[kl_life]

Hi girls ~
Well I just wanted to say good luck to all of you who are working on losing weight or just even making some better choices. I know you have it in you all to do good!!

Today at church a lady that I talk to sometimes in passing came up to me to say hi - then looks at me and smiles - points to my stomach and says "when are you due". I tried to hide how much this upset me, holding back the tears I simply said "im not pregnant". her apology really didn't mean anything to me - at that point i was numb.

I'm sure you may not know as I don't really know any of you girls real well...but I've been really struggling with my weight, it's affecting me in soo many ways, more so mentally/emotionally than anything. I have been battling some depression because of it and I need to take some time away to get focused....pull myself together. After what I went through today and the emotions that it brought over me I just can't stand the thought of having to go through that again.

I don't know how long I'll be gone. I wish you all well. If I can I'll try to pop in from time to time to see how everyone is doing. Hopefully I'll have some great news to share with you when I'm ready to come back.

Take care,
Kari

[Mod-LadyCoconut]

Aw Kari! I am so so SO sorry! What a rude woman! It is NEVER acceptable to ask a stranger when they're due unless they have a child crawling out of their crotch and a shirt on that says "I'M PREGNANT!" I'm really sorry, I can only imagine how much that hurt. I know I eat my feelings and if that happened to me I would probably be really depressed and start eating and then feel even worse... so maybe head to the gym and hti a punching bag pretending it's her? Weight loss is a struggle EVERY day but you WILL get to where you want to be, it will just take hard work and dedication. Don't let this set you back.. you've been doing great and you just ordered your new swimsuit for those water aerobics classes... hang in there! You don't want to be in this same situation 3 months from now wishing you'd done something more now. I keep thinking about how I could be like 20 pounds lighter if I'd just really COMMITTED myself in January when we started this journey together.

I can relate with feeling depressed and emotional over it b/c it's really gotten to me lately too. But I feel so much better going to bed at night when I've had a good day and controlled myself and exercised. It's worth it... I just need to remember that feeling, and combine that with NOT wanting to ever feel so bad again about my body... and just DO IT.

I hope you stick around. If you need to take some focus off the pressure of losing weight for a little while on JM at least, just stick around to WTTC. Please? :bats eyelashes:

I'm sorry Kari! That is TERRIBLE. I have days where I feel terrible too, and I HATE feeling pressured to lose weight because it's hard for me, but please stick around with us!

[lupti]

I am so sorry, Kari.. What a horrible and rude woman! Hugs to you...take the time u need and know we are here to support you!

[~*sierra*~]

Kari sweetie! *hugs* some people have zero manners....
just know that I think you are beautiful, and i hope that you get some inner peace by taking some time for yourself.

You're always welcome around here in the future of course! we luv u!

[soImarriedAnerd]

I am a rude b*tch I have done that once before....words don't even describe how bad i felt-and I relive it every time i hear of the situation. I know don't ever ask anyone anymore because it effected me so bad.

You take what ever time you need and feel free to come back when ever you like. But try not to lose focus on why your trying to lose weight----to have the healthiest pregnancy you can......your being a strong "mom" already by making sacrifices to give your children the best......and hun----that is one of the many things that shows how much of a wonderful mom your going to be!
PS-
If you do shannon's suggestion of the punching bag take off your rings LOL (thats how i broke my wedding ring!-i was really into the punching while thinking of someone!)

I know this is an older post, but I am just now reading it. I have two things to say.

1. I did that once. I asked a cashier at Wal-Mart when she was due when I was pg with Bryce. She, like you, simply said "I am not pregnant!" I felt mortified. I will NEVER forget it and I will never do it again! Now, someone has to actually tell me "I AM PREGNANT" before I will even assume they are. I am sure that hurt your feelings like nothing else, but please know that I am sure she was very upset by having asked you that too. Especially since she knows you and sees you regularly.

2. I gain weight in my belly. My mom is 58 and looks 9 mos pregnant. I have also been asked if I was pg - but it was right after I had my youngest son. I fully know the struggle that you are talking about. I have gotten so depressed over my weight before. I yo yo too. I was 105 pounds (5' 6" tall) when I got pg with Bryce. At my biggest, I have been 179 pounds and NOT pregnant! Right now, I am about 145 or so. I really go up and down and it really sucks!

Keep your head up and know that you are a beautiful girl inside and out. I have not seen your whole body, but in your siggy, you have a beautiful face - with a bright and happy smile. And you have a husband who loves and adores you. And friends here...when you need us!

((((hug))))

[Kiwi]

Oh hon, I'm so sorry about what that women said. I was standing next to my mother one day when she asked a lady when she was due - and she wasn't pregnant either. Mum was so humiliated and felt terrible for so long afterwards.

I totally ditto what Rebecca said above - you are such a beautiful girl, inside and out, and I know that so many of the ladies here appreciate your support so I really hope you decide to continue posting here.

Last week I went to my sisters graduation and they had this amazing speaker, who got up and said to all the graduates, that they would be told, over the course of their careers, they are not good enough, or won't succeed or wont achieve what they set out to achieve etc. But that every time someone told them that, they had to want whatever it was even more and work even harder for it.

I can't imagine how much those words hurt you, but please don't let this get you down. Just allow it to make you want to lose weight even more and work even harder for it. Everyone in this board is here to support you and give you works of encouragement when you need it as we all have things about our bodies that we are unhappy with and we are all here to change those things together!!

Big hugs xx