[My Name Is Carol]

So. I have never had an outstanding relationship with my mother, we're more like oil & water than anything. When we discovered we'd have to go through IVF, all I heard was her running her mouth. Then, when it was time for the medicine, I had to call her to borrow her credit card ($1869) to pay for it or else they wouldn't deliver it. (that was my copay thru ins) All I have heard since the day after I used her card is, when am I going to get my money? It's been all about the money. Never how are you doing, emotionally or mentally, how are your shots going, can I do anything to help you out..Nothing. Just when am I going to get my money. I had the money until I paid $1000 towards my account at the dr's office, so I had no choice but to borrow it from her. My dr's office sent me a check today for $738.23 so I texted her & told her that I had that for her & to come by today to pick it up. How about, she texts me back and says where's the $1000 you said you'd give me up front? Then she calls me. & is just running her mouth like I'm not going to pay her at all. & that I lied to her about giving her $1000 in the first place. (my dr's office used $261.77 as my 20% each time I went until my ins picked up at 100%)
Now. Keep in mind. She never called me on the day of my ER to see how I was doing. She emailed me via Facebook. The day of the transfer, she didn't even call to see how it went or anything. I'm to the point where if this works, I don't want her around. All I have needed is motherly support this whole time, I needed my mama, & all she was/is worried about is this dang money I owe her. UGHHHHH I'm already stressed out & a nervous wreck & all she is doing is adding to my stress. I so don't need this.

[LindseyE117]

I am sooooo sorry! I can completely understand where you are coming from, except mine is coming from my sister. I stopped talking to my mother for other reasons months ago.

My sister and I are finally close after not being so our whole childhood. She was always cruel to me and has finally seen the light after having kids of her own and growing up. We are now closer than we have ever been. With that being said, she has NEVER approved of James and I trying to have a baby together. He adopted my 2children from a previous relationship, and she thinks that it should be "enough" for us. Try as I may, I cannot fully convince her why we want a child together. I was told that my miscarriage last year was a sign from God that we shouldn't have a child together. That everything "happens for a reason." I bit my tongue and ignored her. I know she "thinks" she is doing well and protecting us from debt and what not, but she just doesn't get how much it hurts. When I was upset after my hubby's SA results, she told me that now maybe I should take all the signs from God and move on. I haven't told her yet about our decision to do IVF because I would get an ear full if she found out we are finacing it. No one else in our family knows. In fact, only the girls on here know.

So with that being said, I am so sorry. There is really nothing I can say to make you feel better other than I know how you feel about family not being supportive. You are not alone, and I am here if you want to talk. Keep your head high girl and keep those positive thoughts.