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April 22nd, 2013, 10:18 PM
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I am trying to figure out how to process logically and emotionally.
I thought if ivf was put on the table it would be the *only* option (okay, i never thought it would come to this- who does?). But it's not really. I could in theory keep going and hope it works until they say 'no more' IUIs. But I am on IUI #7 and when do you say enough is enough? I think they reset me after my last m/c with IUI #4 which I know is normal but I am 36yo now... Do I have time to do a bunch more?
And honestly DH and I am really running out of steam and emotional energy. Its hurting our lives. Our marriage is fine but we are both depressed more than not

So how did you come to ivf? How did you come to terms with it?
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April 22nd, 2013, 10:54 PM
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Hi Lucy! For me IVF was a pretty easy decision. We went and saw our RE for the first time in December 2012, I had already tried clomid that wasn't monitored and had the HSG done with my OB. Everything with me looked good and there were no real issues with the SA either so the OB suggested a fertility specialist; it had been 2 years of trying.

When we met with the RE he did an u/s and discovered my left ovary was "stuck" to my uterus, this made him think endometriosis. He suggested a laproscopy and hysteroscopy which we did and got more news of everything looked good and there wasn't enough endo for it to even be diagnosed. He pretty much just said he thought there was a problem with the sperm and egg getting together. He pretty much laid out the options of IUI and IVF and told us the costs of both and left it up to us to decide what we wanted to do.

We live 3 hours from our RE, we considered one IUI but decided that our odds were much better doing IVF. After 3-4 IUIs we could almost pay for an IVF cycle (everything for us is out of pocket for IF), and the way my RE explained it you only have about 20% chance of pregnancy with IUI. Basically the same as a "normal" couple. Plus all the driving for monitoring was going to add up as well.

That being said I'm really glad we did IVF because when they did fertilize the eggs they didn't to that great. I got 25 eggs, 10 were left to fertilize natually 5 did and one made it to day 3 for transfer. The rest they did ICSI onand eight fertilized, two divided correctly for day 3 transfer. 4 of the other "caught up" and were frozen and we transfered the 3 that were 8 cells on day 3.

I'm now 8 1/2 weeks pregnant! I hope this makes sense and wasn't too much unnecessary info. BTW, I'm 28. Good Luck to you, I hope you get your BFP very soon!!!
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April 23rd, 2013, 10:39 AM
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Hi Lucy!

For us, IVF was our *only* option. I have blocked tubes, low ovarian reserve & weak eggs and DH has sperm issues (I don't know the technical term... they're there... they just need a little help), but mostly because of my issues is why we went with IVF. For a biological child, it was our only option.

It didn't take a lot of convincing because both of us wanted to try this before going in another direction (i.e. adoption, which I'm very open towards).

BTW, I'm 7 1/2 weeks pregnant with our first, and this was our first attempt. I know how rare that is, but I just wanted to share an IVF success story.

Good luck!
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DH: 35, all cleared
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July 2012 - HSG exam; blocked tubes
July 2012 - possible male infertility due to chemo & radiation treatment
August 2012: DH had his testosterone levels checked; low, will recheck in December
December 2012 - test for DH's sperm ** SWIMMERS, YAY!**
February 2013 - IVF consult
February 25, 2013 - sonohysterogram & mock transfer ** ALL CLEARED FOR IVF PROCEDURE **
March 6, 2013 - bloodwork & u/s, start Lupron injections - 10units
March 8, 2013 - start Gonal-F injections (300u), lupron (10units)
March 11, 2013 - bloodwork, u/s, Estrogen: 220, Lupron, Gonal-F, Menopur
March 13, 2013 - Left ovary (3 follicles), Right ovary (5 follicles), bloodwork, u/s, Estrogen: 519, Lupron, Gonal -F, Menopur
March 15, 2013 - bloodwork, u/s, Estrogen: 1305, follies growing, Lupron, Gonal - F, Menopur
March 19, 2013 - Retrieval!! 8 eggs
March 24, 2013 - Embryo Transfer; put back 3 embryos (1 blastocyst stage, 2 morula stage)

April 3, 2013 - beta #1 - 101!
April 5, 2013 - beta #2 - 307!
April 8, 2013 - beta #3 - 1,387!!
April 10, 2013 - beta #4 - 3104! - 1st u/s Friday!

