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I posted this status on FB last night: just got done with the 30 Day Shred again. I really hope I can stick with this and that it all pays off eventually!
And one of my friends commented that I'm "one skinny chick to be worrying about her weight all the time". I'm not sure how to take that! I guess I see it as being focused and driven to have a body that I'm proud of. I'm not starving myself (by any means) and I'm not working out for hours on end. And just because I'm in the 130s doesn't mean that I'm "skinny". I have a decent amount of extra belly fat and that's not healthy. And I have a lot of toning to do.
One thing though...the friend that made the comment is a little on the heavy side. Right now she's pregnant, but she's put on quite a bit of weight since high school and since having her first child. So I don't know...I hope I'm not making people feel bad because that's not what I'm going for by posting on FB. I just like getting extra encouragement from my friends.
Has anyone else experienced anything like this? People being less than supportive?
I noticed that comment on your FB, Kelly and even though I don't know the person, it did rub me the wrong way too. Everyone's body type is different and what I think is skinny may not be skinny for somebody else of a completely different shape/height/etc.
I don't consider you to be somebody who worries about her weight. We all want to improve ourselves and try our best, and when we do succeed or need a little extra motivation, I think it's great to post about it. From what you told us, it sounds like she may have some insecurities or jealousy, I don't know. Just keep doing what you're doing, hun!
Even if you are super skinny, it helps to keep in shape and work out. That's just common sense. Don't take it to personally, maybe she was trying to be nice, or maybe she's just a little insecure. I put on weight after Keller was born and I am SUPER insecure too, but it doesn't mean other people (skinnier people even) don't have the same insecurities.
I think that some people get attitudes like that because it almost excuses their lack of motivation. Like there's something wrong with you if you do want to work at it instead of sitting back and letting whatever happens happen, which is easier.
I don't doubt that she's probably feeling pretty insecure about herself, too. But just because you don't have as much to loose as her doesn't give her the right to bag on you for it. You should be proud of yourself and you should keep working at it.
I know how you feel. i constantly get criticized for trying to lose weight. I guess i dont look like i weigh as much as i do, and i know there is nothing wrong with weighing 140, but im just not happy there, i want to have my pre preggo body back, and i dont think there is anything wrong with wanting that.
Im guessing she is more on the insecure side, or just trying to make you feel better by telling you how great you already look. Everyones perceptions on what the "perfect" body is completely different.