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I am Felicia 23 and have two kids they both have different dads, but my soon to be exhusband was there throught the whole pregnancy with my daughter and he has taken care of her since she was born. Well now I am dating again and he has kids of his own. He has a similar situation. He has 3 daughters, but only 1 is bio. We live in Ventura,ca and they live in San Diego so I have not met them yet. He is Navy and on shore duty up here for 2 more years. After that is up he has intentions of trying to get sea duty in SD and I am unsure how to go about the girls. I will meet them in the next month or two, but he wants to wait because their mom just rushed into a marriage and they have enough going on already. When we start getting them I am afraid of overstepping my boundries and causing problems. I hace never been with someone that had kids before so this all confuses me. ANy help or advice would be great.
Welcome to the board. Sounds like you have lots going on.
My name is Chantelle, I am one of the co-hosts here on Blended Families. I have a son from a previous relationship. My DH has a son from a previous marriage. Together DH & I had 2 son's, total 4 boys, aren't I overwhelmed? Lol... so I am both a bio & step mom. Also, my DS from my first relationship is expecting twin siblings (bro & sis) any day now from his dad's side. Really messed up Brady Bunch. "Here's a Story .... of a messed up Family...." (j/k)
My biggest advice. Take it slow. Don't try to hard. Don't tell them what to do or how to do it, let the dad do that. Make the first meeting a short one that is not in a isolated area, do it at a park where there are lots of other kids like a social setting. Every meeting, make it a half an hour longer, that way you slowly get them into the situation. Diving in full force will make things way too hard on everyone.
I'd give you more info but at this point it's too soon to go there. Just take it one step at a time. And again, don't go in w/ all these high expectations either. Don't go baring gifts like Santa. Just be yourself & let things happen naturally. They will.
Hope that helps some & we've all been there & done that, a great group of gals on this site. So ask anything, we can pretty much lend a hand.