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April 23rd, 2013, 10:39 AM
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Hi Lucy!

For us, IVF was our *only* option. I have blocked tubes, low ovarian reserve & weak eggs and DH has sperm issues (I don't know the technical term... they're there... they just need a little help), but mostly because of my issues is why we went with IVF. For a biological child, it was our only option.

It didn't take a lot of convincing because both of us wanted to try this before going in another direction (i.e. adoption, which I'm very open towards).

BTW, I'm 7 1/2 weeks pregnant with our first, and this was our first attempt. I know how rare that is, but I just wanted to share an IVF success story.

Good luck!
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Brooke: 31, blocked tubes, diminished ovarian reserve, weak eggs
DH: 35, all cleared
TTC: January 2012


July 2012 - HSG exam; blocked tubes
July 2012 - possible male infertility due to chemo & radiation treatment
August 2012: DH had his testosterone levels checked; low, will recheck in December
December 2012 - test for DH's sperm ** SWIMMERS, YAY!**
February 2013 - IVF consult
February 25, 2013 - sonohysterogram & mock transfer ** ALL CLEARED FOR IVF PROCEDURE **
March 6, 2013 - bloodwork & u/s, start Lupron injections - 10units
March 8, 2013 - start Gonal-F injections (300u), lupron (10units)
March 11, 2013 - bloodwork, u/s, Estrogen: 220, Lupron, Gonal-F, Menopur
March 13, 2013 - Left ovary (3 follicles), Right ovary (5 follicles), bloodwork, u/s, Estrogen: 519, Lupron, Gonal -F, Menopur
March 15, 2013 - bloodwork, u/s, Estrogen: 1305, follies growing, Lupron, Gonal - F, Menopur
March 19, 2013 - Retrieval!! 8 eggs
March 24, 2013 - Embryo Transfer; put back 3 embryos (1 blastocyst stage, 2 morula stage)

April 3, 2013 - beta #1 - 101!
April 5, 2013 - beta #2 - 307!
April 8, 2013 - beta #3 - 1,387!!
April 10, 2013 - beta #4 - 3104! - 1st u/s Friday!

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April 23rd, 2013, 11:16 AM
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When I met my husband, we fell instantly head over heals for each other. I was 25, he 33. He had been recently divorced, and had a vasectomy 3 years prior to us meeting, he had a son in his previous relationship, but his ex was not interested in anymore kids after that. When we got really serious, I had asked him if he wanted another child, letting him know that I had always wanted to be Mom and if there was going to be a future for us, it was something I knew I had to address right then. He said he did, and after saving enough money to do a reversal, we went through with it, only to find out the original vasectomy had left damage to the right side so that they could not reconnect it leaving only the left, which turns out had developed a blockage. Sooo, long story not so short We have now saved enough money to go forward with IVF (only enough $ for one cycle). I am not so much scared of it, as I am ready to jump in and stop thinking about it...I am so tired of thinking about it! I am (as I am guessing most of you other ladies are...) SURROUNDED by pregnant women, baby showers and questions..."so when are you going to be a Mom?" All innocent and all with good intention, and I am very happy for those ladies who can do it naturally...but I would be lying if I said it doesn't hurt a little. BUT I knew going into this relationship it would not be easy for us. And he is so worth it, and must be he thinks I am to do all that he has....it has brought us closer. And right now, as we start the IVF process, I keep telling myself: This is our story and we're sticking to it. It has made us stronger by making us vunerable. And I am using that as I begin this journey, knowing that it is all a game of chance, but at least I am giving it all I have....it is all I have ever wanted.
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April 25th, 2013, 02:33 AM
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I am really trying to process but it;s so hard with emotion so mixed in.
I feel like maybe we are jumping the gun and should wait more cycles like the IVF clinic said... But then during the dark days it feels like I can't make it one more day much less a few more IUIs.
I dont know. I just dont want to look back if it doesn't work and tell myself we should have exhausted everything else first.
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April 25th, 2013, 07:13 PM
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Hi Lucy. Our decision came pretty easy too. DH and I have been dating since 99 (I was 17, him 20), and have been married since 2011. We tried for about 8 years before seeing an infertility specialist, which happens to be my OB/GYN. We tried clomid for over a year, and also had an HSG which should a blocked left tube. I had an laparoscopy that revealed a lot of scar tissue on both ovaries and tubes. I had a second lap to remove scar tissue and my left tube.

