I can only tell you what I have experienced so far. Our first appt was May 1st. We consulted and talked about why we were even talking about IVF and what our chances for success is. Since then we have decided to m move forward with IVF and have started doing all the testing that you have dto do prior to IVF. B/W for both DH and I. DH also has to do a cryopreservation sometime this week to freeze just in case that something would happen that he couldn't give a "sample" the day of the ER. That is all the pre-IVF work that has to be done. Then we start BCP on or around June 21st- when AF shows.
I'm not sure if that helped or not. If you would like more info I would suggest posting in the main forum- that's where most everyone posts and respondes!
Good luck and keep us posted!