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Did any of you ladies have your stepkids (stepkids that don't live with you....that visit every other weekend) visit you and your new baby in hospital after you delivered/ or if you are pregnant will you allow steps to visit?
The hospital says that siblings are allowed to visit because they live in same household.....but what about stepkids that don't live with you? My stepson is sick a lot........my fear is him giving germs to baby. do you think it's safe to have stepkid that doesn't live with you visit in hospital and hold your newborn baby?
Any thoughts would be appreciated.......thanks.
Benjamin Patrick was born on January 26, 2006 at 6:31 PM! 7 lbs. 11.4 oz. 20 1/2"
April 6, 2006 will be our 4th Wedding Anniversary!
My stepkids live with us but they did come to the hospital to see their baby sister. I just try to get them to not kiss her face or breathe on her up close since they keep getting sick from school. But they are so eager to help out with the baby!
I think it is very important that you include your stepchildren just as much as you would your own children. As long as the child isn't sick then I don't see what the problem would be. I understand we have to be careful about germs around newborns. But... the family friend or relative that holds the baby right befor the stepson comes in may have just as many germs as the boy..
Try to include them just as much as possible. They need to feel important and not left out as well. Just my opinion!
Proud Mommy to Jackson (5/1/03) & Isabella (6/16/06)
My SD that doesnt live with us didnt come to the hospital. If she could have, she was definatley welcome. DD was born in the middle of the week.
I agree with including the step kids as much as possible. I made everybody wash their hands before holding my new baby. It's already a huge adjustment adding a baby, you dont want them to feel jealous or resentful of the baby.
My hubs went and got stepdaughter to come to the hospital with our two.
As long as he washes his hands and cover his mouth if he coughs than bub will be fine.
Germs are a part of life, you can't protect them from it and it help to build immunity. Don't stress. Once stepson is there and holding bub...all your thoughts about germs will fly out the window. Kids need to bond with their siblings just as mich as mum and dad do