We were told that IUI would be as successful as a normal cycle. Basically, in an IUI, all they do is put the sperm closer to where your eggs come out of the tube. If the egg and sperm don't fertilize, then you don't get pregnant.

We decided to do IVF, since our chances of success were better. Plus, my insurance covers 50% for both IUI and IVF. We didn't want to waste anymore time, since I'm 31 and DH is 34. Not to scare you, but research shows that women's eggs deteriorate with age, and by the time they close in to age 40, they are diminished. If you feel that you are ready for IVF and really want the highest chance at conceiving a biological child, then go for it. There are programs out there in which you can use donor eggs in case your own cant be used, so it's certainly not over when you are over 35.

For us. We've both always wanted to be a parents, so it's been a pretty easy decision for both of us. We feel like we are at a good point in our lives to start our family, and didn't want to waste any time. I'm finished with school, we both have a stable, secure job, and we have a nice home. Plus, I have a great work schedule - I work from home everyday and only have to commute in the office on Mondays (I'm a federal employee).

I hope you are able to get the answers you are looking for. Good luck to you!
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April 26th, 2013, 12:43 AM
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DH and I had been together 12 years and married for 7 when we started TTC. After a little over 2 years, a lap, an HSG, every test under the sun, and 6 failed IUIs we had never seen a BFP. I was 28, he was 30, and insurance didn't cover IUI or IVF. We had to decide what was next.

My RE did not push us into IVF at all...he said we could try injectables with IUI, or even just give it time and see what happened since we had no diagnosis.

Injectables scared us. The lack of control over multiples was too much for us, plus after a few rounds of injectables we could have paid for an IVF cycle, which was much better odds.

We didn't try as long as some or have as many roadblocks, but we felt like we needed answers. A lot of times IVF can help identify issues, and since we didn't have a diagnosis, we wanted answers (we still don't have any, but oh well). We also really needed to know what the rest of our lives would look like. Adoption wasn't something we felt was for us, so if we were going to live a childless life, I wanted to know sooner rather than later. We were ready and willing to jump into IVF with both feet at that point...so we did.

I always thought IVF was a "last resort" option, too, and that we'd only do it if forced into it, but I realized it didn't have to be that way. It is okay to choose to be aggressive and go after IF with guns blazing if you are ready!
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April 26th, 2013, 08:08 AM
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Lucy - we had a 1% change of conceiving on our own each month. IUI only made it a 20% chance you add the injectables in there and it's was only a 25% chance.

After paying for 3 rounds of injectalbes with IUI that was the same cost for IVF which would give us a 45% chance. We couldn't see spending the money on a 25% chance when we needed to make our odds the best with the 45% chance option.

Having a plan that we both agreed on and sticking to it was what made us a team in this and to not exhaust our resources on such a low chance.
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Cycles 1-6 = BFN
Cycle 7 SA results abnormal morphology 2%, 50 mg clomid = BFN
Cycle 8 sonogram normal 50 mg clomid + trigger = BFN
Cycle 9 SA results abnormal morphology and motility. Count 200 mill, 100mg clomid + trigger = BFN
Cycle 10 natural = BFN
Cycle 11 hsg tubes clear, natural + trigger+IUI = BFN
Cycle 12 repronex + trigger + 2 IUI = BFN
Cycle 13 natural ovaries to stimulated for more meds = BFN
Cycle 14-22 natural cycle with Acupuncture and planning ivf/icsi/DE = ALL BFN
Cycle 23 Clomid 50 mg & Progesterone = BFN
Cycle 24 Natural = BFN
Cycle 25 BCP, SA result 7% morphology = BFN
Cycle 26 BCP and Lupron preparing for IVF
Cycle 27 IVF Acupuncture, DE Retrieval April 7, Transfer April 12 =
7 eggs retrieved, 3 fertilized, 2 transferred - zero snow babies
BETA # 1 16DPO or 11dp5dt = 569
BETA # 2 19 DPO or 14dp5dt = 1078
BETA # 3 22DPO or 17dp5dt = 2414 TWINS!
BETA # 4 30DPO or 25dp5dt = 12,685 6weeks 3days 2 heartbeats! 114 & 116
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April 27th, 2013, 01:12 AM
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Melissa- wow, thank you again. I think I needed to hear that.

