties were black from being soaked in blood. My pajamas were covered in it. I had blood running down my leg and I suddenly felt a gush of fluid that I thought was my water breaking. I opened the door and told them to call an ambulance, that I was bleeding heavily and was having a panic attack (I am very prone to panic and anxiety attacks). It felt like it took forever for the fire department to show up and even longer for the ambulance. It was 1015 ish by then I was loaded up into the ambulance.
I was so scared, I hadn't felt Caleb move since that evening. In the midst of my anxiety/panic attack I just kept saying 'he's gone he's gone my baby is gone he hasn't moved' I just looked over at gabryel and prayed that i wasnt leaving him and that my baby was ok. I was not ready to die and the entire time until the ambulance came i held his hand and kissed him
On the way to the hospital they acted so casual. I said "i don't mean to sound rude, by why arent the sirens on? I could bleed out, my baby could be dead or dying!" The rude paramedic replied " It isnt worth getting to the hospital 3 minutes faster with the sirens." My mom was immediately on her way to the hospital after she had heard what happened. The night before she dreampt that my brother had called to cancel thanksgiving. When my brother called her that morning she said " I already know what you're going to say thanksgiving is off " My brother told her what had happened and how serious it was.
Then Caleb kicked me and I was over joyed. I immediately started to feel better, but knew today was my sons birth date. I remember starting to feel strong early labor like contractions at 10:25 am while waiting to be admitted. As I was laying in the caseroom listening to Calebs heart beating away I felt another gush of blood and told the nurse. I had an internal exam and a test to see if my water had broken. It came back negative and I was not dilated at all. I thought maybe this was a random bleed and Caleb could bake longer! at about 11am they told me I would be staying until tuesday at the earliest (this was sunday). I hadn't bled in an hour and was beginning to feel like I had panicked over nothing. Calebs stats were great, I was having mild contractions but we were both ok! at this point I told aaron to go home with my mom and get some stuff I'd need and maybe get a laptop and see if theyd give me the password for the hospital network wifi.
at noon I felt a huge gush of blood just as they were bringing my lunch tray to me in the caseroom. I called the nurse, another gush of blood I was starting to panic. She went to go get the doctor. I called my mom and told her to come right back. She had JUST got home and had to turn right around. I called Aaron and the same thing, I told him I was bleeding even more now and he needed to get there.
At this point they want me to go for an ultrasound but can't let me until I have an IV incase they have to wheel me to surgery asap. Caleb is still doing fine! But now I am getting mild contractions every 3 minutes! (this would continue until surgery)
It took 5 different nurses, and then an anestheisologist(sp?) to try and get my IV in. Finally on try 18~!!@#!@#$! they got it between two fingers on my left hand. They put my in a delivery room while we waited for the scan. The on call OB brought in an U/S machine to check things out while we waited. Caleb was still doiing perfectly, I was still contracting and bleeding. The quick U/S showed nothing. Now I was brought down to the scan room at 3pm. They started the scan. Every time she would put the wand on my stomach I would feel another gush of blood. After about 6 more gushes the nurse fianlly checked and said it felt worse than it looked but would recheck me upstairs in better light.
They found NO issues in the scan. It was over at 4pm it was VERY long. I asked the tech to make sure he was still a boy and he was I convinced my nurse to play a trick on aaron and my mom who were waiting outside to tell them it was actually a girl! We never had a pic of the money shot before. They both fell for it but I couldnt keep a straight face. All this time I had had at least 10 gushes of blood.
We get back to my room upstairs and thenurse checks the drop sheet below me. She looks scared. When she lifted it up the whole thing was red. She said it looked much worse up here then it did down here and left immediately to get the doctor. I dont know where time goes at this point
I am constantly bleeding having the drop sheet changed every 5 minutes or so. They've done bloodwork all day showing my hemoglobin dropping more and more. I start to feel faint and think we might actually both die. its now 5:30 when a patient care coordinator comes from the NICU to talk to me. She really didnt say much... actually.. just let me talk. Then i signed the release forms because we had decided on a csection. Real labor was kicking in now and my contractions were strong!
I was in the operating room at 6:40. I got the spinal and at first I hated the feeling. it felt awful to want to move my toes and have no control. Then i started to feel warm and nice. At 7pm Aaron came in and I felt better right away. but I had started to shake because of the spinal. at about 7:10 I asked "Have you started?" and the drs replied "I'm almost done!, I just wish once someone would ask and I could be like TADA here's your baby!" at 7:17 Caleb was born! and he was screaming!!! There was a team of specialists who were there to way and ##### him. They coatedhis lungs with something tohelp him breathe. Off he and Aaron went to the NICU. I got to see him for a split second.
Then the doctors started talking about what a mess my womb was. Apparently there were chunks of coagulated old blood HUGE chunks in there, leading them to believe I had been bleeding awhile. Also they said that my placenta was detaching, but it looked as though it had actually never attached properly.
By 8 I was all stitched up and headed to recovery, they told me I could leave when I could move my legs. I was so tired and itchy from the spinal so they gave me some benadryl. everytime i woke up in recovery id itch my nose 9the next day it was red and raw!!" at 10pm i was awake and could move my legs so they took me to see my baby for a quick sec! he was gorgeous, no breathing machines nothing.
I saw MIL come running in crying and just thankful we were all ok. So upstairs I went to my room! as soon as I got there I threw up twice haha.. I was so out of it thenurses were so sweet. It was just water.
Just as soon as I finished throwing up in walk Aaron and his twin brother. I was so out of it I told them I was wolverine from xmen because i was doign so well.
The next day I was up and walking around like nothing had happened! I went to see my baby and found out he was having an awful time, his tummy was so bloated from swallowing so much of my blood. He pooed out old blood of mine for 9 days!
any ways this is extremely long and theres the jist of my birth experience
i just wanted to add, healing from abdomen stitches SO much easier than episotomy stitches!!!
Last edited by meggiesaurus; October 7th, 2009 at 01:43 PM.
I can't imagine what this would be like to go through and I admire you and your family's strength through all of it. I am so elated that baby Caleb is doing so well, and that you came out unscathed. You are a strong momma and your little boy has apparently taken after you.