Gretchen- the only thing stopping me is that our IUIs are so inexpensive but they frustrate the hell out of me and I just dont have faith they will even work.

I keep going back and forth but at one point Melissa said she never regretted it and when I look at the big picture, I dont think money will be a big regret esp. if it works.
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Money really is that annoying key factor. I was only joking in my other post to you about "it's only money". I've been freaking out lately because now we have none! LOL

I cringe at how little savings we have (UM, NOTHING!) and how much we have spent on TTC (over 60k). It makes me want to cry that we have no ins coverage, that it is so expensive and that I'm trying to save up enough to remodel a room and purchase a new bedroom set for Mallory. We need a new roof on the house and soon we'll need newer cars, but I know we'll figure it all out. Because our goal has been met. And we are very much thankfully pregnant. I just wonder all the time if those women that get pg easily know REALLY how very lucky they are.

There is always going to be other things to spend your money on. But I don't think most of those things will make you as happy as a child
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TOTALLY agree with Leah...we had coverage for diagnostics, but not IUI or IVF so all of that was out of pocket. Money is HUGE, but in the grand scheme of things it isn't. 20 years from now would we rather have a fat retirement fund, or a family? Even if it didn't work, we would have been really sad if we let money stand between us and the chance at a family.

We don't have brand new cars in the garage, we don't take fancy vacations, and our kids don't toddle around in Ralph Lauren clothes...but none of that stuff really matters anyway. We are WAY behind where we wanted to be with our retirement fund, but oh well...we're deliriously happy with our choices
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I totally keep thinking the same thing...
Dh needs a new car and we need new floors OR a baby? hmmmm LOL!
I keep hoping we will get pg in the next couple cycles so I don't have to spend the money... But I am just not feeling the IUIs right now and I think we need to stop waiting before I get older.
I made an appointment with a new IVF clinic and thats on June 10th (DH 40 b-day)!
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I agree with Leah. Even though its money spent (and a large amount) you will regret your decision later on in life it you didn't at least try. Money comes and money goes... That's life. It's just so sad and frustrating that it has to be spent on TTC. Fortunately for us, ins pays 50%. We didn't have to make hard decisions on what's more important. We both have vehicles that run... Both are paid for... And we are lucky we don't own a home. Although, we rent my parents house (they live in a different state) and we still do all the upkeep of the home to help my parents out, so we still have that "homeowners expense". We didn't take from our retirement funds, and we still continue to put money in it. We just save a larger amount every payday to help pay for this. Plus we financed the first IVF cycle, so that's a monthly payment for 3 years. Even though some weeks are tough to get by, we make it.

Once you have a baby in your arms, the money is no longer an issue. We always figure out how to make things work, both mentally, emotionally, and financially. We are women and that's what we do!

I think you made the right decision to meet with an IVF clinic, and glad to see you are moving forward! Good luck to you and praying you get a BFP soon!
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You can get newer cars and new floors anytime. You can't always do IVF. It's better to be a mommy & daddy then any other thing you can purchase with the money. We have the rest of our life to make more money.

DH paid cash for ours. I kept saying if this doesn't work how devastating it will be and how sad I will be if he spend all our money and have no cushing now. He said the money is for IVF and IVF only. We can't control if it works or not. Our relationship got better/stronger and our faith grew deeper, so even if this didn't work we still would have gotten something out of it.

So you need to be with RE you trust because if it doesn't work you need to feel confident in your decision with that RE. IVF is going to be your best odds. I think in our IVF March/April more then half of us got our BFP and are still pregnant.
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Cycles 1-6 = BFN
Cycle 7 SA results abnormal morphology 2%, 50 mg clomid = BFN
Cycle 8 sonogram normal 50 mg clomid + trigger = BFN
Cycle 9 SA results abnormal morphology and motility. Count 200 mill, 100mg clomid + trigger = BFN
Cycle 10 natural = BFN
Cycle 11 hsg tubes clear, natural + trigger+IUI = BFN
Cycle 12 repronex + trigger + 2 IUI = BFN
Cycle 13 natural ovaries to stimulated for more meds = BFN
Cycle 14-22 natural cycle with Acupuncture and planning ivf/icsi/DE = ALL BFN
Cycle 23 Clomid 50 mg & Progesterone = BFN
Cycle 24 Natural = BFN
Cycle 25 BCP, SA result 7% morphology = BFN
Cycle 26 BCP and Lupron preparing for IVF
Cycle 27 IVF Acupuncture, DE Retrieval April 7, Transfer April 12 =
7 eggs retrieved, 3 fertilized, 2 transferred - zero snow babies
BETA # 1 16DPO or 11dp5dt = 569
BETA # 2 19 DPO or 14dp5dt = 1078
BETA # 3 22DPO or 17dp5dt = 2414 TWINS!
BETA # 4 30DPO or 25dp5dt = 12,685 6weeks 3days 2 heartbeats! 114 & 116
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Sorry this is an old thread but I agree with the other girls. We've been extreme savers for 2-3 years now and it's changed our lives. Once I stopped lusting after Pottery Barn, I could focus on what really matters - creating our family! I haven't been to the mall in years. We shop at thrift stores and Craigslist or not at all. Bottom line: you can get by with a lot less money than you think, especially once you stop caring about keeping up with the Joneses. Now we wear our frugality like a badge of honor. So I would say, so long as you have faith in your RE, go for it.
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At my REs office they have a saying on the wall.

"The best things in life aren't things" and then pictures of adorable babies around it. They are post cards and pictures from the families that he has helped get pregnant. We can not compare children to earthly "things". Because in the end, we will not have our fancy cars, or huge houses, or hard wood floors with us, it will be our families. And it doesn't matter how we get them here, if we spend $1,000 or $100,000 to get them, they will be ours forever!

We teadered back and forth with adoption and IVF for a few months, after 8 years of trying, multiple multiple failed IUIs (I'm talking in the 10+) my OB finally had to tell me enough is enough and that we were waiting out money on the little ways of trying. He recommended us to an RE in Sandy, we went and saw him but I just didn't feel right about it. So we put it off, tried adoption and had three fall through. So we went back to searching for a clinic. We found our clinic early last year, but for some reason I played gun shy and held onto his number for 6 months. It was a money issue, but between the two options, adoption and IVF money is an issue. Last August my sister from Canada came to visit, her and her husband took me and my husband out to dinner and flat out told us we needed to have kids. Okay, we were working on that! Lol. And they offered to help us pay for half of the IVF cycle. We were blown away! So we took the rest of the year and saved up everything we could, we were blessed because my hubby received a huge bonus from work and it literally got us to the half way point where we could cover our half and be good. Long story short, our fresh cycle didn't work, heart broken. And two months ago when we were visiting family in Mexico my hubby again received a mile stone bonus from work and we were able to cover the entire cost ourself for the FET. With money to spare! We have a plan. If these two embies we transferred last week do not stick, they we will feel comfortable with moving on to adoption. I didn't want to stop trying until I knew that we weren't going to get pregnant. I wouldn't be able to do the medication again, it was just really hard on me, emotionally and physically. But I feel a TON better this time a found, and I have started referencing to hubby, "us" as in me and baby(ies) like something or don't like something. "Babies are makin me hot, cranky, one babies likes this the other doesn't" talking more positively about it this time around has really calmed me down. Having a backup plan is helping too. Having faith never fails either. And I have faith that I will bring forth children in this life time, as will you ladies on this board!

GL and keep your head up!

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